I think the incident shown today is Runjhun making Guddu aware of what he did to her when she was forced by Kalsanwali and Vishnu Pandey to get an FIR made against him, sending him to jail.  It started a series of awful-to-watch episodes with the engagement to Abhigyan and ending with Abhigyan breaking the engagement and leaving town.  She was forced, he was unaware, he went off the deep end and made her life miserable.

Edited by gardes - 25 April 2011 at 10:53am

Such weighted questions...there is an answer lurking somewhere in me...and I will respond soon, I promise...

Wafah, I wish I had waited and added quotes that got me thinking about today's episode.  The quotes may have made the questions less abstract.  I will add them later.

INtresting questions..

Okay I'm back and I will answer this to the best of my understanding...

My thoughts match up well with Wafah here so I'll try not to repeat stuff.

The main thing I was about to talk about is whether Guddu's anger is justified.  I think we're supposed to assume that Guddu is mad because Kalsonwali messed with his food.  I really don't think that's the reason behind his anger.  If you recall, when Guddu overheard Kalsonwali telling Vishnu about how she was the culprit, the first thing he reacted too was the statement that she was doing something to destroy Runjhun and Guddu's relationship.  Maybe Guddu thinks he is acting out against the food tampering but I think he's really angry about the fact that Kalsonwali tried to create a rift between him and Runjhun AND the fact that she basically succeeded.  Because of Kalsonwali, Guddu yelled at Runjhun and made her eat spicy food - and really hurt her emotionally.  Kalsonwali didn't make him do these things but he can blame her for it.  I think that's why he was so angry and tried to exact specific revenge from them instead of just creating a scene in front of everybody. (and that to me is justified)

 I wonder if Runjhun would feel differently is she knew kalsonwali was trying to create a rift between Guddu and Runjhun?  I wonder if she would have acted differently knowing this?  She wouldn't want Guddu to punish the m&ms but she may not have argued with him as much.

Wafah noted that Guddu never apologized to Runjhun or admitted he was wrong to her though he did admit to himself that he shouldn't have yelled at her. I think this is an important point - maybe this is why Runjhun said that Guddu made a mistake as well and can he punish himself because it seemed like he was ignoring that the fact that he had made a mistake in blaming Runjhun.


Edited by rani2007 - 25 April 2011 at 5:52pm

very good insights from everyone so far.  in my opinion, in matters of love and relationships, there is no black and white side.  it's always shades of gray.  we understand why guddu punished kalsanwali.  as rani had pointed out, guddu is angry more at the fact that kalsanwali was trying to put a wedge between him and runjhun. 

i believe, however, that even if runjhun had known about the fact that kalsanwali (and the other mammas and mamis) were all trying to break her and guddu apart, she would still feel the same way about the situation.  i think that she is still right in saying that guddu hurt her more.  we must never forget that kalsanwali was acting the way she is supposed to act, based on her character.  also, runjhun does not have any emotional connection to kalsanwali, despit the fact that she is family.  runjhun has come to accept that her family, minus her amma, did not, does not, and will not treat her well. 

but with guddu, it is a different story.  what guddu did hurt her more because, as what has already been established in previous weeks, the two are already trying to establish a relationship as husband and wife (well, sort of).  even if they are trying to do so for the bet, or for their ammas, or whatever, they are still trying to be husband and wife (minus the physical part).  and one of the things necessary in a relationship is TRUST. 

guddu, two times in a row, has already shown that he does not trust runjhun.  he can easily be swayed to believe that runjhun has done him wrong.  maybe, it was also because of their past.  but things are different already.  runjhun got hurt by guddu more because, after she told guddu, in effect, to trust her more, he again thinks ill of her.  and  that after she lovingly prepared the food that was (unfortunately) sabotaged by kalsanwali.

if you ask me, when runjhun told guddu that he was wrong too, it was not really very objective on her part.  i don't know,  maybe i'm speaking as a married woman, but most of the time, when one relates with a spouse, you tend to base your actions on your emotions.  runjhun does not have any emotional connection with her mammas and mamis, but i think that she is already having emotional connections with guddu.  guddu punished her for something that she did not do.  FEELINGS HURT.  guddu wants to exact revenge the kalsanwali for trying to break them up.  HARD CORE EMOTIONAL RESPONSE.  runjhun tells guddu he hurt her more, even if guddu explains kalsanwali's wrong doing.  BIG TIME EMOTIONAL RESPONSE IF YOU ASK ME. 

which bring me to... runjhun is changing.  remember, once upon a time, guddu says that she has no soul.  well, right now, runjhun is being SOULFUL, and with that i mean that she is getting in touch with her emotions more.  and all her emotions are inspired by guddu.  fear, hurt, anger, betrayed... ONLY GUDDU can affect emotions on her.