Originally posted by --Nargis--
Kullu...a well written post, but i have to beg to differ with you.
First and foremost your comparison of Geet and Teji is totally incorrect. Geet is in now way as arrogant, rude or impertinent as Teji. Teji's interactions with his wife are all on a superficial plane...they do nit share a relationship nearly as deep and emotional as the one Geet and Maan share. So right there..its like comparing apples to oranges.
Teji has no concept, not does he care to even learn of what Pammi feels, what she likes, dislikes. he does not even respect her as a WOMAN in her own right, he merely command respect form her as a husband. He exercises his authority and expects that she serve his every beck and call. Its fair to say that in their relationship...Pammi ka koi wajood hi nahi hai!!!
Tej and Pammi's relationship is akin to about 90% of relationships in our culture...mostly one sided...one being the AUTHORITATIVE figure and the other being the SUBSERVIENT one. Pammi respects teji...but I am not sure if truly loves him. In her mind i guess you can say that she does love him, but her concept and connection with love is very different than the one that Geet has shared and experienced with Maan.
If Teji had called Pammi BEGHAIRAT...no one would have made a HOOPLA about it...including Pammi...because it is so in line with what Teji would normally say and do.
What Geet and Maan share is totally different. I know there are some who feel that this relationship is beautiful and great only because of Maan...and his greatness, and his ability to love selflessly...etc...etc..
BUT its important to realize and also accept that Geet has contributed vastly to this relationship...in big and small ways both. You know they say ke EK HAATH SE TAALI nahi baj ti...its two..it takes 2 to tango!!
Geet loves MAAN in a level where most people cannot even relate to. She loves him truly and wholeheartedly...and the slightest of Maan's pain is unbearable to her...be it mental, emotional, or physical. Teji has no such concept, for if he did...he would not treat Pammi the way he does now.
I feel that when to comes to Maan...most viewers think about him form Maan's perspective...hence they see the sacrifice, and they empathize with him, but when it comes to GEET...a lot of views think form a VIEWER's perspective and not from her perspective as a woman.
Anyhow...i have a lot more to say..but I need to run into a meeting now...so i will try to come back and edit it to complete my thought.
Till then...I apologize if I have offended anyone, that is not my intention...I am not a GEET lover only I am a MAANEET lover...for me there is no Geet without Maan and no Maan without Geet.
They cannot be separated and dissected...they must be accepted as ONE ENTITY!!
You dint offended atleast me...I knew you will beg to differ...I beg to differ to as well ...Me too maneet lover...lets see how long I can be one...I compared Teji and Geet with only present scenario what shown nothing from past nor from real scenario. I said they are different but they dont value their spouse right now with what shown right now whatever is logic behind it but just fact they do see their spouse being insulted as meek spectator.