Originally posted by sksg
Kuls, Good points you make. At present, I see "my" and "I" more than "us". In love and relationships, there shouldn't be any room for "my" and "I", there should only be "us". Otherwise, the relationships break and the love suffers. That is my POV.
At the present time, Teji and Geet both do not value their companions. I think that is where the comparison begins and ends. I can only say this much that all kinds of people make up the world. I am sure in this world you will come across many people who value and put individual needs above group needs. They normally go with the group (in this case family) needs as long as they are inline with their individual needs. But when there is a clash, they give more importance to individual needs rather than the group needs. And there are others that are the exact opposites. I think this is illustrated with Pammi and Geet of the current track.
Determination of who is right and who is wrong is based on what we value in life most. I can see that exemplified in the multitude of responses your post has attracted. One important lesson I have personally learned by coming to this forum is that how much ever we may think we are right, there will always exist those that judge our words or actions as wrong. It is a very important lesson to me I think. If I have to maintain the balance in my day to day interactions with people that I care most about, I need to understand that they may sometimes perceive things in exact opposition to what I perceive. One thing I am yet to learn is how to deal with such situations. How can you respectfully disagree with those that do not agree with you? I try, but haven't found a foolproof answer to this question yet.
Sri...thanks for replying to me...Yes my comparison for TEJI and Geet was completely on present situation At present they both chose not value their spouse nor respect them. I am not accounting for anyone past responsible for it not saying this point both will continoue to do this in future. But from what I see right now I see both blinded by 'me and I' and chose not to care for 'us'
I mite not be perfect but thats my interpretation of relationship, I just tried to explore from that prospective.
As you said forum is ocean of diverse brain who can interpret things according to their need ot their understanding. We can change that fact you can appease everyone in world. Disagreement is spice of life given done in healthy manner. When that take abusing, mocking level we should be better keep ourselves from mud slugging. I dint disgree with not one who didnt I agreed,,,,,Rather I respect their view of disagreing with me...For me...I dont have to come to conclusion because thought process is already given by other party by disagreeing. ...so thats mutual anyway.