Posted: 08 April 2011 at 1:47pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by -Sapphire-
LOL, I thought I have just joined Anti damodar and Anti Archu campaign !! JK !!
@ sherma, thanks for responding to my topic.
Yeah I agree Archana was indeed weird and harsh on Savita.
It was pretty sad when we see our favorite things thrown like this...
What kinda beemari are they showing :-S , she seems pretty normal sometimes when she is with Archana.......she is definitely not indifferent with Archana ( becoz of beemari) coz Savita took water from chawl lady but not from Archana, when she first served her water...
@ soumya, I just wrote what I thought, not thinking about the leads but Savita on whole how she reacts to everyone, to surrounding people, Manav and Archana are inseparable part of her lives as Savita is for Manav........
Barely 2-3 people reside in the deshmukh house and in that too we say leave archana aside leave Manav aside, then who remains?damodar baba....we have to live happily with the people we have...
I would also like to have some thoughts on my topic too :)
Sapphire, not leave aside. Of course, they're all interconnected. But every relation has its own place right? And some people are better at some relations than others, and some relations are more important than others. For example, Damodar maybe a good FIL but he's a bad husband, and being a good husband is more important than being a good parent/parent figure to adult children. During Archana-Manav's first marriage, when Savita abused Archana and Manav didn't say anything; then Damodar should've put his foot down and supported Archana. But now, situations have changed, Archana has changed, manav has changed and more importantly Savita has changed. Savita is an old lady who has lost one son, who's daughter is busy with her own marital home and she thinks her other son doesn't care for her, and on top of that her husband still doesn't take her side once. So who needs the sympathy now? You may say Savita has a wonderful son and DIL who love her so much after what she's done. True, maybe they do. But did they show her that? Savita had gone to Manav's house several times when he was living separately, did Manav or Archana invite her in then? Did anyone speak up when she was insulted by the criminal Dharmesh and pulled away by unsympathetic husband from the scene? She asked her wonderful son if he invited her to inaugarate his shop of his own accord, but he couldn't bother to lie to her for her small happiness---a harmless lie that wouldn't have harmed anybody.
So where did they show the love? How is Archana showing her love now--by being rude to her and grabbing stuff? How is manav showing his love---he's still not doing anything. Hows Damodar showing his love--he's still not supporting or caring for his sick wife. So how is this wonderful family showing Savita that they love her---please enlighten me.
Because Savita was evil and horrible and vile at one point of time, does that mean she doesn't deserve basic care and understanding from family? Did she not defend her son each and every time he was jailed/insulted? Did she not care for her husband when he was bedridden or cry for him when she thought he died? Doesn't she deserve the same from her family?
P.S. I believe spousal relations are the most important since that is the relation of lifetime companionship. Children grow up and make their own families, where they stay back with parents or move away. It's the spouse who understands and shares a person's happiness and sorrows from the age of a young adult to old age. Damodar may be a good FIL/father/whatever, but he's failed in the most important relation of a spouse/husband. If he can't be a good husband, then he's not worth anything according to me coz a person's worth is measured by their relations.
Edited by sowmya_jairam - 08 April 2011 at 1:52pm