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How to conquer mistrust...

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Posted: 16 March 2011 at 3:54pm | IP Logged
Aham has accused Gopi of play acting nice to everyone and this is a problem he has against her, so this is a case where a husband does not trust his wife, these type of cases, normally there is nothing the wife can do to change the husband's mind, can she?

Also he feels she cries on tap Cry, so Gopi needs to get stronger and stop with the crying, no matter what he says to her. He thinks the crying is also an act to make him feel sorry for her.

So is there a chance in your opinion, when a husband does not trust you, you as a wife can turn it around?


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Posted: 16 March 2011 at 4:04pm | IP Logged
Interesting question.

I guess trust is gain slowly. Clearly actions speak louder than words. Right now ahem thinks she is play acting and crying on tap. Whenever there is a situation & she cries, he probably switches off thinking hear we go again. She needs to act differently to jolt him out of his usual thinking pattern. Then, he shall see her slowly for what she is and his perceptions and beliefs might change. Gopi also needs to be honest. Her problem is she is too timid (years of abuse) and too polite (fear of hurting people), so he mistakes her inconsistent actions at times, as lies and manipulative behaviour.

To rebuild trust, it usually takes longer compared to destroying trust within few seconds.

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Posted: 16 March 2011 at 4:15pm | IP Logged
He thinks she is manipulative and playacting to care for everyone.
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in my opinion nafisa if the husband is not trusting u leave him because trust play most important part between husband and wife relation. 
but here the case is different so u r right gopi needs to be stronge and bold and there is no need to cry

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Posted: 16 March 2011 at 5:26pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Nafisa_blossoms

He thinks she is manipulative and playacting to care for everyone.
up to now nafisa trust has gone due to kinjals kalakari n the u r but really   how much time has aham spent with his wife non n forced into situations  because of modi pride, she has helped him with kinjal when she decided to runaway, but  that was it. after that he was cordial with her, then she left.  
Nani is forcing aham to do things with gopi, they dont have a conversation other than wheres marni,  n theres soot on your face n she telling him is too look in the mirror n admire his open jewel box.
Gopi does everything she is told by everyone including the evil trio urk, but is that enough to satisfy Aham, he needs to have a conversation other than thwo me aur.   even the makeover we know its going  to be a flop,  did he not say to gopi when he found out about gopi being illierate that all this making up do you really think it will satisfy me.   He needs to talk to her about his business she may come up with different ways of approaching the situations he might be in.  We know she is very intelligent but that needs to be put to use.   until something extreme happens he will never see the real side of Gopi


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Posted: 16 March 2011 at 11:37pm | IP Logged
fanbidaai - "He needs to talk to her about his business she may come up with different ways of approaching the situations he might be in.  We know she is very intelligent but that needs to be put to use.   until something extreme happens he will never see the real side of Gopi"

Suk - i agree they need to talk more, he never gives her enough time, his always short with her. Thinking more about what you said, Gopi though not educated she does try really hard to meet everyones needs, she might help him deal with people and work situations, normally that's how it should be with a married couple, you discuss things that bothering you at work and the life partner will give you a different perspective, but Aham doesn't give her even that respect.
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Posted: 16 March 2011 at 11:43pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by shobi12500

in my opinion nafisa if the husband is not trusting u leave him because trust play most important part between husband and wife relation. 
but here the case is different so u r right gopi needs to be stronge and bold and there is no need to cry

Shoaib - In real life when trust is gone, you also just break the relation, particularly if the man is one that doesn't trust the woman. Because it's normally because she had an affair or something, but in this case it's because she was illiterate and though she told him he didn't listen, he now accuses her of being a liar. It seems a big deal to him, if she lied it means what exactly, that she saw his wealth and it was her way out of poverty, surely that shouldn't matter.

I suppose for guys they want to be loved for themselves and not only for what they bring to you. 
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