Posted: 16 March 2011 at 9:54pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Jake-neil
I cant believe that you gals actually side with a lady hitler
.. Rashi is bad, greedy, evil and many more.. But kokila is not a good lady herself.. She is selfish dictator and treats everyone around her like dirt.. Would you like to hav a saas like kokila? Not me
.. I prefer Hetal! If hetal was also a bit lyk koki, the modi family would have split long bak... And to answer why koki chose a poor gal for Ahem, simply because she needs someone who will listen and be a puppet under her.. Koki's sole aim in life is power to rule MM and she wish to do that through Ahem.. So if ahem had married any gal like Anita, kokila will not succeed in her aim.. So she chose a simpleton like Gopi.. But neither Ahem nor Gopi is happy and kokila isnt doing anythng to mend the bridge.. Shez happy with the situation as long as Gopi stays in MM as a maid and Ahem continues to be successful enterpreneur.. And that vachan, just for impressing nani.. Koki's every act until now had been selfish to the core, and i will never agree with her treatment towards her DILs..
Wow! Jake! you did it! you wrote a post that is spiralling out. Let me add my spices into this melting pot!
In a joint family, children should respect both their parents and uncles and aunts and the adults have equal responsibility towards both their children and their nephews and nieces. This is the cardinal rule. If one adult is correcting a child's mistake, the other's should not interfere, irrespective of whose child it is. Otherwise, the family can never be together. I say this because, I grew up in a joint family much bigger than the Modis (18 people) and much less richer than them.
As such there is nothing wrong in Kokila scolding Rashi for spending money in parlor or for her phone bill or making her do household work. There is also nothing wrong in a MIL scolding her DIL for her mistakes. Every family undergoes this power dynamics when there is a new DIL entering the house.
But the context and the attitude is wrong here. Kokila scolds Rashi because she wants to put her down and not guide her. She doesnt scold/correct her son, who is nothing but a selfish spoilt brat. Rashi's mistakes (apparent ones) are not that bad as Aham's. But Kokila never allows anybody to even say a word to him whereas, she is the first to tease Jigar or scold Rashi for their mistakes. If Rashi is hurting Gopi, then Aham is doing so too, in a much larger scale. What about Kokila's part in hurting Gopi? Who will correct her for that? I feel that Kokila's crime is worse than Urmila or Rashi's. At least, before her marriage to Aham, Gopi had some hopes and she could at least dream of a happily ever after. But Kokila has killed those hopes and destroyed those dreams. For all his faults, Aham might really love Anita and so cannot think of Gopi as a wife. What about Kinjal? Kokila has destroyed 4 lives with her attitude. But does she accept her mistake? Does she try to change this? Compared to this mistake, a Rs.5000/- bill is nothing.
Kokila just wants control and wants to show off. She is exactly like Rashi in this regard. Only difference is that Kokila does not go out of the way to hurt Hetal like Rashi does for Gopi. She does it only when she gets a chance. And, when it comes to a competition, Kokila generally does not play any underhanded games and puts everything in the open. Otherwise, she is as horrible as Urmila.
BTW, none of the Modi's are honorable in that sense. They have no idea what is it to live as family.