Posted: 16 March 2011 at 8:41am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Jaishankarhehe Jai (can i call u that too?) ...thanks for your compliment but i didn't do anything spectacular at all...i just looked at my children and tried always to do what was best for them...like any mother would do...i made many many mistakes, trust me...but i did the best i could at the time i guess...again, like any mother would do.
Naava I can never be upset with you you are a wonderful mom and GM
All I said is the approach of Manav was wrong in trying to correct Savita which has worsen her situation.Manav has own share of faults in first neglecting D's and spending more time solving K's issues who use him as a use and throw policy.Unfortunatley whenever he is associated with K's his insult level increases and who comes to rescue everytime Savita when Sulo and Archu keep quiet too both in theft scene and the chawl scene where Manav and Vaishu relation got hammered.
Savita sickness is termed as pyshic possessiveness. Its not for money .If she loved Manav for money she wont be coming running every time to protect its a mother's heart after all. Savita is a open book where Sulo has always wanted rich damaat's for her daughters.Why did she rejct manav during first marriage and gave him tappad ? Was cheating the only reason ? Isnt she behind Money who supported Dharmu blindly her pet damaad.When Sulo can think about wealth first then Savita can also but in a different way.Sulo always had support of entire family but Savita right from her marriage raised her children on her own.
Naava kudos to you for raising your children so well under such circumstances
too bad savita is not like you unfortunately but she is not like Sulo too who according to Situations changes herself.I dont think Savita needs to learn from Sulo.Savita visited sulo when she was sick ,has sulo visited savita knowing she is sick ?????
All I say is instead of wasting his time for his saali's who just use him and then forgot about him he should focus where the focus should be and also tell ARchu to stop interferring in her sis life as there are people to take of them and no one to take care of savita and Sachin.
By following this ignorant approach Manav has made already a old tired women even more sick mentally who is into depression and now all of a sudden if goes and tells I lied and stuff how will she accept it.She is under depression doesnt she require time.When you can give time to K's and forget all the Gaalis and tapads u ate from them then for once why cant u give ur mom a chance some time for her to recover and then make her realize the value of Archu instead of forcing on her.cant this consideration be given to Savita ?
Love can even melt the stone hearted and here its not stone hearted its a fake covering of stubbornness that has covered the gentle heart of savita which is lost somewhere inside.Arman can break it with their love for that they need to go and stay with Savita no matter what she says.Intially she will be stubborn as she is sick then need to persist ,when Manav can fight for Vaishu bearing all the insults then he can definitely do this for his mom.I am sure slowly savita will change for good.She is hungry for love and care and not money now.Now if Arman keep their foot forward and extend their hand I am sure savita will respond it might take time coz of the foolish approach taken initially my Manav but she will respond after all a mom's heart can never stop beating for her child which would eventually make her accept Archu.All she needs is time and time only!!!
I have always hated savita ,the way she treated Archu especially during the early divorce period but didnt she change when she came to know about Archu goodness? How did that happen when Archu no matter what stayed at D's place and it happened.Again I am not saying ARchu needs to go and take all gaali;s Manav wont allow,I am saying intially Savita might show stubborness but Savita does not have the energy and strength like before as she sick so this is the right time she herself does not know whats going with her so even if Archu comes to D's she might not give gaali's like before but her perspective about Archu would change for sure.When Arman can show patience with K's then I think Savita and sachu also deserve a chance here.
i don't think Savit'as possessiveness is about money, i mentioned attention and control and said NOT money...at the same time i do think there was an element of rejecting and choosing based on some greed...because Savita was shown time and time again saying now she could have xyz jewelry, gold, house by the sea....or whatever...NOT that with the money she could pay the bills and provide enough food for her family...sigh...there IS a difference.
But when greed enters the heart it consumes both relationships and things...and that's where Savita's sickness lies...I will say it again..Savita needs a spiriitual encounter of some kind to really get well.
That said, i really don't think Manav is trying to teach her a lesson ... i think he is trying to assert himself to for once to be strong and not intimidated by her...but i agree...love can melt a heart...let's hope savita will open hers.