Posted: 15 March 2011 at 8:09pm | IP Logged
So she IS na . Now she is angry and is NOT talking to him anymore . Now he is running after her . She has accepted its HIS LIFE and HIS choice .
I don't think she has accepted .This is killing her inside and she is very hurt that someone else is in his life now ....If she had accepted then she would not be in the state she is now ...
As far as her insecurity abt giving other woman ..his wife more importance is concerned .............Thats Natural with ALL mother in laws in the world .in some degree or other .Some dont show it bas .To top it Archana had this HISTORY .
Thoda bahut , maybe a little more ...Ok ...but this is too much yaar ......
It's wrong Period ( in my opinion ) .
Point is Their REAL marraige actually started NOW . With this remarraige . THEY shud have made an effort to take away her insecurities and anger by apologising and doing duties and NOT making her feel THIS ISOLATED .
This I agree . The breakdown in communication was wrong .Manav was trying to bring his wife along and he took this approach ...and it misfired ..
Archana many many times told him ...you go alone , you visit alone , you stay with her at night ...but manav was adamant ..he thought he was doing it for savita so he could live with his mother permanently ....
They didnt .They danced and danced only with Archus maaika .
Sulochna and Manohar were also so hurt with the way they eloped , they hated Manav but they want Archana to be happy i nthe end so that is why they have accepted the marriage ...eevn gave up their retirement money to gift them a honey moon trip, helped him as much as they could when Archana was not well ...I am not happy with manav's involvement with Vashali 's situation bu tI am happy that he is getting along so well with manohar and Sulochna ....It's good to see this ...A girl's parents are as important as the boy's parents ....Both are equals in the marriage .....
If savita would let her in , Archana would do so much ......but she has to be given the chance ..Right now she is not even allowed to clean a plate in the house ....or to even hold sachu ...
Today when she has ALREADY crossed border and fallen SICK .........Now they r coming to put things right ? So First u guys drove her to this point with neglect and planned strategies for getting package deal message across and now u guys r hurrying understanding it had WRONG EFFECT ?
Yup . the strategies and all that was very stupid ..Manav messed up again ....what's new .Anyway , tomorrow he is pleading , begging for forgiveness and is telling her that she is the most important person ....now it is savita's turn to show that she too is a good mother and let her son be happy .She has seen how much he loves Archna ...baggage or no baggage , his love for her only grows ....so let him have the only thing he has ever desired in his life , let him live ......Just finish this baba ...YOu take control on him and make Archu do the house work ...live like a queen ..( saying it for her own good ) .
Nice debate between the two most special people on this forum.
I will tell you, I agree with both of you. Tanyaz, I agree with you in this way that Savita at times can be stubborn, in your defense Tanyaz Archana is innocent because she has tried to get the two to bond, so Tanyaz I can see where you're coming from and yes both families should be given equal importance yet in a typical Indian culture a daughter in law should live with her in laws. I agree also Tanyaz that Archana would do a lot for Savita if she only accepted her. Now on the flip side of it Tanyaz, let me tell you something in Kools defense. We are all here to express our point of views so none of you are wrong. You both are right in your ways. And of course I am not perfect either. But let me tell you, Tanyaz in a way Kools is also right because Manav has spoiled his mom since the beginning. And suddenly, he severed ties with her, so this is Manav's fault too. Savita was showing stubbornness in the precap I will admit Tanyaz, but Manav drove her to this extent. Tanyaz, it was also wrong when Manav said I am not deserving to be your son. That was cruel, he should not have talked to his mom like that, now you might say Manav had no other choice but to say this. Savita was very wrong in slapping Archana but this doesn't mean Manav should escalate the issue. So, in this way I agree with you both of you two. And though both you have different opinions you both are the best people on this forum.
Edited by bhallarox - 15 March 2011 at 8:11pm