Posted: 09 March 2011 at 3:42pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Charmgirl2141To @nigo123
Purva never agree to give Prem away in the series of Behnein. And it certainly wasnt her to came up with the idea. It was Rama's condition. She was really upset about that. Today she did had niightmare about Prem being taken away, if she didnt love him then why would she hugged Prem closely to her when she woke up from her dream or even holding him close whenever Rama came near to them. Or cried out for Prem, just before Smriti came by.
The thing is giving her baby away to Rama is the worst thing that could be done to her child. This decision is killing her too. How is that any better? Knowing that he could be brought where there would always be struggle for money and lack of education. When she and Mihir could give their child and Prem a much better future.
As for marrying with Mhir, well even if Purva didnt marry him, Smriti 's life would been doomed anyway with that Mansi girl who planning to sent Prem to boarding school and inherit all the Sanghvi's money. At the time Mansi even hid Mihir's phone so that Purva couldnt tell him, but would anyone believe her then. why did Smriti kept herself away from Mihir and Prem when they thought she had died. She claim that she wanted Purva to be happy again. Well if you ask me, Purva would been happy if Smriti returns sooner. So she can reuinte with Mihir and bring Amar back for Purva. As at the time things would been easier to solve because Mihir and Purva never love each other . So really even Smriti created those problems for herself. In real life, could a mother like Smriti who love Prem so much and stay away from him. No. Smriti was trying to be a
fairy godmother by messing Mihir, Purva and herself by staying away too long.
I think the CVs have done all that to create the best drama. At the end of the day it is only a drama and people wont be watching if was really boring.
Hope I havent upset you. To be honset it is the CVs's fault.
Both Purva and Smriti have made sacrifices for each other-Purva by marrying Mihir when she thought smriti's position was being compromised; and Smriti when she married Karan so that Purva-Mihir can continue to be together. Both of these decisions are utterly foolish, but both were made with the same intentions of protecting the others interest. But look at the results of that sacrifice--Purva gained a loving family, a devoted husband and Smriti got married to a psycho and bore abuse. She lost everything. It was never her fault that her MIL didnt like her and she was actively made mentally unstable. Her husband moved on so fast after Smriti supposedly died---I beleive completely ins second chances at life and that nobody can stop living for somebody else. But there should be a period of mourning, of respect for loved ones who are deceased. According to the serial timeline, Smriti became mentally unstable sometime after Prem was born, Mihir married soon after to "look after Prem", then Smriti died and Mihir slept with Purva, and she's no pregnant. According to what Akashi told in yesterdays episode, Purva has been taking care of Prem for 1-5 years and Purva herself is atleast 6 months pregnant. So its only been a few months at the most after Smriti died that Purva-Mihir consummated their relationship. Did Mihir love Smriti at all-I cant believe somebody can move on after losing a loved one after such a short period. And Smriti was still mentally unstable when her bus met with an accident and I'm guessing it took some time for her to regain her senses. And by the time she did, Purva-Mihir had already established their lives and Smriti didnt want to wreck it. So Smriti is definitely not at fault anywhere in this-she was mentally unstable when Mihir married again and she came back too late. If it is anybodys fault, it's Mihir's who couldnt tell his mother he didnt want to get married when Smriti was still alive and who didnt wait even a few months out of respect for his "dead" wife before loving Purva. Then comes Purva who married Mihir in her full senses-she knew what she was doing. Her intentions were right-but her method was absolutely, totally wrong. She also did not have a mourning period for her "dead" sister before becoming Mihir's wife.
Coming to the baby issue, while I wont say Purva loves Prem less than Smriti, but she can definitely cope with it better. Purva has her full family including her other sisters and her unborn baby to help her cope with Prem's loss; but Smriti has no one. She is completely alone-even her sisters dont support her. Purva could think of separating from Prem, Smriti couldnt. And Smriti has the right to know what happens with her child-just because she left Prem in her sister's care, everybody seems to think she should be okay if Prem is given to some random person. Her sisters had no right to interfere when she was questioning Purva, very validly. While Purva had time to come to terms with the situations, Smriti just found out in a horrible way and she is not allowed to get angry? Smriti is completely justified, and all of her sisters are wrong, especially Akashi and Anokhi. They should atleast be neutral in this situation. Smriti's one and only mistake was not taking Prem with her when she was leaving Mihir's house. At the time Purva was already pregnant and they would get another child in a few months time.