Kalapi, of course girls should be accepted and welcomed as Goddess Lakshmi when they come home after marriage. And that how it is in normal cases. But this situation in not normal in any way, is it? Savita was readying to welcome Shravani as her bahu with Manav's agreement, willing or not-he did agree and in fact, insist on it.
See I don't want girls to be treated as Lakshmi or for taht matter as any goddness as doing so insatnt attached a condition to her status...she is expectected to bring goodluck and fortune or conform to the tradition of the family right? I rather want her to be treated as equal and made a partner to the family...so that she is equal in all respected...not given a pedestrial and then pull are down as people pleases...I hope u see my point...
He then eloped from the mandap with the girl who has so much history with her family. The girl in question here is a very good girl, which made Savita herself change her attitude towards Archana earlier. But Archana keeps waltzing in and out of her family's lives on manav's whim.
Isn't that the mark of a true Indian wife...to follow husband without question...I don;'t agree...but this is what the serial always implies...in the most weirdest of ways, if u ask me
And even indirectly, in a round-about way, she was the cause of her son's death.
But they did accept her then after sachin death, right...they begged her to stay married....CV killed it for TRPS and the huge Viewers CRY then followed
So, do you think it is natural for a parent to immediately accept and welcome such a girl with so much baggage as her DIL? Even without any past history, I know parents will not immediately accept marriages without their knowledge/consent. Manav is equally at fault here, maybe more, but a mother cannot hate her son right? She will look for the next best thing to blame-again Im not saying she is right, but isnt it natural in this particular case?
See again Savita did accept Archu before...then Archu did the aarti....and of course the Mahabharat followed...Savita rather was angry that Manav eloped from Mandap...bless him...made for such a hilarious episode About Mother's can't hate sons....maybe they will not hate son/daughter but sure can do strangest of things for personal gains...I am sure it sounds strange right...I will tell u the story of my dad....My dad.(bless the gut of this man)...was thrown out by is elder brother as he didn't wanted to give him share to property that half belong to him. My grandmother (may her soul rest in peace) didnot do a thing nor support my dad during this time. My dad took me mom and bro out of the house...we were little and had to take shelter with Mom's parent...slow my dad built an empire (literally, bless him) and of course things did a 360 from that point. A story in nutshelll....to me Moms can also be selfish sometime too....I know I will get rotten eggs for saying this...deep down we all come with conditions....some may not be that apparent thats all....and I being a mom accept it too...
And Manav protecting his wife from his mother's abuse is commendable and is the right thing to do. He definitely should not move back in with the Deshmukhs until his mom welcomes Archana as well. But if he wants relations with his mother in the interim, should he not try to placate her? If he doesnt want to maintain relations with his mother, that's a different thing altogether. But he's not willing to compromise an inch-his mother seems to be willing to compromise. She visited him at his home where he lived with his wife, didn't she? Why cant he visit her without his wife?
Not sure vissiting without wife is acceptable...I think after my marriage I am packaged with my hubby...I couldn't want my in-laws to get wrong messages or my husband to belittle me in front of in-laws...its a dangerous thing to do according to me
Doesnt he have an identity, a responsibilty apart from Archana's husband?
Yes and No...can't to something that belittles the other half....I wouldn't accept it...I guess I have a huge ego...what to do
And thrusting Archana and her goodness in Savita's face all the time is not working, he should know enough to understand it by now.
surely he lacked tact ...no son shoiuld do that if he wants peace in the house applicable for both relations....in my opinion
So shouldn't he try to do it independently. Like Jaishanker said, first he should repair his own relation with his mom for which his mom is definitely ready. Then he can convince her about Archana.
As I said....I will be really mad if my husband did that...it a question about respecting all relation....must say because of these complex issues Bahus and MIL relations are a challenge....and many sons find it extremely hard to balance