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dolly1211

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Posted: 17 February 2005 at 1:48am | IP Logged
It is a mystery why we fall in Love.

Its is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is mystery why some love fails. You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interest and attractions and commonalties that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its way.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your ! life the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible ! beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on. When this happens to young people, they to often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather accepting the gift for what it was,
then moving on.

They want answer where are no answers. They want to know what is wring in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away start a new life together,! their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itse! lf, and until they accept its own mysterious was; they live in sea of misery. You need to know this about love, and to accept it.

You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the persons heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to asses blame. Let it go. There is a reason and t! here is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really
do! is accept it for all its mystery when it comes in to your life. Fell way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give to the world around you in anyway you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it ! to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it ! or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open it will come again.

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Posted: 18 February 2005 at 6:01am | IP Logged
thanx 4 sharing!

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Posted: 18 February 2005 at 3:28pm | IP Logged
Thanx 4 da article
But a very big article.

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Posted: 18 February 2005 at 5:19pm | IP Logged
i agree dolly 1211.

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Thanks for sharing.

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