Posted: 22 February 2011 at 2:42pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by savera2007
Originally posted by sushmitadutta
OMGG abidah Hu beautifully u explaied it dear , lovelyyy
I know dear Basic nature can'b changed so easily but dear sometimes we hav 2 change a/c 2 situautio . Sometime we hav 2 act out of our character , sometime we hav 2 adjust a/c 2 front person . n dis is wht Nivi has 2 learn n tht2 soon isse pehle ki it's get 2 late
Yes Dear I agrre Prob is tht Viren always asked her why U wants 2 b here ? n She always said becozz I m DIL of dis house . n dis is wht Viren is nt able 2 take it . He wants tht She shld understand him like d way he understood her , She shld care him like d way he cared her , She shld giv preference 2 him over family like He gave , She shld fight wid d family for him in d d same way like He did before . But Nivi failed 2 do any of dis thng . n she still didn't even tried 2 do tht . Only she is thnkng of reuniting d family wid his son . But She is nt getting ki For Viren his afamily comes behind 1st it's his love Nivi who comes . d day She will understands all those thngs She will realize her love also n Viren also . n I thnk Dis accident will make her realize tht .
Oh Dear Even I also m angry on Nivi regarding Calling Sid . Seriouslly When She knows ki Viren hates Sid then Why She is finding d reason 2 triggger his anger more ? n wht was d purpose of calling Sid ? Vo toh vaha paucha hi nahi aur sab kuch ho gaya , Ab vo aake karega bhi kya ?
That is why I like Virens character more than Nivi's. He is honest in doing whatever he does. When he fought for her, he was 100 % honest. Nivi lacks to understand that she has to give up Sid's friendship today and tomorrow. She has to solve this all alone. Just like the day when she went to meet Viren alone in the park. That is something Virens WANTS!
And the thing about Sid-Nivi friendship, it will always be a hurdle in NivRen's relationship because Viren is passionate about Nivi and wouldn't be able to take the friendship. This is not because he is not broadminded etc. but it is because he is passionate and in that time of feeling, there is no place for anything else.
Viren wants to be Nivi's everything... But Nivi gives everything to him in portions... And that is something really bad for NivRen.
About calling Sid, well had Sid interfered, then Viren was gone mad and if sid says nothing, then we can say Sid is as Sid have been portrayed lately. So it is a mistake from Nivi's side... That's what my verdict will be. I would not have done it.
I will go along with Viren's dialogue, do not interfere in me and my family.
An advice for Nivi... Restore or at least be a wife first, win your husbands confidence, love & trust and THEN try to change him. Whom should he change for at the moment? No one... I will once again quote this sentence:
"Koi bhi shakhs poori dunya ke liye nahin jeeta, balke us ik shakhs ke liye jeeta hai jo us ke liye poori dunya ho."
Abidah loved ur this post and the one on page 77. That is exactly what i've been saying from day 1 that y the hell on the confrontation day Nivi compared him to S. and that triggered him that day. I'm not defecning Viren' actions but I'm hating Nivi also. She left him alone in the park on the confrontation day. she should have stayed with him as he was in a state of mind he could have done anything and when he said i dont wanna go to that house nivi as a wife should have sat down on the stairs and would have said that "Viren then I will also not go. I'm ur wife and I will go whereever u will go". Coz when she was leaving from there he was actually hurt. Nivi should have stood up for him the way he did for her otherwise he was in a pretending mode he could have easily pretended to support his family and be in their good books just like s. was but still he supported Nivi. In her recent confrontation also she never says that i'm ur wife, she always says that I'm the bahu of this house yaar just have failed to understand her.
Yaar yeh Sood Pariwar what should i say abt them. When Viren was young they were not able to handle his attitude and the easy way was to send him to boarding school so they don't have to deal with him and now they cannot handle it, so very conveniently they have put all the responsibilities on Nivi shoulders to deal with him and they r not ready to do anything.