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In Praise of Kruttika Desai

Archanafan Senior Member

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Posted: 20 February 2011 at 3:55am | IP Logged
Just wanted to say a few words about an actor whose portrayal of a conflicted MIL is quite unsurpassed, as compared to some other similar portrayals on Indian television lately.

Kruttika Desai brings a strange admixture of indignation, repressed rage, accompanied by a powerfully enduring love for her family, as well as a kind of pathos to her role as Ambaji in RJM. We hate her character for hating Mona, but we also feel her inner confusion at feeling things she never thought she could feel. She adores her son and would move heaven and earth to find the right bride for him, because she wants him to be in a happy marriage.

But when things don't go the way she planned (and when do they, in life?), her affection for her son grows even more and in direct proportion to her anguish regarding who he had to marry.

Her love for her son has almost become a battle for attention, with the bride in one corner and she in another, and it seems she never thought she'd have to face this day...all this is brought to the fore by Kruttika with such originality and power, that one almost wants to plumb the depths of her heart, one is tempted to at least try to understand her sense of a slight betrayal that she thinks she's undergoing, the ever loosening grip over her son's attention, the understanding that her interactions with her son would be cut in half due the presence of another person...she feels she's losing him in some way.

And since that breaks her heart in two, she hardens her heart even more, and out it comes through her interactions toward Mona, who is made to carry the brunt of the changing emotional landscape of the Gandhi family. Which Ambaji too, let it not be forgotten, has to adapt to, albeit grudgingly.

One can feel the pathos of her situation, unable to accept the marriage, and yet having to make her side of it work as a first time MIL, even though her temper gets the better of her sometimes.

And yet, she is opening up, slowly, ever so slowly, to the possibility that there may be a day that Mona will be what she wants her to be, not what Anukalp wants her to be. She wants, and wants it desperately, some kind of assurance from Mona, that she will not disrupt the delicate bond of mother and son, which she has put her heart and soul into ever since she gave birth to a little bundle of joy named Anukalp, her little boy. Not someone's new husband. Relationships are built over time and a never betrayed trust.

Kruttika's best evocative features are her eyes and her voice, and she uses them to perfection. Her pent up rage, her deep sorrow that she feels no one can even begin to grasp, as well as her recent choice of lets say, kinda sorta, opening up to Mona by teaching her cooking, etc. shows us that she may object to something fiercely, but can also bend if approached the right way, with humility and dare one say, even a little buttering up, which could enable Mona to soften her MIL up and learn the best lessons of life from her.

The casting director has indeed picked the right person for this demanding and conflicted role, when the actor is more hated and despised instead of adored and fawned over. That unique ability when Ambaji is able to roar at a shuddering Mona, as well as teach her how to clean up a messy room, is enacted beautifully by Kruttika.

It seems to me that sometime down the road, her role will change and morph into something so unexpected, that there will come a day, when Mona and Anukalp will undergo a serious estrangement, but it will be Ambaji who will show a heretofore unseen side of her and save their marriage. She will change, her view of Mona will change, the grieving women in them will connect, and when enemies come out of no where, she just might be Mona's unexpected protector. Who knows?

In conclusion, I will say that Kruttika Desai is a scene stealer for sure, we wait for her reactions, we wonder about what she'll say...and those eyes usually say it all beautifully.

Kruttika, you're doing a fantastic job with the character of Ambaji, and we are fortunate to have such a great talent like you to grace our TVs and PCs. An amazingly gifted actor, may you entertain us for years to come.

Congratulations on handling a difficult character with such grace, strength and poise.

Your fans adore you! Great work!


Edited by Archanafan - 03 May 2011 at 11:04pm

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April2007 IF-Dazzler

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Posted: 20 February 2011 at 9:01am | IP Logged
Krutika Desai does play her role of very possessive mother, who is hanging on to her adult son and resents her daughter in law at the same time she knows she will have to make room for her daughter in law but is unable to do so..She definitely plays the role very well..she is very talented, she has great body language.

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Writer42 Goldie

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Posted: 20 February 2011 at 10:15am | IP Logged
Once again AF I couldn't have said it better myself. Krutika Desai is truly talented at her craft. She has truly come to personify Ambaji who rules her home like a fortress who never forgets that she too was once in Mona's shoes though she doesn't consider herself as inept has Mona has been. But now that she has taken some interest in teaching Mona to cook and clean up Anukalp's room she sees that Mona has the potential to be a good bahu albeit grudgingly. Krutika makes it easy to play a conflicted soul who is torn between what she thinks things should be like and what reality throws at her. In many ways she could understand what Mona is going through hearing the constant put downs from Bejal and Ba. Yet she can never see herself even remotely like Mona stuck in a world where she doesn't belong but is trying desperately to fit it. Great post AF Krutika Desai is truly an unsung hero who deserves more praise for her difficult and complicated role as Ambaji. Keep up the great work Ms. Desai.

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HalkatJawaniJay IF-Dazzler

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Posted: 20 February 2011 at 1:32pm | IP Logged
She is great actress, and is doing justice to the role of Ambaji. We all can see Mona struggle to adjust into Gandhi family but we're aren't able to see(or choose to ignore) that Ambaji is also struggling with sharing her son whom she has loved and taken care of everything for last 23-24yrs. It will take time for both Mona and Ambaji to understand each other and recognizing that both have a unique place in Anu's life that is irreplaceable.

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beetaurus Goldie

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Posted: 20 February 2011 at 3:39pm | IP Logged
A great post by AF, and I agree with everyone above.  Krutika Desai is a wonderful actor who knows her craft very well.  She plays the much disliked character of Ambaji to opulence and perfection to the hilt.

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sri11 Goldie

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Posted: 23 February 2011 at 5:43am | IP Logged
Superb post by ArchanaFan..For writing a single line i use to search for words..But describing a role of a character is too good..Great job ArchanaFan..aND Krutika Desai, I think she is a fantabulous actor and she had right mix of comedy and serious emotion in her. and love in her...i will give 10/10 for her..
just4fun Senior Member

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Posted: 23 February 2011 at 3:07pm | IP Logged
No doubt she is is a great and talented actor. Very subtle and appears acting comes naturally to her.

Edited by just4fun - 23 February 2011 at 3:08pm
sme123 Senior Member

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Posts: 523

Posted: 23 February 2011 at 6:53pm | IP Logged
Excellent post! Krutika Desai is indeed a very good actor.

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