Originally posted by GoldenPanda.
I'm so sorry about what happened. I do advise you to confront her and see what she has to say for herself, even if you're filing for a divorce. You deserve better than this, every person deserves to be loved and most importantly treated with respect.
I already know all the answers, that's why I do not need to confront
her. Before marriage she mentioned she was not comfortable with this
marriage, so I told my parents and said, lets call it off since her
heart is not in it. I said I will give them a call and tell them no.
Instead of this plan, my parents called her and said are your not
interested in him? do you not want to get married etc.? They told her
father as well, she got really scared and started crying and called me
and said she is 100% in on this marriage and parents parents said, see
she is ok, why are you bailing out, it's not her it's you. I was sooo
trapped, I couldn't say no.
Now if I confront her, she will say:
No he is just a friend, there is nothing going on. And I wrote those
emails just as a joke, nothing serious etc. etc. and my parents will
say, see everything is ok, so let's not get divorced.
Here are some of the facts:
spends about 2 to 3 hours everyday looking at his photos on his
facebook and read old conversations she has had with him. In past 3
weeks, she looked at my profile and my photos 2 times for less than 1
I tell her that I really like her etc. etc. She just looks away.
guy calls her cute. Before I knew this I called her cute as well and
she told me to stop calling her cute because she said she does not like
it. The real reason is that the other guy calls her cute and she does
not want me to.
After getting somewhat physical, I asked her: what are you feeling towards me? She said "Please do not ask me this question"
gave her couple of lovely nicknames before knowing the truth and asked
her what does she want to call me? She said "You already have a name, i
do not need to make one up" She has cute nicknames for the other guy.
marriage when I came back to US, I told her that i miss her, and i want
to be with her, and i will see her in my dreams, she wouldn't say
anything, i asked why, she said she does not know how to talk like this.
She talks all lovey dovey with this guy and even tells him she missed
him and will see him in her dreams etc.
After marriage when i
came back, i asked her to chat online with me. She said she does not
chat online at all. I can see she reads conversation she has had with
him in online chat almost every other day after marriage while she was
in India. She did not even want to try to build something with me.
I mean the list just goes on and on. I do not think she is interested in me and will ever love me.
to why she married me. The other guy asked her as well. Here is her
answer "I did it because of y parents. I did it for their happiness. I
want o see them happy and that is the reason I am doing all this".
She does not have a desire to build a loving relationship with me, seems like a formality to please her parents.