Well this certainly is a sticky area. As Vishesh said both are right in their places. However, Vishesh I know all mother wants their child to get married and they keep on telling them I am tired of taking care etc. but when you really get married and when she see some girl taking care of you she may feel insecure that your love for her is being shared. Which to me is very normal. MIL are very "possessive" about their son. That's the main reason creating rift between this relashionship. DIL are also very possessive for their husband and they sometime cannot see their MIL dominating their life's decisions.
My MIL is very sweet and she really takes care of me like her daughter, but still sometime she tells me my husband has changed after marriage etc. and that probably you should cook hot food everyday 'coz its healthy and that you should not have date with ur girl friends for movie living ur 2 year old with your husband as its hard for him to take care of her yes, his "own" child
and Yes I really get annoyed and disappointed with all these things 'coz our generation think that husband and wife are both responsible for their child and if I take care of her lunch, dinner, snack, milk, bedtime he can atleast watch her for couple hrs once in a while. But then I think she is not telling it all this to ME but she always want to see her "son" happy and same boy that she has seen all her life.
So I guess these small issues are going to be there for couple years and then probably both accept the reality that they both love this same individual and they will have to find out way to live happily. 'coz when we say adjustments are part of marriage these all things are included.
Edited by bgdesai - 27 December 2005 at 6:15am