okay so it was an interesting week. although more focus was clearly laid on apara and her experience, I think that was quite justified considering the fact that there was more conflict of interest there
anyway, coming to the moms, this is my analysis:
1) sarita - she's clearly a pativrata housewife. she works day in and day out for the welfare of her family without an ounce of acknowledgement or appreciation from their side. I think when people see women of the house following the same routine everyday, they start believing that none of it affects her at all. when women don't express their resentment, their lack of expression is perceived as acceptance. she looked like the kind of woman who had been brought up to believe in the sacred bond of marriage and the importance of sticking together - which was further affirmed by the family she was married into. in simple words, the family was dysfunctional. the men were dependent on woman for their well being & seva (they're being looked after for free) and the women were dependent on the men for financial security.
I did not appreciate sarita's attempt to make khushali's father come back into the family. broken relationships are not mended in the wink of an eye. separation/divorce in real life is not like soap operas where the couple come back together after a prolonged session of weeping and howling. and if two people have amicably split (and might even get divorced soon) then why even try to bring them back?
sarita - darshan you should stay with your family.
darshan - but why?
sarita - because marriage is a social contract that puts you under the obligation to stay with your partner for the rest of your life. you cannot escape by way of incompatibility and conflict of interest.
apara - but he walked out and left us alone!
sarita - so? he's your husband and your child's father.
apara and darshan - uh........
I liked how darshan told her that sometimes two people don't work out as a couple; but they click as friends - so they should let it be at that only.
as for the rules, I agreed with most of them, except the one that didn't make the old lady happy. she was way too cute and cool
if she wants to watch TV all day, then dude, let her be! it's not like she's sabotaging any other important activity of her life for it.
overall, I think sarita is an extremely restrained and restricted due to her 'housewife' persona. too much freedom baffles and amazes her at the same time. she definitely does not identify with the working woman and her lifestyle.
2) apara - I liked her a lot more than sarita (one reason for that may be that we were shown a lot more of her) she was more sorted in regard to her thoughts and feelings, more emotionally stable, knew what she wanted in life and had a goal. I felt she had brought up a much more sensible and sensitive kid than sarita - khushali knew how to respond to certain questions relating to her parents' spit, and also seemed quite frank and open about her life.
she did well during the first 4 days - did not whine and crib too much. a dysfunctional joint family is quite a lot to cope up with, and she did a fairly good job especially considering that she's not used to so many people swarming around her at all times. I did have an issue with her constant interference in sudesh's life. firstly, she has no business inquiring about their married life, secondly, even if she wants to know about sudesh's affairs, she should have just asked him directly and if he said no, should have just let it go. but I guess she was sympathizing with sarita at that point and probed the matter from her point of view.
I agreed with most rule changes here too, except the one that banned sudesh from hukka smoking. she should have banned him from hukka smoking in the house, because it's not only bad for everyone's health, it also creates a bad environment. everyone's entitled to their own choices, and if someone smokes or drinks, it's their own choice.
coming to the families, can I just repeat how much I loved apara's mom?
she was really really sporty and I loved her little jig on sheela ki jawani
khushali, like I said earlier, seemed very sensible and level-headed, and co-operated with the new rules without putting up any resistance.
the berry family annoyed me to no end. sudesh berry is a self proclaimed chauvinist (actions speak louder than words) and is proud of it. considering how he didn't do anything except of blabbering nonsense for the whole week, I wonder if he even works or not. he sat on the couch watching the drama unfold with that irritating smirk of his. and who the hell teaches his own son to smoke?
I have come across bad parenting, but I haven't come across a dad who advocates smoking to his son. in short, he was all words and no action. he obviously didn't respect his wife and her hard work. I wonder if he even likes his family. if not, then he should have the guts to walk out and at least leave the others in peace. par phir free seva kaun karega?
he wants the seva
and doesn't want to give anything in return (money can never compensate for love). if his affairs are true, then I wouldn't be surprised.
suraj seemed like the type of guy who had no personality of his own. give him the means and avenues and he'd follow the directed path without any qualms. his dad hasn't taught him to think independently and make self-decisions.
sudesh - suraj beta, hukka piyo!
suraj - jee papa.
sudesh - suraj beta, 1 baje tak soye raho!
suraj - jee papa.
sudesh - suraj beta, abhi kaam karne ki zaroorat nahi hai, masti karo!
suraj - jee papa.
shikha was the vamp. she was limited to the kitchen and kitchen politics and didn't seem to have a personality that grew beyond that space. no wonder her husband was the quiet one
some women like sarita live in silent acceptance; some women like shikha channel out their resentment in the form of endless taunts and back-chatting. what a 'happy' family.
all in all, good episode. apara clearly scored for me here. she is a woman of substance.
p.s - the precap looks jhakaas! with all the gaalis and all
Edited by CZ.. - 27 January 2011 at 1:49pm