Posted: 26 January 2011 at 9:05pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Mili97You don't need to mention this, I know how much you missed me. Congratulations once again on your anniversary. Its a treat reading your post!
Amma's shenanigan horrified me but was not surprising. Being based in India, I've often seen on television such hysterical display put up by women belonging to rural or semi urban areas. This syndrome is usually called devi aana or visitation by the goddess or oopri chakkar or being possessed by some malevolent spirit. Infact, its quite endemic here. Once I read an article saying that this kind of hysterical behaviour is the consequence of years of repression. Its by behaving in such a weird manner that a woman lets go off her inhibitions, gives vent to her pent up frustration and not be rebuked by the society for doing so. We may revile and shun Amma for all her evil doings but somewhere even she is a victim. Treated like dirt by her husband, ignored and rebuked by her sons and daughter. Instead of facing her own reality she is keen on validating her existence by looking for new victims over whom she can rule. Sad tale of many a woman.
In realistic sense do you think it would be possible for Arushi to get back to business as usual.
How I wish kesar was helped and given refuge by some nice young man, who could have later turned into her suitor. That would have been some nemisis for the Thakurs. I am not sure how being with the Saxenas can spell new beginning for Kesar. She deserved a fresh start with a person who could shower her with love and respect. Its a pity the Cvs can't think beyond the Saxenas.
Thank you Mili!
I know what you mean. It is very important to have an outlet for our emotional baggage that builds up over time. Even the ones who get through life without trauma have to unload feelings that come up in a safe way............punching a pillow, crying your heart out, etc. is cleanses body, mind and spirit. At the end of the day we all have unprocessed emotions and feelings that are a product of what we take in through our senses and they need an outlet.
After the tamaasha on center stage the reason Takurain flipped was the extreme scenario she sees in her head.................potha machine has left. She was upset when KN was carted off to jail. But she also knew SS would handle it. When Kesar stood up for herself for the first time in her life, it was a body blow to the Takurs. She tried to stop her using her usual methods but GD overruled her. When YKW decided to bolt with GD's sign off on it, it turned out to be three strike and she flipped out. She panicked bec' her only focus now is potha, potha, potha. And that plan walked out the door and the chances went tel lene.
Her hatred of Prats grows up the hour bec' she refuses to give them a potha when they want one. It's on her timeline and she figures Prats will never let near her child. The way Takurain is behaving any parent would think twice, it can be emotionally scaring for a child to hear his/her mother being abused all the time.
I have seem those extreme rural way of handling emotions, they are raw and they really let it all hang out. I bet Asmita must have felt wiped out after that scene. I am often concerned about SS and SDS's intense emotional portrayal. They holler so much and given the number of takes one wonder what toll it would take on their health.
I was actually waiting for someone to show up and help Kesar but that would be too filmy. I may be one of the few here who thinks Kesar returning to TN is not a given. She left there of her own free will. Unless in true soap opera style the busted incubator is able to reverse itself and she can have a baby there is no reason for her to return to the Niwas. She also said she was going to carve a new future and she was steadfast in her thinking. I doubt she will return. Even if she is preggies she may keep quiet about it. She may join some organization that support women and she may learn a few skills, get a divorce, etc. Someone new could be entering the picture to help her get back on her feet and stand on her own. That is woman's empowerment.
Come to think of it Kesar is truly the woman who needs and will be empowered. Prats is just full of the talk about it. She preaches the principle but Kesar could be the one living it setting a good example to the many women who are in such situations around the world.