Posted: 26 January 2011 at 8:33am | IP Logged
Originally posted by peacefulblossom
Yeah I was heartbroken for the little child. He really didn't want to go. Especially since he was a quiet child, I'm guessing he had a very hard time adjusting to the new environment. Always quiet and in his room... probably didn't know how to talk to people and become friends. And to send a child like this to boarding school, would have a large impact to the child.
Yeah one part of me wants to believe that his parents are at fault for not taking him home for vacations. Because they took him away for vacation somewhere else but never took him back home. Thats really really strange. Maybe they brain washed him to think that his Granddad favours Sid more then himself.
But there was pain clearly in Viren's mum face when they were taking Viren to boarding school. So maybe she didn't want him to go, or maybe just normal motherly pain of her son going away. And later took the opportunity to bad mouth Sid to Viren... to take away his childhood love and devotion to be like Sid away and make him a true competitor to Sid.
But another thing... Viren really didn't want to go. And for one vacation time to come...can be enough to change someone. He might have been very young. But even at a young age you can be heartbroken. I can see him in boarding school, sitting there waiting for his family to come back and take him away. Waiting for his hero like brother (Sid) to find him again. Not being able to make friends for the shyness and not having the ability to express his feelings to others. And as each day passed...he kept losing hope and anger and hate took place where the loneliness was. And by the time vacation came... he no longer felt he needed the family that rejected him. And the family did not love him.
I am shocked too that DS didnt pay attention that Viren never came home....strange indeed. Need to find out why that was the case. I can see why DS would take a quiet child to boarding school to develop him but obviously it was the wrong move for Viren
A perfect picture of Boarding School life if you are a 'quiet child' who is usually someone who is also sensitive and if you have no siblings or friends there already.
Mt Brother went to Boarding School at 10 and though he is very self-assure and independent he also had a a lot of resentment to being sent away especially as none of the rest of us were.
Much later on my Mother found letters he wrote starting with Dear World and they were full of loneliness and why he was so unlovable- our Mother cried for days even though my Brother had returned home and letters were years old.
She said at the time her heart broke in sending him away and that she looked forward to having him back on the weekend and she always was in tears when she dropped him back, but as my Father had made the decision she thought he knew best and agreed to it. Chanchal face; her pain and tears reminded me vividly of my Mothers face every time she came back from the hostel.
If you are quiet child and spend more time alone with books rather then in the company of other children then Boarding is even more traumatic for all of a sudden you have no way to hide and children can be very cruel especially the ones that have their own group against the lone child that fits in no where.
I have guy friend who went to Boarding School and because they weren't into sport or highly studious he was picked on brutally and i know that in his twenties he had to go for counseling due to the his pent up anger and hurt to his feelings of abandonment by his Family but also to what the other boys did to him.
I doubt the Viren we see today would be the same Viren as the one who had stayed at home with the Family; he has learned to camouflage his real emotions for that how he had to survive and has taken a persona that he had to again for survival-as we saw in his entry Viren can fight and I think his nature will always to fight for those cannot for he knows what's it like to have no one in your corner.
As for not coming back it could simply be that JAAL preferred to have Viren to themselves and saw travelling as a way to broaden Viren horizons. Also after a time if no effort is made then the child does turn their back on the ones they love 'if they can't be bothered with me then I can't be bothered with them' attitude which shelters a broken heart.