Posted: 27 January 2011 at 10:10am | IP Logged
Here I am once again to splay some of my thoughts, which I had been musing over the entire night yesterday, across the boards here. It's been one heck of a week for me so I didn't get a chance to come on here and sort of put forward my opinions regrading some of the issues arising here. I mean at this point in time, really the bane of our peaceful and worry free indulgence in NivRen is infact Viren and his conspicuous hints and gestures of being part of a mysterious agenda that on the surface doesn't seem to gelling well with Nivi's card carrying supporters. Not that I am not a part of the pack- infact being a mademoiselle myself I guess you could say I empathize with her way more- but the very fact that as of now we're only really beginning to see the contours of the circumstances that led to Viren being scathing in his condemnation of Sid and his persona. Unless we are fully aware and presented with the causality, I'd say it's a bit of rich of all of us to be rushing and raising fingers at Viren. That said, I know it's hard. Like I'm not going to lie and pretend that I am not moved by the sudden revelation that Viren was infact the perpretator and at the helm of all the stalking episodes Nivi had been bestowed with. It is only natural for me to be angst ridden, and maybe even go about bad mouthing and spitting venomous threats while taking the digs at Viren. And that's only because what we've come across is a sharp reversal from the prevailing notion amongst the NivReniacs which really was the fact that Viren is Nivi's knight in shining armor who'd go to any heights to fight for her justice. Given the current circumstances, i.e that Viren's side of the story is still under the wraps, I am not going to venture into refuting this theory. Sure, we may need to go about doing some amendments to it here and there but I don't think the final gist, or really the main idea, would be any different. The main point being, which I know I am being monotonous about, that no matter how unreasonable Viren's snide smirks or gestures may seem right now, we have to wait and watch where the story is headed before flocking in and trying to put him on the same parity as Sid.
This brings me to another vexing issue at hand here and that's the whole notion of Nivi being victimized in a sense that we see her trust being toyed with again. It all boils down the same principle again in that we don't know whether that's true or not- not yet. If we're to look at from my point of view, I'm actually quite inclined on debunking this theory to be honest because, as I have been saying in the past, I take solace in the fact that I haven't come across any instances where Viren has been overt in his hatred, like literal disgust, of Nivi. That behaviour has been reserved for Sid till date which really had been putting the fact whether he does retain any feelings for Nivi to much speculation. However, as each day progresses, and as we see NivRen's story progressing in that we see more instances of their interactions, I find myself in favor of the theory that he loves her and has infact been ever since childhood. Like for instance, he always gets a little too intense in his emotions, just a bit too edgy, when he comes under the impression Nivi is in a company other than his be it on the phone, out for a picnic etc and always threatens to not spare anyone who dare resort to the mistake of ever accompanying her. The fact that he gets verbally abusive hints towards his insecure, over posessive, exceedingly intense love for Nivi. Infact one of his dialogue today- something along the lines of him not sparing anyone who dares comes in between their happiness- further bolstered the theory. In addition, his constant reiteration of the fact that he can go to any heights for Nivi's happiness, to my mind, isn't just about winning her trust. There is this sinister urgency, this hidden message in them that really exemplify a long yearning love. Coming back on to Sid and Viren being on the same parity, I just want to like totally ridicule this notion, my apologies to anyone who supports it. I don't know why but I, to put it in mildly, don't like Sid. I am sorry to say but I am unreasonably, and maybe even unjustifiably, biased against him so I hope not be infusing in my bias in our discussions here, but I think the whole point was that Viren and Sid absolutely cannot be compared due to the fact that we need the story to be making progress rather than showing a reiteration of mishaps with Nivi courtesy of her better half shattering her trust and leaving her stranded. That wouldn't make sense as we've agreed since Viren's entry. Now, let me sort of try to back this up by saying Viren's hatred is fully aimed at Sid. Taking a trip down the memory lane, Nivi condemned Sid for not backing her up when he infact knew who really was to blame. Yet he stood unmoved whilst his supposed love's heart ripped to a million pieces knowing that her own support system stands there watching the spectacle while she and her family is forced to eat dirt. Yet there he was, abiding by his principles supposedly which did nothing but encouraged injustice to take on its on its full form and be thrashed at the Sharmas. In the case of Viren, it's a total 360. Viren clearly was a victim of childhood abuse at the hands of a poor schooling system and rigorous teachers which, to my mind, are extenuating circumstances for his behaviour today. The very fact that all this happened to him at such an immature age is of the essence here. Contrary to popular thinking, him being sent away to boarding school for not being able to present a "good" report card translates into being kicked out of the house for because he's cognitively incapable and hence a "bad fruit" in the produce from a child's perspective. And that view was further exacerbated due to the fact that Sid was being hailed as a benefactor of the house at the very same time. I actually am very interested in psychological field and am actively involved in this area of the study, and one thing I can tell you right now that psychology takes pride in the fact that our brains are highly plastic, or susceptible to changes. Development of the brain, and thus your emotional well being, is not contingent solely
upon biological factors like neurons etc; social factors, interpersonal relationships are equally important in shaping you as an individual and your level of well being. There are infact windows of opportunity as we call it in the technical lingo or critical periods of time when appropriate exposure to the social environment is deemed necessary for the proper cognitive emotional development. What this means in the context of Viren is that he was kept well away from the socially accepting and inviting environment, was deprived of the happiness a close knit family bond can give, kept all his grudges pent up inside him, wondered aimlessly at his incapabilites to be housed amongst the Soods, and bear the brunt of being a part of a rigorous school and their teachers. All this led to him developing anti feelings for Sid because we humans thrive on comparing ourselves to our peers and if, the fact that he loved Nivi, yet was forced to be sent away from her while essentially gets to "play" with her, could have further exaggerated the problem. So it's only natural for him to house these feelings. I always marvel as to how kids can remember that you promised them a toy, like, ages ago whereas we can completely forget which really is reflective of childhood psychology; the point being that, honestly, Viren's hatred, his anger, his dissatisfaction is justified. We all rushed in our condolences when we saw Sid abandoning Nivi- imagine Viren being deprived of love, support, family for his entire life! That equates to Nivi's trauma times a thousand. So albeit, it is definitely mentally challenging to see through this right now, I think we'll definitely begin to appreciate Viren's side of the story once it begins to unravel. I just want to say, if I haven't enough already, that Viren is not directly manipulating Nivi because he has lost the ability to be appreciative of anyone mainly because he doesn't expect anyone to bestow any appreciation towards him. He is blinded by the fact that he has to make Sid pay. Oh and BTW this article on the main forum regarding Sid getting on the trail of Viren got me so mad. Why, you ask? It's due to this quote: "He (Sid) feels Viren has something on his mind and is trying to spoil his image in front of Nivi and the Sood family." See? It's always been about Sid's image, his egoistic nature that totally leeds me to be inappreciative of his character. So how can we EVER compare an egoist, who thrives on being hailed as the benfactor of the house and for the same reason stuck by the wrong side knowing the truth, to someone who is venting all the frustration he had kept pented up inside him since childhood?
Just a last few concluding ideas (I promise
): I think Nivi will definitely see through this. She will come out strong and will get to the bottom of this by finding answers as to why Viren is doing what he's doing. Nobody's born bad y'know? It's the circumstances that MAKE you bad, or unreasonable atleast. My understanding is that instead of going with flow i.e going on condemning Viren for what he did, like the whole family would do once they get to know the truth, she will stick by Viren's side and instead question the whole family as to what THEY did to Viren. w00t! :D
So yeah I'll end here
This has gotten too long, eh? Read it at your own risk
But I felt I just needed to say this since the forum has been on quite an uproar of late...
PS: Just remembered another thing. Let's please not talk about the whole Sid-Putul getting back together thing because that ain't happening. Period. I believe Star Plus takes pride in family values, the institution of marriage and the likes UNLIKE some other channel and their shows I know which totally has me gagging. But I digress.
And oh yeah Viren's NOT committing suicide OK? Cool.