Posted: 25 January 2011 at 10:26pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by sunflower52
After all Sid did and does you have the guts to blame Nivi and Viren. I am sorry to say Sids cowardness bought all this upon himself the pain.
If he never wanted to marry Divya he could have found a way to get out from the relationship. There are many ways, but he did not.
I used to hate it when he called Nivi PUTUL, she not a doll. I am glad she found Viren, his twisted ways at least made Nivi strong.
For once I want Sid to open his eyes and mind and mouth. So the enimity between Sharmas and soods finishes.
It's not about blaming anyone..was just stating the facts..
Sid could have got out of the relationship with Divya through several ways when his grandpa wished for the relationship in his death bed
Nivi could have thought of other ways than marrying viren inorder to bring sid and divya together for her sacrifice
sid did wrong in not supporting nivi when her father was being framed..
nivi too did wrong by marrying viren and going into the same house that insulted her family and forgetting all her earlier vows..who would ever do the act of marrying the brother of a person whom u loved and go as DIL of parents who were reponsible for shattering the dreams of ur father and for the death of u'r own mother??
viren did wrong by acting a drama in front of his whole family, utilizing Nivi and subjecting her through mental tortures for achieving his motives whatever it is ..
So here you see everyone has their own faults..
I can't see why blaming Viren and Nivi is such a big thing..
I've stated that all in the group has their faults whether it's sid or nivi or viren..
we can't just shut our eyes to the fault of a few people and justify the blames of others...
Being a coward is a fault..
Being too helpless and going against ur family in the names of sacrifice is a fault...
Using someone for achieving one's motives..well that is definitely a big fault..
Now reg putul...Nivi absolutely matches that term b'cos she has been a doll , always helpless and shy..
But till now she has not done anything to overcome that..she is still helpless in front of her CC maa
and yasodhara dadi ..when they ask her to take vow not to meet her father,dadi etc..she takes that..
I too don't like such helplessness in women ..but Nivi has always shown that and now she is blindly trusting Viren and is like a a puppet in his hands...
The nature of respecting the family and being calm is sid's nature ; viren's twisted ways and not caring for anyone in the family is his nature...well all in this world are not alike right..diff people have diff characterestics that they inherit from their parents or based on their upbringing etc..
Nivi does not have to depend on any of these guys to be strong..she has to be independent and learn how to be strong ....she has been always bound by sarifices..helplessness...doubts...confusions..
all these can never help her to get strong...if she proves to be a true woman of substance and becomes independent, then no one would call her putul or doll or whatever..
Edited by ctms - 26 January 2011 at 1:06am