Posted: 22 January 2011 at 12:41pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by xaviarahello girls *hugs*
I see some of you are back to doubting and bashing Viren, and its okay I respect your opinion, but I have been thinking about Viren and Nivi all day today ! The reason I did not say NivRen is because NivRen is when we talk about the two of them together, but they have their own individuality too !! So I tried to think about all this from their perspective.
Yesterday I had written a post about how I think Nivi will react when she finds out about Viren, so today I will talk about only Viren.
I'm going to presume here that Viren is the stalker okay ? In that case I myself and Nivi should hate him because to mentally torture someone for the sake of your revenge is truly cruel, but unfortunately I can't hate him. I will tell you why !!
When Viren arrived in Shimla, he met Nivi, and saved her honor and life. That was not pretend or fake ! He was ready to give up his own life for a stranger, that shows that he is a decent human being who respects woman, that itself is a great proof for me that he is not evil or a negative character. So if he respects woman so much and is such a decent human being, why did he use a helpless girl who is his wife to take revenge on his own brother ? That is a very vital and a interesting question ! It makes you think right ?
I don't know what happened in the past or in childhood that made Viren hate Sid so much, but I can say one thing for sure that it was not a small or a petty thing, because we cannot forget that flash back scene of Viren with Chanchal where he tells her that he has tried to take his life before, but unfortunately he didn't die, but next time there would be no mistake. Whatever happened with Sid must have been so huge, traumatic and painful that even a strong guy like Viren wanted to end his life so he does not have to live with what happened and the pain that goes with it. If that is not worrisome enough that he tried to end his life, the fact that CC had no idea that he has tried to commit suicide is something which is actually haunting me, because it shows that not only did they send him away from the family, but no one ever bothered to check up on Viren and his well being !!
Today we are all sitting on this forum and debating about what is right and what is wrong, because we all were fortunate enough to have someone guide us when we were kids !! Our parents, grandparents, our siblings, but Viren had no one, because they were all too busy with their own lives to give him the love and attention he deserved, and whenever he did visit his so called family, he was reminded time and time again that whatever he does, he will and never was good enough as Sid !!
I'm not saying that whatever Viren is doing or has done is right, no it is not, especially to Nivi, because she is completely innocent in all this, but I can understand or at least try to understand why Viren is doing all this !! Because when you have never been taught what is right or wrong, how can you differentiate ! I know most of you will say that he is an educated guy and that his teachers and educational institutes are a good place to learn about right and wrong, and yes true, but what they teach you in schools is theory, from books, they can tell you how it is, but we all practice or implement what we learned in our personal lives, and that is how we learn, because if we make a mistake, our family is there to tell us, that this is the way to do this, this is the way to differentiate between right and wrong !!!
We all have seen time and time again that Viren still acts like a child sometime, and now a days, he looks like a very angry but a lost child to me, who is hell bent on proving himself right, but is also craving for a loved one to tell him that he is right, even amidst this hatred, is that small lost child, who is dying for approval, and that is why he is leaving these clues behind, that is why he wants Nivi to question him, that is why he wants Nivi to trust him, because he wants that approval from someone he respects and cares about someone whom he can call his own !!
We all are blessed with love, family attention and care all our lives, so we can't imagine the pain, fear, helplessness that a small child goes through when he/she finds himself/herself all alone, especially when you have a family, but they just don't care. At least when you are orphan, you have a valid reason for being alone, but to have a family, and still grown up alone, fight your own demons ad this cruel world, it is every child's nightmare !!!
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That was just soooo beautifully explained.
I was also thinking about this, but I couldn't find the words to actually write down what I was trying to say, but you have done it perfectly!
Its not and never was Viren's fault that he never got a true understanding of how important a family is in building up a person.
And I also think that because he has seen SO much evil happening to him, not just by Sid, who must have done something to him, but he has also faced evil from his mum CC, and YD, who keeps on saying that Sid is always better than Viren. JW has not even been a father figure to Viren, so deep inside, I also think he wants to, not take revenge, but tell everyone how lonely he was by using evil, because thats how they treated him ... the negative way!
And besides that anger, is the anger of how everyone is treating Nivi, which he cannot and under no circumstance, will tolerate, since for the FIRST time in his life, he has found something that is HIS, and he will fight for it, even if it means giving his life away for Nivi. And seeing people HURT Nivi, HIS life and wife, do you honestly think that Viren will put up with the same treatment that was done on him, be done on Nivi? NO WAY!
So that is also another perspective of why Viren would be doing all this, Like I've said, Viren has got MANY logical explantions and justified ones that he can give, when everyone, or even Nivi finds out why Viren is doing this!