Posted: 21 January 2011 at 12:41pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by nanditasingh
Who truly deserves to do Geet's Kanyadaan?
Her Family ?
thats my answer if the question was put across me .....
Manchanda , Pinky's Dad ....a man who became father to her when her own family had disowned her , when her own father had asked her to run & save herself instead of standing ahead & defending her....Manchanda without even trying to know why she left home he welcomed her in ....He is a true father figure for me & he is one who deserves the respect & honor to do Geet's kanyadaan.
Adi, though Geet calls him Adi Sir not Bhaiya but from day they met he has been the elder brother she could wish for , unlike Brij who wanted to kill her .
Dadi Maa.... She welcomed Geet into Maan's life , Khurana house & Khurana family wholeheartedly ....even when she dint know Dev was part & responsible for any gloomy past that Geet has faced .... then too she never questioned Geet about her being lonely , on her own. Rather she made Geet trust in her as her own Dadi not just her Boss's Dadi.
She took care of Geet throughout the wedding preparation making sure Geet got all the best she deserves .....
She made Geet always feel at home & supported her against all odds ...She for me is the true Head of a Family ....unlike Darjee who blessed & sent his grandson to hunt & kill his grand daughter.
To me only these 3 people ......Manchanda , Adi & Dadi maa alone deserve the honor and right to give away Geet legally, morally, spiritually to Maan
Why not Darjee?
Isn't Darjee the one who instilled all the values that Brij executes ..... !
Isn't Darjee the one who wanted to wash off their hands by Geet wedded asap , that too without caring to check about the groom !
Isn't Darjee the one who had asked her to forget Dev or about justice !
Isn't Darjee the one who had ordered her to get the baby killed !
Isn't Darjee the one who had given Brij the order/right/permission to kill Geet !
Isn't Darjee the one who kicked out Geet coz she sent Brij to jail !
Is this what a doting grandfather do to his child ......is this the value the Head of a family stands for?
Seeing him their Geet's reaction spoke volumes about what she feels for him ....fear with some amount of disgust that made her call herself 'not Handa' anymore.
Redemption & repenting takes away the load of your own crimes & sin from your mind but never washes it away.....
If all acts of crime & sin could be so easily forgiven then God the spring & ocean of forgiveness & love could have not created a Hell for sinners to suffer ....
To me the honor of doing Kanyadaan given to Darjee is as repelling as is Dev getting the right to be called father to Geet's unborn baby.
As i see some of my friends felt i'm complaining against Maan having invited Darjee
well..if Maan asked Darjee to come ..i can see why Maan did it & i love him more for that...he let go of all ill feelings only to keep Geet stress free owing to her present health ....
But my issues are with people who think Darjee having felt bad for his crime is enough & so he holds right to perform the kanyadaan...Sorry i disagree with them
'Sorry does not make a dead man alive ....'
Geet could have been dead if not for Maan.....
What good could his redemption have done then huh!
The above is my point of view , I stand by it .... I would no doubt respect yours whether i agree with it or not .
yes i agree fully. when pinky thought that who will do geet's kanyadaan, i immediately thought of her dad. i agree that dadi, adi and manchanda should have done the kanyadaan. However, I do not blame Maan for bringing darjee. He only did that because since her sangeet geet has been missing her family. if geet had stayed strong he would not have gone to get them.
However, i also think that Cvs are trying to show that redemption is important in life if someone genuinely believes. Otherwise there never will be a word like forgiveness.