Posted: 20 January 2011 at 10:18am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Omshanti1111Rather, I would say that Viren had been blessed by God, that he was not raised by JW and CC directly. Rather, he was sent to an environment or residential school, where good family kids are sent.
I do not know what he suffered, he might have suffered a trauma or an injustice, which he could not forget. He could have turned him so good that Siddharth would have looked "insignificant" in front of him. But he chose to destroy Sid.
I give you an example, when a student gets poor marks in exam, he/she has two ways
1. He/she can work hard and excel and get better marks
2. Student can retort to unfair means like "cheating", "plagiarism".
its upto the individual and his/her values. Since Viren must be sent to a good residential school (I anticipate good school, as he is from a rich family and went to USA), he cannot blame for the degradation of his character on child Sid's actions.
Viren was not parented by CC and JW, and see that as a blessing!
The above can only be said with hindsight and from an outsiders view; as someone who's sibling did go to boarding school for that child it is very hard for them to understand why one has been 'sent away' while the other stays within the Family.
This brings about a sense of insecurity and for a child this is rationalized by 'disliking/hating' the one/s staying at home; whenever my Brother came home he was always mean and angry with the rest of us and wanted our Parents full attention on him alone-even if it was by causing fights with us.
In fact for a child it's about the feeling of abandonment, of being 'thrown out' of a loving environment and into one where love is absence.
For Viren this must have been hard and added to this was the fact neither Chanchal or Jawhar are what we would call loving parents; i very much doubt they called or visited Viren on a regular basis, neither from the sounds of things did he come home on weekends etc.
No child will consciencely blame their Parents; from a young age we are brought up in the belief that our Parents love their children beyond anything and will die for them and this is the truth for 99.9% of Parents like Vandana but imagine you are the unfortunate one who's Parents is from that 0.01% like Chanchal and Jawhar that you are just an extension of them and your life only has meaning according to how it shows upon them.
Would any child be able to bear that no matter what their age? I don't think so and it's easier to blame someone who from your eyes seems to have got everything like Siddath; for Viren it would seem that Siddath got everything; Dada Dadi pyaar, a loving caring Mother, the business, expectations of him to succeed and do well, even the wedding with all the rituals and everyone taking part down to even the photos-none of which Viren got.
No one has any expectations of Viren other then to spend money and enjoy himself and only person who does have expectations on him to become more then he is is Nivi who was Siddath love- can you see how that would infuriate someone who already feels they've lost out in everything to Siddath?
Just like the question with regards to Nivi love for Viren being on the rebound it's the same with regards to Viren anger in Siddath is in fact his rebound anger on his Parents.
Viren needs someone to look deep beyond the anger that is manifesting itself in what he is doing to Nivi to get to Siddath and actually deal with the pain and hurt underneath and heal that.
This is where i believe Nivedita strength lies the ability to heal others even if they have harmed themselves and for Nivi who has truly given her heart to Viren even when knowing the truth though hurt she will still do her utmost to heal Viren.