Posted: 20 January 2011 at 1:34am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Omshanti1111Switching from one relationship to another quickly and many a time unintentionally, with pure thought and true emotions, that the second partner is an answer to the laggings of the first partner. When a significant love relationship is broken, a partner tries to seek shelter into another person, and sees that person fulfilling all those that he/she wanted.
I think when Sid did not trust her and her father, Nivedita found Viren and Viren seemed to be a tailor cut fit for all those, that she did not find in Sid. Viren did exactly what all women want her man to do, Viren is like a dream. Nivedita being a shy, cosy and honest girl, also fell the same feelings, but as she was shy, she hesitated and retracted also. Her subconscious mind always had it that Siddharth did not side with her, what all Sid did not do. And it was like, her self found an answer to Sid in Viren.
To err is human. Every person makes mistakes, Siddharth did, Nivedita did, Viren did, everyone does and will do, as all are humans. Outcome depends on how intense the mistake is and what the motif is! Is the motif behind that mistake a remediable one, a selfish one or a completely negative one. When Nivi-Sid broke up, initially though Nivedita was upset, but still some dialogues were uttered by her "main Sid ko dukh dena nahin chahta tha" or "Siddharth aisa nahin hain" and eventually, Nivi-Sid marriage was not shown to happen because of Divya and not due to the feud of Nivi-Sid and their families.
Nivedita already has fallen in love with Viren and then Viren is being projected as the stalker? Why so? I feel Nivedita, when she comes to know, will try to do her best to save her marriage, because she loves Viren. And she can think of working for Viren's betterment, only when she loves Viren and not sympathesises with him or gets upset with him. Love is a strong emotion, it does not mean abandoning a person, whether stuck by marriage or not. Agreed, that Viren is at fault now, but "abandoning Viren" is not the answer.
Sid made a mistake, he was abandoned, Viren made a mistake, abandon him, then next what? Love does not mean "abandoning". I repeat again, "A woman of substance is one who holds her man and tries to transition him when he is at fault". She will give her try, if she is unsuccessful or if the partner is remediable or apologetic after sometime, then he/she should be abandoned.
Every person needs to get another chance, and his/motifs behind an action should be analysed and then only a decision should be reached.
I was never in favour of Nivedita leaving Sid over his one or two mistakes, nor do I support Viren being abandoned, when he has made this mistake. Viren can be remedied also, who knows!
i agree relationships should not be abandoned incase of misunderstandings.....
woman of substance is not one who endures everything & adjusts n never leaves her husband.....but one who always does & supports the right.....
Nivi should dump viren despite her love if he has ill intentions.......you can cure an ill body but not a cruel mind....