Posted: 18 January 2011 at 8:52pm | IP Logged
Adarsh is a man who follows the sanskaar, riti-riwaz that his father has tattooed in his brain. Realism has little room when idealism has taken over the greater part o f the brain .
Adarsh does say once in a while after a bout of pouting from Komal "you are my wife" while adding a jab or two about her family members at the same time to keep her in check. Just his way of saying he is better than the riffraff family she comes from. He tells her to shut up ever so often. Just proves he is far from being in love with his wife.
Komal on the other hand may gripe about her plight honestly and truthfully but she has been on the road to falling in love with Adarsh in spite of his rudeness towards her. She has been patient, helpful, took care of him after the accident and lived within the means of the Sax family and adjusted their way of life gradually. She is a young girl who lived life on her terms as a free spirit in many ways at the Niwas and now she wants Adarsh to love her and be a husband in every way so she is trying every weapon at her disposal to earn his love.
Adarsh got her bangles but she flung them when she found out he got some for his sister and Mummy too
. He took her out to eat a couple of times. He has never been portrayed as a man falling in love with his wife. Maybe he is the reserved kind of guy who can't express his feelings openly.
I wonder if he is consummating the marriage out of a sense of duty and some guilt for treating Komal the way he has all this time even after Prats accepted Krishna.I fully agree with POV coz you are being factual here. What I am trying to understand is that pushing your spouse to the edge of emotional and physical isolation and then suddenly giving in, does it inspire more loyalty and a feeling of lifelong gratitude.
I'll illustrate by giving you an example. I have a d'ter who is very fond of chocolates and incidently due to the frequent travels of my hubby our fridge is well stocked with it. Whenever my d'ter asks for a chocolate, my usual answer is a no. Consequently she embarks on a pleading spree. As soon she reaches her nth please, I very magnanimously give her a chocolate, with a suitable beatific smile on my face which says, Mummy is nice, isn't she? This serve two purpose, one my d'ter gets to know who is the boss and secondly ,I hope that it teaches her to cherish what she got.
But does this modus operandi work in a marital relationship. In MKAP it is working great but what are its long term ramifications?