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Triangular theory of love
The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. The theory characterizes love within the context of interpersonal relationships by three different components:
Intimacy ' Which encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. Passion ' Which encompasses drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation.
- Commitment ' Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other.
The "amount" of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components; the "type" of love one experiences depends on their strengths relative to each other. Different stages and types of love can be explained as different combinations of these three elements; for example, the relative emphasis of each component changes over time as an adult romantic relationship develops. A relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive than one based on two or three elements.
Forms of love
The three components, pictorially labeled on the vertices of a triangle, interact with each other and with the actions they produce so as to form seven different kinds of love experiences (nonlove is not represented). The size of the triangle functions to represent the "amount" of love - the bigger the triangle the greater the love. The shape of the triangle functions to represent the "type" of love, which may vary over the course of the relationship:
- Nonlove is the absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love.
- Liking/friendship in this case is not used in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bond, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.
- Infatuated love is pure passion. Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
- Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships may begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms.
- Romantic love bonds individuals emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal, but neither is sustained without commitment.
- Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
- Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
- Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the "perfect couple". According to Sternberg, such couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they can not imagine themselves happy over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other. However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. "Without expression," he warns, "even the greatest of loves can die" (1987, p. 341). Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.
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For me to understand are they showing a love story or a story of passion, I thought of reading on that and as I feel KMH is very inspired by KAvyAnjali for me (both seasons) but well it is only as presented will be BTish but the themes will be in a different way and now wedding have already done in the right way for the main characters,I feel this 2 scenes summarises the KMH track that will I believe this time project with less or no bloopers and in a more better scenario:
Please listen to Pammi's dialogue - where Pammi, who was the second wife of Kavya and Anjali is his love and first wife but the this episode when she was divorced and she moved on with someone else. That was the scenario but the theme here is what I feel goes with KMH but the scenario shall and pray will be different,especially Pammi's all dialogue - chahat and pyar dialogue - amazing dialogue and relates the KMH track for me and really looking forward to see it explore in a KMH way and not in those ''unwanted unreal twists.''
And this one is good too to give me a feel Arohi will be a character mixture of Anjali and Pammi;-) Pammi dialogue all the way was amazing.
Again Pammi's dialogue;-)
It just summs eveything I want to say for the moment
A fusion from KavyAnjali and Kutumb for me in the upcoming track on KMH while the themes are what I have seen from KavyaAnjali and Arohi's character grows again as the character from Gauri of Kutumb2 to Gauri in Kutumb1 with this bit of the plot attached:
''Gauri who is different from the rest of the girls but destiny plays its role and they are attracted towards each other. Even though they have a lot of differences, Gauri & Pratham end up getting married! Pratham hates her free spirit and is determined to teach her a terrible lesson in humility! The spirited Gauri rises to the bitter challenge her weapons being her values, determination, honesty, and inherent simplicity. The dilemma remains after their marriage that will Pratham succeed in humiliating Gauri, or will she teach him a lesson instead? Will Gauri ever find love and acceptance in this powerful family?''
Both Kutumb and KavyAnjali were hit shows,I did not watch Kutumb but I like the plot. I am really looking forward how KMH is going to unfold on these 2 fusions.
Edited by Eshu11 - 19 January 2011 at 4:16am