Posted: 16 January 2011 at 9:02pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by serialwatcher16
Originally posted by Opti
Hi Usha, loved your takes. Admire you for giving up your career for your kids. Your kids are lucky. I'm guilty of not giving my son enough time as I get busy at work and too fagged out at home. Hope to rectify this soon.
Yes, some youngsters and some not so young fail to understand relationships and prioritize their lives. Life is more difficult for people in the entertainment industry, where the temptations are strong. It is one reason why I admire GC for sticking to his gal for so long. People keep comparing him with SRK and wonder why he cannot be like him - talk less and show more in action but no two individuals are alike. The guy was always wearing his heart on the sleeve. People might find that foolish and irritating but then that is the man he is. I personally find him fairly grounded for he has not let success get to his head. I may like Maan more than GC but then Maan is fantasy and not reality.
When you live in india, you don't have a choice. Both my hubby and myself had decided that if and when we have kids we were going to be responsible for our kids and not a maid. I can't be made at my hubby bcos he did not force me to quite. it was my decision.
When we went for school interviews for my first kid, ya, in delhi the parents used to be interviewed for giving a kid school admission, i was asked, why did u quit your job. I told the principal, it was a case of sheer economics. my hubby would have been happy to quit his job and taken care of the kid and done a better job of it but he earned more and so the decision became simpler. even today i don't consider myself indispendable. If and when i want a break my hubby can take care of both of the kids. he won't do it my way, he will just do it his way. He will feed them cheese sandwiches and ensure they are not hungry. So that is okay.
But one thing you miss when you quit work is your contact with the outside world and what is happening in it.
I saw a movie called Julie & Julia. The younger female in that goes through depression @ 30 but I thought it is relevant for indian women @ 40. from 30-40, life goes through effortlessly. you are bringing up kids, you are looking good, and there is no time to think negative thoughts. But after 40 your kids dependency on you reduces, there is more time available, you meet friends who ahve not made the choices you have and have gone far ahead in their careers and then ......you start thinking. It is then that you need a supportive hubby who says thanks instead of what did you do.
@ USHA.........hi darling...me too am a home-mummy ..byt choice....like you
gave up permanent positions thrice...twice when kids were born and once when my hubby was studying...coz I wanted to give priority to home and kids...
In US to maids bhi nahi milti.....was hard to give the income.....and social contact...worse people used to look at me as if Im mad..when I used to tell them abt my decision...
But Im happy..my kids are happier now..my hubby constantly tells me that because Im taking care of everything else in his life he is doing much better at work...something even his boss remarked about...that tells me I made right decision. Feel more content tnow...but miss going outside everyday...I think Im making up for the social contact from this forum.