Posted: 17 January 2011 at 5:03am | IP Logged
Originally posted by starlight123
Originally posted by yummimommy
I'm about to make many people angry but it is not my intention. I' ve thinking of this whole A and Kesar situ and I'm not convinced that A is to be blamed for ruining Kesar's life.
Let me stress first that I hate A character and nothing will change that but she is also not responsible for everything that goes wrong on the show. Yes she should go to jail for bigamy!
My ? is......how is Kesar's life any worse than it was before A came. Did she have any rights as a wife or DIL? Her husband had pushed her out of her bed long before A and he had brought other women into her bed . Amma's treatment of Kesar had become worse since the loss of the baby. She was treated like a servant by KN , Amma, and SS.
I've missed many epi of the show I admit but I don't think that A even vaguely suggested that KN should go and rape Kesar. That was KN all by his lonesome. If you get rejected by one woman it doesn't mean you can go and rape another . KN didn't have to have immediate gratification. He needed to put his wee wee back in his pajama . The rape was all him.
My take is that whatever Shakti has done is his own doing. Arushi's decision to marry was for selfish reasons and not once did she think about Kesar. Her hasty decision has led to such collateral damage where once idle threats have become reality.
Thakurs and Arushi were playing their own game. Each were using each other for their selfish reason. Now to make one look totally innocent and playing the victim is not correct when all should get their comeuppance. Why should Takurs pay whilst Arushi is let off? Just because she is a Sax and she is Pratigya's sister should not mean she should escape justice.
All I hope for is that the Saxes reflect on this that one decision by them can have far reaching consequences. They are not victims in this and putting blame on others when your own kin has done wrong is not correct.
Oh I am sooo glad I dipped into this thread!!!!!!
I have been in such a militant mood after writing a post on another thread which I'll copy here too coz I'd love to hear your comments.....I had willed myself to stay schtumm but then I'm not bery good quiet!
So I let the dam burst and all my fire and brimstone spewed out, henceI feel a bit like a deflated tyre!!!!
Great post Huma and you Star!!!
Am so glad to find myself agreeing with you guys, an approach I consider a lot more balanced than some round here......
Here's what I wrote.... go get a cup of chai before you do though, it's a long-un!!!
"People - this is fictional!
Can you simply not see that analyising on a real life basis is a fallacy in itself?
The potholes are enormous, no character is blameless or blameworthy in their entirety, which is the only realistic part - life is simply not black and white but many shades between.......
this diraama is virtual, people, but in my opinion, if the analyses here are remotely indicative of how some people here would deal with real-life issues, then I am seriously worried......
Revenge of woman spurned gainst married man..........erm not an entirely unheard of situation but in this scenario, exactly what would be gained by the spurned woman, that wouldnt be simply momentary?
The married man is firmly married to woman he prefers to be with,on his way to have baby, so what is the flippin point of wasting energy on revenge? exactly what is going to change in any great material way in the future of the spurned woman? Nothing, I would suggest, other than positive action and getting on wid life is what will help such a woman...in these circumstances, revenge is time and energy wasted unless all you want is a brief moment of satisfaction.....
The pitiful first wife and serially abused woman - is in my opinion a lost cause. Am opportunity raised itself to stand against her oppressor(s) and that opportunity was wasted. Any woman that fails to stand against such people, at the point where her own child is murdered n the womb, is beyond redemption. This woman had a choice and I dont care if someone screams until theyre blue in the face at me that I'm wrong , I will still refuse to accept that a woman does not have a choice to walk away from such people if not even bring herself to take action against them. Every day on this earth is a new opportunity to do things differently This woman never has and never will.
As for holding others reponsible in some way for her untimely death (should that happen) that is utter crap. The person reponsible for her death is the one that carries out - no other person's actions can be said to be responsible. That's like saying you and me have an argument, you choose to walk out of it and get in a car and drive off in a rage, get angry coz some other motorist shouts at you for your mad driving, you get out and thump that motorist who falls on the pavement and dies - I guess that's my fault huh?? NOT!
The point I am trying to make is that no one is as good as you think they are and by the same token no one is as bad either. This is a fictional situation and even in real life things are never so clearly defined, because one persons heaven is another's hell....what i fid really difficult to digest however is the wide berth that ought to be given to this diraama when it suggests it is representative of reality, people cant use their own common sense to make up their mind whether these are mere words to entice you to watch a serial or whether they speak the truth.
And another thing!
Arushi standing up to Sakti is no problem to me whatsoever!
At least she has reached a point it would appear where she no longer cares whether she gets hurt, hit, killed or otherwise, but will stand up for what she believes is the right thing for her to do, unlike Kesar, and not just give in to her misery. Unlike revenge, fighting for the right to to live a life your way, or in Kesar's case fighting for the right to exist, is a fight worth spending time and energy on.
I sooo hope the CVs have got us all in a twist for nothing and Kesar will be shown to finally rise up and take no more from the TNs - in which case I will take it all back about her being hopeless.
Otherwise in my opinion, she would have had a better life as a cow, who in that country are at least fed amd looked after, and worshipped if lucky.....
Phew........................I'm cream-crackered after that!!!!!!