Posted: 23 May 2011 at 11:23pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by blue-ice
Being idealistic in one thing and being practical is another...there are a lot of things which can be learned only from experience and not from books..
As someone whose life has been defined by 'reading', I disagree strongly with the trivialization of books. True, literature is not for everybody. True, many books are just fantasy and fiction. However, the thing about experience is that it is limited to ourselves and the world around us. There is so much to learn, that experience or all knowledge put together can barely scratch the surface. Books have the power to transport us to different places, different times, different worlds so we learn not only through our experiences but the experiences of people within the books, the experiences of people who wrote the books, the experiences of people who read, teach and share the books.
Of course a book like Harry Potter may not teach one about the the challenges of parenthood or what it is like to be a parent. But whether its a classic or some the new pop-fiction books often plant seeds of thoughts in our minds. Thoughts about right and wrong, thoughts about how the world should be, how people should be. In that essence as a reader Dumbledore is right in saying that it does not matter what we are born as, but what we grow up to be. Its a pivotal lesson, not just in terms of sexual orientation - but all the other themes and experiences that Harry Potter touches on from racism, to xenophobia, to class warfare - from minor discrimination to slavery and hate crimes. A profound thought that ought not be trivialized because its just a teen fantasy fiction book.
Of course as an avid reader I'm as touchy about literature as I am about civil rights. I'd be lost if I were to choose between the two.
Parents will have expectations of their children. They have these because they love them. They have expectations for children to fit in, be loved, be successful, be respected, and all sorts of things. Of course parents are disappointed when these expectations don't come true. Its because they are afraid for their children. They will discourage children from choices in career, relationships and many things - not to hold them back - but because they don't want anything less in life for their beloved children.
However, there comes a time in every parents life where the parent realizes that the dreams they see and their children see are different. That their children are happier and content pursuing their own dreams. That a harder career, tougher times, and a harsher society is not as bad as long as they can pursue their dreams. There comes a time when parents find their children going against dreams and falling for people who maybe outside their race, nationality, religion and sometimes yes the same gender. There will be heartbreaks and disappointments yes, but there also comes a time when parents see that their kids are mature, responsible people, that they understand love and relationships and have found someone who is good and right for them. There comes a time that parents realize that it does not matter what the world thinks but that parents stand by their choices. Not just because they are parents, not just because they love their children, but because its the right thing to do and it not ought to be any other way.
If after the experiences of life, if after seeing things from a different view, parents are still disappointed by their children or regret their choices - then I have a hard time understanding or respecting that parent child bond. And parents are not the only ones who have to make the hard choices and sacrifices for children. For every child that defies everything for their own dream, there is a child who will live a lie for their parents dream, whatever it maybe .
In the end who are we to know what God or nature wanted. Gay people are completely capable of procreation, while straight people are not. Procreation is an act of nature for which marriage, relationships, commitments none of these are required. And everyday people gay and straight alike engage in these relationships for aspects much more deeper than procreation, sometimes procreation is out of the question because of some natures twisted ways. If procreation is the be all and end of nature, then the entire fabric of human society is a system against nature.