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Posted: 14 January 2011 at 10:11pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by K.Resurrected.

Originally posted by Believe

Mister K...just curious to know why u closed ur old ID and created new K.Resurrected. Smile



Why did I cancel my old ID? I wrongly assumed that my job here is done.

Why did I create this ID: to finish off the job that I started.

How long would the job take? Depends on you people. --Please dont do ur job, depend on others thats my request...Smile

What is the job? Whatever I am doing now.
 
Gr8...keep the good works......Thumbs Up

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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 12:03am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Midnight_Shade


Haha, I like your approach a lot! That's about as much concern this whole thing deserves. I wish I could start afresh with that attitude but too bad that ain't happening. *SIGHS* I also like the fact that you're open to change and what you may like today might not have the same appeal tomorrow. I don't understand how some people can hold the same opinion about things and people for years. I'd rather have a flexible mind that is open to change with new inputs than a stagnant one that won't budge no matter what.


Change and flexibility is good, but change is a part of us. Why should anyone need a new identity when they change. Tomorrow if you prefer some others over Priyanka and Shahid - you don't stop being Middy do you? If you have a falling out with a friend, relations have changed - but you are still Middy right?

The real world is not easily forgiving. All accomplishments and achievements are credited to you, but so are the mistakes and regrets. Its not a different person doing different things. Evolve with time - but evolve as a personality - not multiple personalities.

At least thats my take. I guess some people take advantage of multiple personalities and strange behaviors online because that freedom is not there in real life.
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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 12:13am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Midnight_Shade

Originally posted by K.Resurrected.




I can understand what you are saying here but I don't subscribe to that philosophy. The fundamental difference in attitude here is that you drew a concrete line between real life and virtual life where as I didn't. I recognize for a fact that behind every identity here, there is a flesh and blood human. I don't need to see them, I don't have to see them, I am not interested in seeing them but if I want to, if I hitch myself to the right network on the information superhighway, I possibly can. But it doesn't matter what kind of a face is awaiting me on the other side, what gender and what age. The messages (of substance) that they have posted in the past are a good indication of who they are. I would more likely than not deal with them just the way I deal with them on the net.

All my money is there, electronically, somewhere in a bank. That's what we all believe. It is relatively easy to materialize this electronic version into real currency. But we don't do it, at least, not all of it. The analogy ends there, in the sense, it is relatively easy to meet and greet a person from the virtual world, if there is a will.

Unless you work for the FBI or the CIA, I don't see a reason why you shouldn't be the same person on the net who you are in real life.

Mister K, it sounds more like you're talking about faking identity on a forum. Faking your sentiments and faking your identity are two very different things.
I draw a line b/w RL and VL but not a concrete one. Just a hazy one. However, I realize that my post might have given off cynical vibes and that I should have toned it down a bit. By not being genuine, I wasn't implying that you give out false info to people and don an entirely different avatar that doesn't correspond one bit to the real you. That's just not right. Only a loser has to lie to kick it! I am indeed 20 yrs old and I do indeed live in California and I promise on all things dear to me that I'm not lying.LOL I was talking about the genuineness of your sentiments, not your identity. You don't always have to show what you feel and feel what you show. Firstly, I don't need the entire forum knowing the inner workings of my mind. Secondly, after you end up in a couple of members' hit list, being genuine on open forum is inviting trouble. You let slip a chink in your armor and they're gonna hit you where it hurts the most, pick on it like a vulture until you completely drain out. Better to not let your guard down at all when you know that there are people looking for an opportunity to strike. You know what I'm saying? But you can definitely come clean with those who you consider your friends.
At the end, I say it all comes down to your past experiences.

@Sunny: I hope that answers your question too.


I understand what you mean when you ask people to take a tighter rein over their emotions. I agree in principle. But we can't assume that all denizens are mature enough to do that. From what I saw, people don't think twice to open up their hearts and their minds to complete strangers here on the forums. While what they are doing is probably not advisable, this topic is not about how they should be controlling them. (I think) this topic is about what incidents prompt people to take decisions that are a little radical in nature and, subsequently, what is the responsibility of their once inner circle, who hobnobbed with them during the good times but show a don't care attitude after the incident.
Righto! In that case, coming back to the original topic, I do feel sad when people who I've let into my inner sanctum leave but it's a very transient feeling and it goes away after a while. Granted, the bonding that I once shared with them can't be cleansed from my system the way toxins are flushed out of your liver. But we eventually do get over the blues. I don't see how it would work otherwise. As for some people not acknowledging their friend's departure, they might be too duhed to say anything or it might have bothered them so much that they can't even bear to talk about it. Or they mighta been beaten down so much by these "self-bans" in the past that it isn't newsworthy anymore. Or they might still be in touch with that person through other means. Or they might indeed not give a damn. Anything is a possibility. If they're choosing to stay mum about it, I would respect their decision instead of misconstruing their silence as not giving a damn or anything else for that matter.
Anyway, after reading the entire post, I agree with you for the most part, Mister K. The only part where we differ is that you believe in "what-you-see-is-what-you-get" policy whereas I believe that what you see is not always what you get.

Even if I own a stadium / court / arena, I still need good players to play ball if I want to attract the crowds. That's probably a thinly veiled message that I originally wanted to pass to whom-so-ever-it-may-concern.

I agree with that.

 
 
Ek simple matter ko itna complicate kyu bana rahi Middy...Big smileLOL 
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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 3:06am | IP Logged

Originally posted by Midnight_Shade


 I was talking about the genuineness of your sentiments, not your identity. You don't always have to show what you feel and feel what you show. Firstly, I don't need the entire forum knowing the inner workings of my mind. Secondly, after you end up in a couple of members' hit list, being genuine on open forum is inviting trouble. You let slip a chink in your armor and they're gonna hit you where it hurts the most, pick on it like a vulture until you completely drain out. Better to not let your guard down at all when you know that there are people looking for an opportunity to strike. You know what I'm saying? But you can definitely come clean with those who you consider your friends. At the end, I say it all comes down to your past experiences.

@Sunny: I hope that answers your question too.

somewhat yes, Middy. I can understand members not wanting to disclose all their feelings in an open forum. But again faking sentiments or views doesnt serve any purpose, my opinion. IDs are anyway all fake.

As for some people not acknowledging their friend's departure, they might be too duhed to say anything or it might have bothered them so much that they can't even bear to talk about it. Or they mighta been beaten down so much by these "self-bans" in the past that it isn't newsworthy anymore. Or they might still be in touch with that person through other means.
Got to agree here. Members usually do bid goodbye and inform their"close" friends who matter to them about their plans of departure and take steps to keep in touch if they care enough. In that case since they are already in touch they wont be lamenting their departure.
 
Or they might indeed not give a damn. Anything is a possibility. If they're choosing to stay mum about it, I would respect their decision instead of misconstruing their silence as not giving a damn or anything else for that matter.
Makes practical sense!

 The only part where we differ is that you believe in "what-you-see-is-what-you-get" policy whereas I believe that what you see is not always what you get.

Yes, Appearnces may deceive LOL

[K] Even if I own a stadium / court / arena, I still need good players to play ball if I want to attract the crowds. That's probably a thinly veiled message that I originally wanted to pass to whom-so-ever-it-may-concern.

I agree with that.
[CS] True, but you cant force the players to play against their wishes, even if you want to! Confused



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Posted: 15 January 2011 at 3:27am | IP Logged
Originally posted by psychoboblehead


Let me talk of my personal acquaintances here.

I don't spam the forum, post sexually explicit content or misbehave and get banned. Distinct, it is my addiction to KSG which makes me loathe him and his lifeless fan girls . After an over worked day or amidst an awfully boring day .. logging on to this website and engaging myself on an e-fight or whatever makes me feel that life is good . When I don't get paid for posting here, why bother about ethics, conduct, conscience and conventions ... likewise establishing an existence here.. when the admins are aware of me changing id's .. what's the big deal ?

I'm someone who is not the same everyday. I may love something today and hate the same tomorrow .. specifically having to do with the insignificant priorities like IF, Facebook, MSN, Chat and etc ... makes me care a damn .. I reckon, its an extremely private affair .. So is the case with members asking for a private ban, which is again a personal choice .. So why bother ?
Out of the many reasons cited here for closure of IDs this was something that never occured to me LOL nor did the one about forgetting the passwords LOL
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