Originally posted by SaffyFlower
Originally posted by Tanyaz
Very good Saffy .Excellent post .You are right .Manav still has not learned how to be tactful with relationships ..Men are usually slower than women .He did dump Archu that day and good job her parents were there because she was unconsious and that drunkard ...uff ..
He was also goin to come back from his honeymoon when his mother tried to trick him .When will he realize what his mother is all about..
Well , now it does looks like he regrets his pervious behaviour and is trying to make it up to her ..I hope he learns the meaning of being one ..Archana is his biggest strength and his love , his existance is what keeps her going .....
They are a beautiful couple , even when the yare just walking on a roadside holding hands ....
With Tarun back in his life and hopefully even satish , there will be no looking back for Manav .I can't wait to see him making money and romancing Archu in style .....
I suppose Archu will make it up with Vinod , probably Manav will bring them back together and also Punni ...
TannuDi,Manav has much to learn from Ajit on how to be a husband and son - actually Rassi and Savita are mirrors of each other -
- they adore their son,
- but won't let their son have the pleasure of physical intimacy with their wife,
- do badi badi baaten about sanskaar and saath phere but want to get rid of the wife,
- hate their DIL with open display of humiliation,
- call their DIL bad luck bcoz they had some prev loss in life - sachin in the case of savita,her family riches in the case of Rassi ,
- both tried to physically hurt their DILs,
the truth is both hate their DIL for only one reason - their ego that there is another woman in their son's life - frankly speaking,they behave as if their DIL is their souten
This is after they know,how much their DIL adjust,are good wives and are loved by their husband.
I think savita and rassi are attention seekers and did'nt get enuf from husbands,so cannot stand to see their DIL happy with their son
And savita does not have to look far - Bhavna accepted Varsha although she wanted Archu,Varsha killed her grandson intentionally - still she behaved as a MIL should and as a mother should, with dignity and denceny,coz she truly loves her son
Tommorrow Archu as well as Vandu are going to be living in a chawl on their hubby's meagre earnings,walking in and out of small jobs.Are they gonna behave like savita and drive their hubbies to drink,throwing gaalis at everybody around them??
I see no reason why savita shud be excused even today for her gaali giving motor mouth which has ruined her family,she is the reason why her family is dysfunctional.
You wanted to know who are the biggest hypocrites in the show - these 2 dysfunctional substandard mothers and hateful mother-inlaws are the biggest hypocrites
Imagine Manav's immense frustration with this monster mother after sacrificing the prime 15 yrs of his life for her - Kudos to him for telling her - u cannot understand my needs despite being a mother when a wife can
savita thinks only she can vent her anger and frustration,others dont have emotions? She deserves this laati from her son,nobody else can sudarofy her.
But Ajit let his mother go off when she crossed the line trying to hurt vandu - when he told her she was wrong,she huffed and puffed but came back with her tail between her legs .Today Rassi and Vandu are living under 1 roof saving Ajit some money for not having to pay dual rent
and giving a chance for reconciliation - the fact is - A man's zimmedari lies equally between his parental family and wife - the oath of marriage enforces that he provide for her security and needs.It is one of the pheras
The day Manav cannot support his wife,he should make arrangements that she is provided for by somebody else - relatives,friends,neighbors.Here the means does not matter,the end part - the provision,security - matters
Manav failed when he chose sachu over Archu- he made no arrangement for her support - specifically when she was invalid as well - Insaniyat Baba failed in Insaniyat ,Zimmedari Baba failed in Zimmedari.
Even a decent stranger on the streets wud take an invalid ill woman to safety and ensure her basic well being.
Sick Archu was invalid and helpless,it was'nt like she had a simple stuffed nose,u know.Wat is different between her and a helpless baby then?Sulo's question to him was apt.
In reverse,savita's naatak burning those sarees that manav was not paying her bills was not the same case.Manav had no job ,no money to support himself.It had nothing to do with his wife disallowing him to pay his parents bills.If he had money,expecting him to share makes sense.When he had none,wat cud he do?
But as usual,loud savita makes herself a false victim.
Frankly,our own fathers and grandpas have juggled huge joint families with greater dissent and resentment,wat Manav is going thru is nothing
but he chooses to disfigure his face everytime -
when one eye itches,he blinds the other - that is how he balances his parental home vs his home.And this man has the greatest kismat to do all this kartoot - he has a perfect wife who gives up everything to satisfy his wants - something u wud expect a mother to do actually
WoW! Saffix in real form today.
Your take on Savita mirrors my thoughts undilutedly.
Especially when her agressive behaviour is often justified as a reaction to the adverse circumstances faced by her in life. By the same logic manav, who was burdened at an early age by disproportionate responsibilities should have turned out the same way as his mother.
And as you rightly pointed out, so would have her daughter.
But the basic goodness and strength of character of these two causes them to behave in such a dignified manner even in the face of adversities. Especially vandita, who has suffered so much. I do not think that it is because they are weak-minded. Rather the opposite.
In life, all of us react differently when faced with troubles. But , in my opinion, the weakest are those who consistently blame others for their troubles and refuse to look inwards sometimes.
If Archana's entry in Manav's life has been blamed for Savita's troubles (albeit indirectly) , by the same logic savita's entry in Archana's life has also resulted in great misery for her. Archana's intentions were never to trouble Savita but Savita took pleasure in tormenting Archana.
Again, it is not as though both had a trouble-free life prior to gaining entry in each other's lives!
For me savita personifies greed , selfishness and weakness of character redeemed a small way by her love for Manav. I do not like her when she is against Archana . Nor did she win my support when she was for Archana. Her character portrayal has been one of the most inconsistent in PR, which has many many inbuilt inconsistencies, anyway.