I'm Gori married to (??who??) Indian

Thank you for your reply; our differences in culture and values were actually some of the main things that attracted me to him and i'm very open minded to religion but have little knowledge of caste... i'm more spiritual than religious and his religion is very spiritual so i'm thrilled and often entertained with all the amazing stories.

i know when i speak to his family they often are disheartened with his behavior and tend to brush it off but they are very supportive of the relationship and i believe the put him in rehab to help me; i think maybe his drinking has given him an air of arrogance that they have supported or ignored till now.

I am not adapt to dealing with issues in relationships, so working through things is not something that i'm accustom to; admittedly, i am very successful and generous and i've never needed a male to 'fill the gap' but i really care about my Husband and this is truly the first time i've even tried to work at something. I can not speak for his heart but yes i believe he loves me, very much. 

I really hope that he falls in love with Australia and our way of life.

Consequences for his lying is, as i see it Rehab; i'm thrilled his family have been supportive of this; again, i've not ever wanted to work through issues with a man; if in the past i've been lied to, i've simply put an end to the relationship... i do not see an end to this marriage, just a better understanding, so confrontation is new ground for me. 

I really believe that i can love him and learn to not tolerate criticism. I think I have allowed the behavior and therefore I also have an issue "appeasing people".

I really appreciate the time you have taken to respond. India is a massive country (divided in to many countries), there is so much to learn and it's very exciting!! my mother worked with mother Teresa in India so she has a sound knowledge of the culture/s and also adores my husband...

again thanks =D