Posted: 03 January 2011 at 4:09pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Dancingdoll
MB, You actually bring forth an interesting point that I thought might be mutually exclusive (Black Bold
and Red Bold
) ....As I was telling Zuby, As a human, I would agree that he is entitled to display anger, hatred for the human
that Seema represents....and hence, I would totally agree with the Black Bold point....
but when you say, "re-live" the trauma, are u including some kind of feelings or emotions, something that surges from his past emotions that he shared with Seema? An intense pain?....Because being angry with a human being because they are betrayers can be different from "pain" beccause pain would imply u r still connected to that human being in some way, that he/she still holds the power to affect u.....Wouldnt Naku's love be the reason to break that connection inadvertently?
My friend actually went thru an exact reaction that u have stated and I was confused because I found both the aspects mutually exclusive if u have true love in your kitty now....
DD, when I say 're-live the trauma' I mean the trauma...not 'left-over' feelings of disappointment, lost love or confusion in any shape or form, because that is long gone now...the 'intense pain' that he might feel will stem not from the fact that he will remember his time with her or that his heart was stamped on, but because his person and dignity was...and more than anything, because of what he became after he was done with her. And definitely...Seema does hold a huge amount of power over him still. He still hasn't been able to forget and forgive...he still brings up her name when hurt...so of course he is connected to her, but in a negative relationship of pain and damage...and I don't think that's something to look down upon or question in light of Nakku's love and what it should have done for him, because we are all in negative relationships somewhere or the other, even if they are passive or now dissociated...and when this relationship becomes 'active' for Dutta upon seeing Seema again for the first time after so many years, he will react, but this time completely...i.e. he will reflect on what he has in life now and there will be realization that it's time to liberate himself from this relationship, which is when he will reach the 'indifferent' state.
Nakku's love being reason enough...the way I see it (and tell me if you do too, because we might just be meaning the same things but going around in circles because of the words
), she is like a salve...she can apply herself in the best of manner to Dutta's being, but the body (i.e. Dutta himself) has to react and work in harmony with the medicine to achieve healing...she can give him reason enough, the motivation, inspiration and help to leave behind the ugly past...but at the end of the day, he has to put fire to those demons himself and this will only happen after he acts like a human, goes through the whole process in his own way...Nakku (or any other man or woman for that matter) cannot automatically erase all issues just by loving
...that love can be an incentive or support to tackle and solve the problems life throws at you...but the change has to come from within yourself
...and Dutta has it within him with the help of Nakku's love to be able to do that...there will be a process and it can't be expected that all the pain and hurt vanished unknowingly while that relationship between Seema-Dutta was still inactive...
Do I still make sense or am I just rambling?