Posted: 17 January 2011 at 12:06pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by nureat01
Originally posted by psawyer
Speaking for myself, I can safely say that growing up where I did, I often find it a struggle to understand certain aspects of the Indian way of living. And that sometimes I wonder whether I could ever live in India after living here.And I have no doubt that if I had been born and grew up in India, I would not have those particular doubts but perhaps I would have doubts about the Western way of living. We are who we are, and who we are is shaped firstly and largely by where we are, what surrounds us, what we experience in life, what we see others experience. It's basic anthropology, not an assessment of anyone's character.
I will never really be able to understand that cuz I've lived in both India and the U.S....I don't know how ppl in the U.K. think.....and this isn't about "doubting" a certain way of living....I don't really get why one would even look at in that serious a manner to begin with.....everyone loves the place where they are born and brought up.....what is there to discount in either? I personally wasn't labeling the entire Western population as being "without morals" on the basis of the bedroom musical chairs in English shows either. I hadn't even said anything but you brought in the viewpoint of how I view this differently based on where I'm originally from.....I don't have any "doubts" about the western way of living.....reality check is that if you go and see the way ppl live in the metro cities of India these days, there isn't much difference left....so can't really draw such distinct lines anymore.
@bold: I thought I already agreed on that
....but it's too broad a point to bring in here that just cuz I happen to be straight up from India, I am not able to deal with ppl sleeping around in English shows.
I don't believe I said anywhere that you had any "doubts" - I was talking strictly about myself and MY experience. You said it yourself - you don't understand it because you have lived in India and the US. So you have that experience. Since I have only lived in the UK, my experience is different. I'm sure that if I moved to India tomorrow and lived there for a few years, then my experience would possibly change. That's the whole point.
I also don't think I said anywhere that, because you lived in India you can't deal with people sleeping around in western shows. What I said was that it was *interesting*, from a human and an anthropological point of view, and in a very general way, how two people can have very different reactions on the same or similar situations and points of reference. And that a large part of that comes from where they
come from. Inferring something else from what I said would be putting words or feelings in my mouth and mind that I don't have. Whether a person is from India, China or Timbuktoo doesn't have an ounce of effect on their character; only that a part of who they are comes from that. And yes, I'm repeating it again because - and now I'm inferring something so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong - it seems to me that you think I was attacking you with what I said, or dismissing the validity of your opinions. I wasn't, and words like "dehati", "conservative" etc were used by you and not me, because not once did I think them or want to say them. What I wanted was to have a semi-intellectual debate but we seem to have descended into something else. I'm interested in human behaviour and why we do what we do, and that was simply an extension of that interest.
Khair, jaane do.
@Mash - lol, there's a level of fangirlism??
Edited by psawyer - 17 January 2011 at 12:13pm