Posted: 12 January 2011 at 9:36am | IP Logged
Originally posted by LadyMcbeth
red - THAT is one thing that irks me out. I detest the formula where they show a super model dressed like a geek, under-dressed or plain Jane and then one fine day she gets a make-over and ta-da! She looks de bomb! In India, parlors and saloons have minted money under the guise of making-over plain Janes *rolls eyes* IMHO, every girl has a basic dressing sense. i.e. every girl knows what looks good on her etc ... if she gets a little help, and she watches around her, she can look presentable. There is no need to look like you are oozing sensuality like Malaika Arora Khan everyday. You just need to look presentable. And you can do that without going to expensive parlors. A balanced diet and regular exercise can make even a normal person fit. And what's more important is to be confident and feel beautiful from inside - even if you wear a salwar kameez (like I did back in college and I was never called behenji), it shouldn't make you look downmarket if you choose what suits you and wear it with elan and poise.
blue - WORD Vasu
@Blue - absolutely! I completely and totally agree with you here, LadyM!
Not every girl can be a supermodel; otherwise we wouldn't have supermodels. But every girl has beauty...her own, unique beauty. And all a girl really needs is to take care of herself - as you say, eat right, exercise, moisturise and take care of her skin regularly, smile and most importantly, FEEL good about herself. She can be a size 12 or a size 20 but if she is happy and confident in her own skin, that's all that matters. I have seen and admired many women who might not be fit the well-known standard of beauty. They may not be gorgeous. But they can be sexy, and they can be pretty.
You can have all the plastic surgery in the world - and so many women these days end up looking exactly the same as the next person because they're following this standardised ideal of beauty - but you can't change your skin, can you? You can't peel your skin off your bones and start again. All you can do is look after it, and really look at yourself. See what suits you, clothes and otherwise, and what doesn't. So many people (some actresses are notorious for this) wear clothes that absolutely do not fit their body frames at all, simply in the name of fashion. Not only do they often look ridiculous, they look uncomfortable. And that shows on their faces. I for one am fairly tall, and I know that when I wear short tops, I look weird because my top half doesn't balance against my longer legs. So I've learnt to wear longer tops, and on me they look more elegant and suit me more than the shorter tops ever did. People need to figure out what suits them and stick to that. Fashion is one thing, and it comes and goes. But style is not fashion....what's fashionable and what's stylish are often two different things.
And this "Ugly duckling into swan" syndrome that much of the world has - Holly, TV. desi, whatever....it reinforces this negative ideal that girls have to be pretty to be loved. And of course, underneath the glasses or the braces (the typical ugly-fying tools
), she is gorgeous anyway. Many women wear glasses and look sexier with them. Braces, sure, aren't the sexiest thing in the world....but they only last so long and are there for a medical purpose rather than an aesthetic one. No one ever wore fake braces to look "smart"
But the point is, I get tired of this constant "girls are thin, tall, have flawless skin and glossy long hair and wake up looking gorgeous" indoctrination on TV. Women are of all shapes and sizes, but as soon as an actress puts on a little weight, it gets commented on in national newspapers. Because nobody wants to see a "fat" heroine
. And don't even get me started on India's obsession with light skin