Posted: 23 December 2010 at 10:27am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Charm2
I understand where you're coming from, but I dont agree with you.
Smriti should get happiness of course , but you cant BLAME Purva on this matter. I'm so sick of people blaming her as the reason why Smriti isnt getting her happiness.
Some mermbers say that Purva could stop Mihir and Mansi getting married without being married to Mihir herself. But really HOW? Because even if she did stop that wedding by telling Mihir or Kammi, the wedding would be cancelled. However Kammi wouldnt of rest in peace unless she get Mihir another bride to marry him. And that bride would be just like Mansi or worst. So really Purva did have to marry to put an end to Kammi's stuqid plan.
Although it is really not unusual, for older or younger sister to marry their sister's husband if the ciurcumstances force them to, such as mother may not be fit to look after the child or the mother died . In some society that is acceptable as not everyone get married for love. People dont see things the way we do. Today, we are lucky to have choices in life. Purva got married to secure Smriti's rights.
When she thought Smriti died, it was sad but she and her husband have to move on for themselves and Prem. She thought that she was going to have live with Mihir for the rest of her life, so she can be a mother to Prem and fill in everything that Smriti should of done if she was present (alive).
Now at that point some members say that she didnt have to sleep with him months later after Smriti death, and that they should of waited in few more months.
My argument is that at the time they though Smriti was dead, and were devastaed with this but really they lost Smriti a long time ago even when Smriti is alive, Mihir and Purva still lost their Smriti because she may be there physicallly but not emotionallly and mentally. As hse no longer recognise them. So they have suffered long enough and it would illogical not to to try and make their married work which they though inthey will live with for the rest of their life. Sooner they dealt with that , the better it is.
After finding out about Smriti, Purva was ready to leave Miihir and take their baby away from him, which tear his heart. She was ready to give up her happiness for Smriti again! And Smriti was smart she knew she had a sister who love her so much that she was willing to forget about her life. And Smriti make a choice that she WOULD not allow that to happen as Purva already did so much for her. She should came back to Mihir when she recover from the bus incident , because back then Mihir and Purva were married but did not love each other and that way no one would need to suffer. Purva may go back to Amar. But no she left it too late and even married Karan on the way. So she lost that right of that Sanghvi daugther in law and being Mihir's wife.
SO Mihir and Purva fall in love. Their love was true and even after what they been through it was their love for each other that make them survive today. They suit each other well. Anyone could see that.
Purva couldve easily told Mihir everything about that other girl. She didnt have to marry him for that and even if she did she could easily leave soon after because their marriage was not certified and Mihir didnt even who he was getting married to.
Secondly Prem had 4 aunts and a grandmother who could love him and raise him until Smiriti was better.
Also IT IS wrong to just fall in love with your sisters husband just two or three months after her death.
Mihir and Purva love is not true. The people who can leave one person they love and go to another and fall in love with them, they dont know what love is.