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Posted: 08 January 2011 at 12:30am | IP Logged
Originally posted by lighteningbuzz

Originally posted by ka7eela

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Originally posted by lighteningbuzz

3rd Update:
 
 
I loved what Abhay said about how he doesn't want to force her into doing anything just for the sake that they're married. That shows what a gentleman he is and how his feeling for her are genuine.Even in real life, I don't know how many men would actually do that? I had a cousin who loved someone else but, her parents didn't approve and got her marriage arranged with someone else. I remember I was in 9th grade at the time and she was way older than me but, I was very close to her. She never told me this at the time becuz, I was young but, later she shared with me when I was a little older in my first year of college that he had actually forced  her on their first wedding night even though he knew that she wasn't comfortable and wasn't ready but, he didn't care as he stated that it was his right as a husband.  She was extremely tearful and bitter about it becuz, even though he is her husband he still forced her against her will and didn't consider her feelings. They have one son now but, still, she once expressed to me that she doesn't feel that much sense of respect towards her husband to this day probably becuz, he never gave any respect to her own feelings or ever tried to understand what she wanted.
 
Sometimes, I wonder who is right or wrong in this situation?
I don't know how people in arrange marriages manage these situation where you consummate your marriage with someone you don't even know a thing about and most importantly you don't even love. And to make matters worse, I think its even more difficult to love someone else but, yet you are forced to consummate your marriage with someone else against your will.
 
I have seen many Indian women who go through the same situation where they don't have any choice or any right to say anything after marriage becuz, its the husband's decision and its his right to whatever he wants. I remember at a wedding sangeet, these indian women were teasing the to-be bride about how you just have to do what your husband says becuz, he is your husband and thats his right there's nothing you can do about it. Confused
 
This is why I loved the character of Sid in DMG in the initial stage becuz, he never forced himself on Riddhima. And the character of Abhay makes me just fall in love with him and I don't blame Piya for being heads over heels in love with him...as he is just the perfect guy. Blushing
Sometimes I wonder do such guys actually exist in today's era??
 
 
At the same time my heart went out for Piya too as she deeply loves him and has accepted him as her husband with her heart and soul so, it was disappointing to see that she wanted them to be closer while he didn't. Any woman in her place would've felt rejected and disappointed like her. I can't wait to see the part when they can reveal their true feelings to each other. Wink

@  red this is how  a true gentleman should behave, whether its love or arrange marriage! it doesnt matter!
i believe  a man forcing himself even on his rightful wife is not a man at all!, its like he has legally raped her!Dead  he is just a big EWWWW!Dead 
  
about you cousin its really sad and it breaks my heart that even after all theses years she didn't get over it! and can you blame her! i mean most of us girls dream of this special day and comes a jerk who behaves like an animal and ruin it all, its just heartbreaking and is very horrible!

your cousin at least coped with the situation better then a lady who is a relative of mine,  she got married 20 years ago and his husband although being very well educated and all, literary raped her like a true villain shutting of her mouth and all!, after few months she got divorced of him by a law order as he wasn't willing to divorce her! and till day she didn't get married again! 

@bold thats really sad!..what kind of mentality is that?Confused seriously ! hell they do!, what about the woman doesn't she has feelings! or maybe they consider her insignificant!

@blue maybe in the initials days!, but then he didn't make any sense!, he was like too much! i mean even after so many months! and even after she gave him green light he kept distant! it wasn't realistic at all! no man can keep this long off his wife that toloo when he loves her and she is into him! it was rt\the cvs blunder to get her back to her ex loverDead they totally ruined Sid's character and made him a weakling who cant seduce his own wife through all these months!

@ i am in love with Abhay tooEmbarrassed but which Abhay do you mean , my FF one or the shows?!LOL

i am sure there are plenty guys like him, who are so caring and loving hopfully we get our hands on them soon too WinkLOL

@purple, you got it perfectly, yes she already accepted him and she is confused and hurt  now of why he is rejecting her ! 
 well you have to wait and read to find out how it will work out

thank you so much for your wonderful  reply, they  always manage to work like brain teasers, and  open doors for some one on one discussions Hug

@Purple: I agree, just becuz, he is her husband doesn't mean he can do whatever he wants,  I mean they have a whole lifetime together to share with, he could've at least given her sometime to develop feelings for him and when they become more closer.  
 
And I completely, agree with you that for many girls, they have big dreams for this special night and they want to be with someone they love.I think there's no passion in it if there's no genuine love.
 
@Orange: I felt disgusted about what happened to your relative. God! That is just horrifying. Even if its a husband forcing his wife, I still consider that rape becuz, I don't care if they are lawfully wedded, forcing is still rape. I don't blame her for divorcing the him becuz, you lose that sense of respect for your husband becuz, you can't ever develop any feeling for him.   The guy practically destroyed her life with that bitter experience which is probably why she didn't or couldn't marry again. Ouch I don't know if my cuzin's decision to stay in her marriage was wise decision or not, but,
my personal opinion, I think its very hard to continue your relationship with someone you have no respect or love for.
 
@You got that right! I know many societies have this mentality. This is probably one reason why I hate going to my family functions becuz, I have all these aunties and some random ladies grabbing me and exclaiming, "OMG, you are so pretty.......you were this little when I saw you and now look at you all grown up" and blah blah blah.......the usual cliched lines. When this conversation starts, I know where the heck they are getting at........and BOOM! There it goes that famous line to my mom which goes, "Have you started searching a boy for her, you should get her married. AHHHHHHHHHHHHhh
 
I mean the fact if a girl is unmarried and grown, the only thing that goes on in their mind is MARRIAGE, and they treat a girl like she is a property meant to be with a guy which you are just dying to sell as fast as you can and if they don't then the market value might go down! LOL
I mean what if she isn't ready, what is she has career plans, what if she wants to find one herself..........oops, that might just give them a heart attack!  
 
@Green: I liked Sid in the initial days.......before Armaan's entry, how he didn't force himself on her, in his wedding night, But, after a while I do agree his character got to nonsense and dumb. Even though, his wife was standing there in front of him in a lingerie waiting for him to seduce her, the dumb idiot goes, "its okay you still need time!" LOL I mean I remember her saying to him that she did it out of her own will, it wasn't like he was forcing her and he still always thought that she needed time even after 7 whole months and marrying the same woman twice out of her own will again!  And then when she got with her ex in the end, he give her thumbs up sign! ROFL
 
And ofcourse, I meant the Abhay in your one-shots Wink He is more romantic and friendlier than the one in the serial.
 
@Red: Yeah, I know there must be guys like them and I definitely do hope that we both get our dream guys. Wink Its just the guys I have seen are just so weird! Like for instance if I go to any parties and there are indian guys there. They stand there are and just stare at you.........(No not the "affectionate or dreamy" stare heroes do in shows/movies) these guys will stare at you hungrily like they have never seen a girl as if they have an x-ray vision. It gives you this urge to just want to smack them like hell! Becuz, you know they are perverts inside!

@bold, 100% agree!, he is her husband not owner!  why cant he wait! ok if he is so into it and cant wait!  then he should seduce her gently and not force hims self like an animal, wait even animals seduce their partners before mating!Ouch

@pink true! there is no passion when there is no genuine love, at least from a girls BOV ! as i heard that most boys can do it with anyone Dead

@orange, it is juts plain disgusting, and you wont believe this but in my family and most of the  families where i come from there is  a period of time before getting married like engagement,  even if it was an arranged marriage! so the boy and girl have a chance get to know each other well before tying the knot, and this woman had that chance too!, but hell! no one knows how a man behaves after marriage!

@purple , again agree! but some girls are too week they care about what their families and society will say in case they leave their husbands so they end up living their whole lives in loveless marriage with a monstrous selfish manOuch

@navy blue.. i can understand your situation perfectly!, its every pretty girls dilemma, especailly if she is from well known family, here a tip, the next time you go put a veilWink..jkLOL

btw its same here, Ouch ,but in our society its the other way around as a girls family cant  propose! only boys families and the boys have the right to do that, so basically when i am in a party or wedding or even out i get proposes form either the moms who talk to my mom, or boys themselves who approach me some times or  follow around  too! its scary ! some look genuine and some like they just want to play but i just ignore! 

i feel i have the right to fall in love, and it still didn't happen so!, i know when i find the right guy someone i will, as love just happens beside i am still studying so whats the rush!!

families who dont respect their own daughters wishes and treat them as properties,end up destroying their lives ! and thats really sad!Ouch

@green, totally agree! Sid was good in initial days then they gradually destroyed his character along with Rids, both were unrealistic, and become pathetic and totally lame in the endDead..about the lingerie incident and the thumps up in the endLOL all i can say that there is a special name for men who behave in this manner! but i am not going to say itWinkLOL

aww you love Abhay of my storyEmbarrassed, and you will love him even more in the upcoming update!Wink

God! although he is a fictional character but i want a guy like himOuch ..he doesn't have to be a vampire or have his super powers thoughLOL

@red i hope so sweetheart i hope soLOL
x ray visions ROFL sometimes they literally drool too LOLdont let me start on the staring prevert creepsLOLthey just give me the chill! seriously!






 
@Green: Agree, thats why good guys who are not like that, stand out like shining diamonds in all that dirt in the world. Wink
 
@Maroon: It's the same way over here too. I remember many of my cuzins and indian friends who got married got a chance to talk with each other, hang out at cafes to get to know each other before saying yes. I still think there are chances of either girl or guy acting nice before marriage trying to sound appealing and then after marriage they might turn into something else in to their "real" self. I have seen this backfire on many but, at the same time I've seen it work for others.
 
@Lime Green: That is very good idea. I won't mind wearing a veil,Wink
 I think it helps a lot in many situations such as when you want to avoid pervert guys staring at you. 
 
@Red: That's how its supposed to work. The guy or the guy's family proposes to the girl's family until I saw my girl cuzin's family going to guy's family house for the proposal.......then I was like "I guess there aren't any rules nowadays." LOL, but it just sounds weird having a girl's family propose to a guy......it just doesn't sound conventional. It's always been the guy making the first move.
 
@Black bold: Yes, I totally agree with you!!!! I also, feel that I have the right to find the right guy for myself at the right time and fall in love with him and marry him. That's why I get annoyed when my relatives talk about my marriage or bring proposals to me becuz, I feel like they are treating me like I am some type of property . Thank God, my own family is not like that at all. My mom have this sense of trust in me and she knows that if I find someone, he would be the right guy becuz, she knows what type of traits I admire in a guy, which she approves of too. My brother and dad on the other hand are more protective but, then brothers/dads are like that.
 
My own family is more modernized they are not against the idea of love marriage and are more open-minded as long as you know your limits like keeping your chastity before marriage and not letting anyone take advantage of you. But, its just some of my relatives are way too old-fashioned. And when I mean old-fashioned, I mean it in a way like for instance, a friend of mine had a love marriage, and I remember my aunt, exclaiming, "Oh! I thought she was a good girl!" And this friend of mine did not sleep with her husband before marriage but, the fact that she went out and found a guy by herself, makes her sound like not a good girl in their eyes. But, I don't care, as I believe others aren't going to live my life for me and nor do I have any intention to impress my relatives. As long as my own family supports me and I know I am right then who cares what the world thinks.
 
@Sky blue: I think I know what it is.....LOL
 
@brown: You spoke my mind. Abhay has exactly all the personality traits I want in a guy. He is a dignified man, he believes in waiting for the right person and being loyal to the one girl he truly loves. He is protective, supportive, loving, passionate, caring, extremely romantic, and a guy with a self-respect. He is someone I would definitely respect and fall for, in my eyes he is just perfect. Wink In your updates, I think Abhay is more appealing than the one in the serials. Becuz, the CVs can at times play around with Abhay's character in the serial for the sake of TRPs but, in your updates the characters and story remains true to its roots. Moreover, I feel that the Abhay in your one-shots, acts more like a college boy and is more easy to understand.
 
@Turquoise: Tell me about it! I get very angry when I see a guy staring at me in the wrong manner becuz, sometimes its so obvious you can tell. I once, got extremely mad at this guy who was a classmate and the professor had paired everyone with partners to work on an assignment. And this pervert the guy, the whole time I was talking to him, he would stare at my chest.........And I wasn't even wearing any revealing clothes! I had on a turtle-neck sweater and a jeans. So, you can tell that I wasn't showing any cleavage at all and inspite of this the idiot kept staring either at my chest, neck, or legs as if trying to have an x-ray vision. It was very uncomfortable and disgusting in the manner he was staring at me, like how a rapist stares at his victim.
 
I kept ignoring it and tried to divert his attention to the assignment but, then I lost my control and yelled at him, "What the hell are you keep staring at me for you idiot! This is it, I can't work with you. You are a pervert that sees only one thing in a woman!" I just blurt it out without thinking twice. He was shocked and embarassed at the same time becuz, he knew just what I was talking about. But, he couldn't say a word becuz, I guess no one had ever talked to him like that and he certainly didn't expect me to say something like that.
To be honest, I didn't expect myself to just blurt it out, but he just made me extremely mad at the time that I couldn't control my anger.
I remember I went up to the professor afterwards and requested that I didn't feel comfortable working with him. And from that day on everytime he would pass by me in the hallway, he would look the other way or down at the floor to avoid looking at me in fear I might burst out on him again.
 
My friends couldn't believe that I actually blurt it out so openly right across his face...........as the guy must've been so embarassed out of his mind. But, I feel I did the right thing becuz, he should know his manners and how to respect women!
 
 

@ green, i loved that! good boys shine like diamond  in all that dirt!Smile

@maroon, i think arrange marriages are not like they were before say 40 years ago people are now aware that a couple needs to click and know each other a bit before tying the knot

but you are right  most people don't reveal their  true nature before marriage, people show their true colors after it! 

btw some men are like DR. Jekyll and Mr.Hyde! , i heard many stories regarding this, that there are actually  men who look so sweet and kind among others, but they are so abusive and monstrous with their wives! its like they have multiple personality disorder!

i feel a marriage will only work when people are true to themselves and try to work hard to make it work!..and of course love, respect, understanding and compromising  should be apart of it too

@lime green..hahahaha, i think it might! you dont belive it we have here some woman who put veil and still there are preverts who follow them because maybe they like thier eyesLOL

@ red i see!, but  in India its ok for a girls family to propose, isnt it? and i thought you were an American Indian Embarrassed ..correct me if i am wrongEmbarrassed
of couser the guys should make the first moveLOL, but nowadays there are many besharam girls who literally run after guys too!, i have seen many give their numbers to guys!..but i  was talking about marriage proposals ...

@black you are right as long as you are not doing anything wrong why do you care what others say!, and i am glad you have an understanding familyHug, mine are same, they dont force me to do anything, and they trust me although my mom is a little over protective , like if i am out she would call to check upon me especially at nights when i am out with friends cause i drive alone, 

about your cousins i hate relatives who poke their noses in other peoples business! imposing their own outdated ideas!..

they actually said that she wasn't a good girl just because she married out of loveConfused! WOW! you know i think its the same here but only in the suburbans and villages 

but not cities,all of my uncles have married love marriages, and the eldest married like 26 years ago! and many of my aunties married out of  love too, and their cousins too 

i never heard anyone saying anything bad about them, moreover my grandparents blessed their marriages..btw i have 2 great aunts and many of  my grand parents cousins who were married out of love like more then 40-50 years ago tooLOL but they faced some trouble!

@ brown, hehehe! Abhay is just perfectEmbarrassed hope we get guys like him, btw my Abhay is younger then shows Abhay! he is half the age of  the shows Abhay!LOL in the show he  is more then 300 years old!Sleepy

@ Turquoise, OMG!! you actually burst out at him ROFL you go girl!! you  rock, i can so imagine the perverts faceLOL
he so deserved it!Angry what a freak!, guys like him have no shame!! 

i usually try to ignore but i guess if it was me in your place especially if its a colleague then i might have done the same 
oh well these are the kind of boys that usually we come acrossOuch

oh Abhay where art thou Abhay! LOL





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Posted: 08 January 2011 at 2:08am | IP Logged
Originally posted by ka7eela

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Originally posted by lighteningbuzz

3rd Update:
 
 
I loved what Abhay said about how he doesn't want to force her into doing anything just for the sake that they're married. That shows what a gentleman he is and how his feeling for her are genuine.Even in real life, I don't know how many men would actually do that? I had a cousin who loved someone else but, her parents didn't approve and got her marriage arranged with someone else. I remember I was in 9th grade at the time and she was way older than me but, I was very close to her. She never told me this at the time becuz, I was young but, later she shared with me when I was a little older in my first year of college that he had actually forced  her on their first wedding night even though he knew that she wasn't comfortable and wasn't ready but, he didn't care as he stated that it was his right as a husband.  She was extremely tearful and bitter about it becuz, even though he is her husband he still forced her against her will and didn't consider her feelings. They have one son now but, still, she once expressed to me that she doesn't feel that much sense of respect towards her husband to this day probably becuz, he never gave any respect to her own feelings or ever tried to understand what she wanted.
 
Sometimes, I wonder who is right or wrong in this situation?
I don't know how people in arrange marriages manage these situation where you consummate your marriage with someone you don't even know a thing about and most importantly you don't even love. And to make matters worse, I think its even more difficult to love someone else but, yet you are forced to consummate your marriage with someone else against your will.
 
I have seen many Indian women who go through the same situation where they don't have any choice or any right to say anything after marriage becuz, its the husband's decision and its his right to whatever he wants. I remember at a wedding sangeet, these indian women were teasing the to-be bride about how you just have to do what your husband says becuz, he is your husband and thats his right there's nothing you can do about it. Confused
 
This is why I loved the character of Sid in DMG in the initial stage becuz, he never forced himself on Riddhima. And the character of Abhay makes me just fall in love with him and I don't blame Piya for being heads over heels in love with him...as he is just the perfect guy. Blushing
Sometimes I wonder do such guys actually exist in today's era??
 
 
At the same time my heart went out for Piya too as she deeply loves him and has accepted him as her husband with her heart and soul so, it was disappointing to see that she wanted them to be closer while he didn't. Any woman in her place would've felt rejected and disappointed like her. I can't wait to see the part when they can reveal their true feelings to each other. Wink

@  red this is how  a true gentleman should behave, whether its love or arrange marriage! it doesnt matter!
i believe  a man forcing himself even on his rightful wife is not a man at all!, its like he has legally raped her!Dead  he is just a big EWWWW!Dead 
  
about you cousin its really sad and it breaks my heart that even after all theses years she didn't get over it! and can you blame her! i mean most of us girls dream of this special day and comes a jerk who behaves like an animal and ruin it all, its just heartbreaking and is very horrible!

your cousin at least coped with the situation better then a lady who is a relative of mine,  she got married 20 years ago and his husband although being very well educated and all, literary raped her like a true villain shutting of her mouth and all!, after few months she got divorced of him by a law order as he wasn't willing to divorce her! and till day she didn't get married again! 

@bold thats really sad!..what kind of mentality is that?Confused seriously ! hell they do!, what about the woman doesn't she has feelings! or maybe they consider her insignificant!

@blue maybe in the initials days!, but then he didn't make any sense!, he was like too much! i mean even after so many months! and even after she gave him green light he kept distant! it wasn't realistic at all! no man can keep this long off his wife that toloo when he loves her and she is into him! it was rt\the cvs blunder to get her back to her ex loverDead they totally ruined Sid's character and made him a weakling who cant seduce his own wife through all these months!

@ i am in love with Abhay tooEmbarrassed but which Abhay do you mean , my FF one or the shows?!LOL

i am sure there are plenty guys like him, who are so caring and loving hopfully we get our hands on them soon too WinkLOL

@purple, you got it perfectly, yes she already accepted him and she is confused and hurt  now of why he is rejecting her ! 
 well you have to wait and read to find out how it will work out

thank you so much for your wonderful  reply, they  always manage to work like brain teasers, and  open doors for some one on one discussions Hug

@Purple: I agree, just becuz, he is her husband doesn't mean he can do whatever he wants,  I mean they have a whole lifetime together to share with, he could've at least given her sometime to develop feelings for him and when they become more closer.  
 
And I completely, agree with you that for many girls, they have big dreams for this special night and they want to be with someone they love.I think there's no passion in it if there's no genuine love.
 
@Orange: I felt disgusted about what happened to your relative. God! That is just horrifying. Even if its a husband forcing his wife, I still consider that rape becuz, I don't care if they are lawfully wedded, forcing is still rape. I don't blame her for divorcing the him becuz, you lose that sense of respect for your husband becuz, you can't ever develop any feeling for him.   The guy practically destroyed her life with that bitter experience which is probably why she didn't or couldn't marry again. Ouch I don't know if my cuzin's decision to stay in her marriage was wise decision or not, but,
my personal opinion, I think its very hard to continue your relationship with someone you have no respect or love for.
 
@You got that right! I know many societies have this mentality. This is probably one reason why I hate going to my family functions becuz, I have all these aunties and some random ladies grabbing me and exclaiming, "OMG, you are so pretty.......you were this little when I saw you and now look at you all grown up" and blah blah blah.......the usual cliched lines. When this conversation starts, I know where the heck they are getting at........and BOOM! There it goes that famous line to my mom which goes, "Have you started searching a boy for her, you should get her married. AHHHHHHHHHHHHhh
 
I mean the fact if a girl is unmarried and grown, the only thing that goes on in their mind is MARRIAGE, and they treat a girl like she is a property meant to be with a guy which you are just dying to sell as fast as you can and if they don't then the market value might go down! LOL
I mean what if she isn't ready, what is she has career plans, what if she wants to find one herself..........oops, that might just give them a heart attack!  
 
@Green: I liked Sid in the initial days.......before Armaan's entry, how he didn't force himself on her, in his wedding night, But, after a while I do agree his character got to nonsense and dumb. Even though, his wife was standing there in front of him in a lingerie waiting for him to seduce her, the dumb idiot goes, "its okay you still need time!" LOL I mean I remember her saying to him that she did it out of her own will, it wasn't like he was forcing her and he still always thought that she needed time even after 7 whole months and marrying the same woman twice out of her own will again!  And then when she got with her ex in the end, he give her thumbs up sign! ROFL
 
And ofcourse, I meant the Abhay in your one-shots Wink He is more romantic and friendlier than the one in the serial.
 
@Red: Yeah, I know there must be guys like them and I definitely do hope that we both get our dream guys. Wink Its just the guys I have seen are just so weird! Like for instance if I go to any parties and there are indian guys there. They stand there are and just stare at you.........(No not the "affectionate or dreamy" stare heroes do in shows/movies) these guys will stare at you hungrily like they have never seen a girl as if they have an x-ray vision. It gives you this urge to just want to smack them like hell! Becuz, you know they are perverts inside!

@bold, 100% agree!, he is her husband not owner!  why cant he wait! ok if he is so into it and cant wait!  then he should seduce her gently and not force hims self like an animal, wait even animals seduce their partners before mating!Ouch

@pink true! there is no passion when there is no genuine love, at least from a girls BOV ! as i heard that most boys can do it with anyone Dead

@orange, it is juts plain disgusting, and you wont believe this but in my family and most of the  families where i come from there is  a period of time before getting married like engagement,  even if it was an arranged marriage! so the boy and girl have a chance get to know each other well before tying the knot, and this woman had that chance too!, but hell! no one knows how a man behaves after marriage!

@purple , again agree! but some girls are too week they care about what their families and society will say in case they leave their husbands so they end up living their whole lives in loveless marriage with a monstrous selfish manOuch

@navy blue.. i can understand your situation perfectly!, its every pretty girls dilemma, especailly if she is from well known family, here a tip, the next time you go put a veilWink..jkLOL

btw its same here, Ouch ,but in our society its the other way around as a girls family cant  propose! only boys families and the boys have the right to do that, so basically when i am in a party or wedding or even out i get proposes form either the moms who talk to my mom, or boys themselves who approach me some times or  follow around  too! its scary ! some look genuine and some like they just want to play but i just ignore! 

i feel i have the right to fall in love, and it still didn't happen so!, i know when i find the right guy someone i will, as love just happens beside i am still studying so whats the rush!!

families who dont respect their own daughters wishes and treat them as properties,end up destroying their lives ! and thats really sad!Ouch

@green, totally agree! Sid was good in initial days then they gradually destroyed his character along with Rids, both were unrealistic, and become pathetic and totally lame in the endDead..about the lingerie incident and the thumps up in the endLOL all i can say that there is a special name for men who behave in this manner! but i am not going to say itWinkLOL

aww you love Abhay of my storyEmbarrassed, and you will love him even more in the upcoming update!Wink

God! although he is a fictional character but i want a guy like himOuch ..he doesn't have to be a vampire or have his super powers thoughLOL

@red i hope so sweetheart i hope soLOL
x ray visions ROFL sometimes they literally drool too LOLdont let me start on the staring prevert creepsLOLthey just give me the chill! seriously!






 
@Green: Agree, thats why good guys who are not like that, stand out like shining diamonds in all that dirt in the world. Wink
 
@Maroon: It's the same way over here too. I remember many of my cuzins and indian friends who got married got a chance to talk with each other, hang out at cafes to get to know each other before saying yes. I still think there are chances of either girl or guy acting nice before marriage trying to sound appealing and then after marriage they might turn into something else in to their "real" self. I have seen this backfire on many but, at the same time I've seen it work for others.
 
@Lime Green: That is very good idea. I won't mind wearing a veil,Wink
 I think it helps a lot in many situations such as when you want to avoid pervert guys staring at you. 
 
@Red: That's how its supposed to work. The guy or the guy's family proposes to the girl's family until I saw my girl cuzin's family going to guy's family house for the proposal.......then I was like "I guess there aren't any rules nowadays." LOL, but it just sounds weird having a girl's family propose to a guy......it just doesn't sound conventional. It's always been the guy making the first move.
 
@Black bold: Yes, I totally agree with you!!!! I also, feel that I have the right to find the right guy for myself at the right time and fall in love with him and marry him. That's why I get annoyed when my relatives talk about my marriage or bring proposals to me becuz, I feel like they are treating me like I am some type of property . Thank God, my own family is not like that at all. My mom have this sense of trust in me and she knows that if I find someone, he would be the right guy becuz, she knows what type of traits I admire in a guy, which she approves of too. My brother and dad on the other hand are more protective but, then brothers/dads are like that.
 
My own family is more modernized they are not against the idea of love marriage and are more open-minded as long as you know your limits like keeping your chastity before marriage and not letting anyone take advantage of you. But, its just some of my relatives are way too old-fashioned. And when I mean old-fashioned, I mean it in a way like for instance, a friend of mine had a love marriage, and I remember my aunt, exclaiming, "Oh! I thought she was a good girl!" And this friend of mine did not sleep with her husband before marriage but, the fact that she went out and found a guy by herself, makes her sound like not a good girl in their eyes. But, I don't care, as I believe others aren't going to live my life for me and nor do I have any intention to impress my relatives. As long as my own family supports me and I know I am right then who cares what the world thinks.
 
@Sky blue: I think I know what it is.....LOL
 
@brown: You spoke my mind. Abhay has exactly all the personality traits I want in a guy. He is a dignified man, he believes in waiting for the right person and being loyal to the one girl he truly loves. He is protective, supportive, loving, passionate, caring, extremely romantic, and a guy with a self-respect. He is someone I would definitely respect and fall for, in my eyes he is just perfect. Wink In your updates, I think Abhay is more appealing than the one in the serials. Becuz, the CVs can at times play around with Abhay's character in the serial for the sake of TRPs but, in your updates the characters and story remains true to its roots. Moreover, I feel that the Abhay in your one-shots, acts more like a college boy and is more easy to understand.
 
@Turquoise: Tell me about it! I get very angry when I see a guy staring at me in the wrong manner becuz, sometimes its so obvious you can tell. I once, got extremely mad at this guy who was a classmate and the professor had paired everyone with partners to work on an assignment. And this pervert the guy, the whole time I was talking to him, he would stare at my chest.........And I wasn't even wearing any revealing clothes! I had on a turtle-neck sweater and a jeans. So, you can tell that I wasn't showing any cleavage at all and inspite of this the idiot kept staring either at my chest, neck, or legs as if trying to have an x-ray vision. It was very uncomfortable and disgusting in the manner he was staring at me, like how a rapist stares at his victim.
 
I kept ignoring it and tried to divert his attention to the assignment but, then I lost my control and yelled at him, "What the hell are you keep staring at me for you idiot! This is it, I can't work with you. You are a pervert that sees only one thing in a woman!" I just blurt it out without thinking twice. He was shocked and embarassed at the same time becuz, he knew just what I was talking about. But, he couldn't say a word becuz, I guess no one had ever talked to him like that and he certainly didn't expect me to say something like that.
To be honest, I didn't expect myself to just blurt it out, but he just made me extremely mad at the time that I couldn't control my anger.
I remember I went up to the professor afterwards and requested that I didn't feel comfortable working with him. And from that day on everytime he would pass by me in the hallway, he would look the other way or down at the floor to avoid looking at me in fear I might burst out on him again.
 
My friends couldn't believe that I actually blurt it out so openly right across his face...........as the guy must've been so embarassed out of his mind. But, I feel I did the right thing becuz, he should know his manners and how to respect women!
 
 

@ green, i loved that! good boys shine like diamond  in all that dirt!Smile

@maroon, i think arrange marriages are not like they were before say 40 years ago people are now aware that a couple needs to click and know each other a bit before tying the knot

but you are right  most people don't reveal their  true nature before marriage, people show their true colors after it! 

btw some men are like DR. Jekyll and Mr.Hyde! , i heard many stories regarding this, that there are actually  men who look so sweet and kind among others, but they are so abusive and monstrous with their wives! its like they have multiple personality disorder!

i feel a marriage will only work when people are true to themselves and try to work hard to make it work!..and of course love, respect, understanding and compromising  should be apart of it too

@lime green..hahahaha, i think it might! you dont belive it we have here some woman who put veil and still there are preverts who follow them because maybe they like thier eyesLOL

@ red i see!, but  in India its ok for a girls family to propose, isnt it? and i thought you were an American Indian Embarrassed ..correct me if i am wrongEmbarrassed
of couser the guys should make the first moveLOL, but nowadays there are many besharam girls who literally run after guys too!, i have seen many give their numbers to guys!..but i  was talking about marriage proposals ...

@black you are right as long as you are not doing anything wrong why do you care what others say!, and i am glad you have an understanding familyHug, mine are same, they dont force me to do anything, and they trust me although my mom is a little over protective , like if i am out she would call to check upon me especially at nights when i am out with friends cause i drive alone, 

about your cousins i hate relatives who poke their noses in other peoples business! imposing their own outdated ideas!..

they actually said that she wasn't a good girl just because she married out of loveConfused! WOW! you know i think its the same here but only in the suburbans and villages 

but not cities,all of my uncles have married love marriages, and the eldest married like 26 years ago! and many of my aunties married out of  love too, and their cousins too 

i never heard anyone saying anything bad about them, moreover my grandparents blessed their marriages..btw i have 2 great aunts and many of  my grand parents cousins who were married out of love like more then 40-50 years ago tooLOL but they faced some trouble!
 
@ brown, hehehe! Abhay is just perfectEmbarrassed hope we get guys like him, btw my Abhay is younger then shows Abhay! he is half the age of  the shows Abhay!LOL in the show he  is more then 300 years old!Sleepy

@ Turquoise, OMG!! you actually burst out at him ROFL you go girl!! you  rock, i can so imagine the perverts faceLOL
he so deserved it!Angry what a freak!, guys like him have no shame!! 

i usually try to ignore but i guess if it was me in your place especially if its a colleague then i might have done the same 
oh well these are the kind of boys that usually we come acrossOuch

oh Abhay where art thou Abhay! LOL



 
@Navy blue: Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.....I know! It's scary just thinking about it. I agree with you and I know some women are also, stupid enough to marry a Mr. Hyde thinking she will turn him into Dr. Jekyll but, in reality Mr. Hyde is the one that eventually conquers.
 
@bold: Yeah, I was born in India but, brought up in U.S. but, still my parents have tried to keep us in touch with our cultural values and roots. Maybe in India, it is common now but, I wouldn't know becuz, I have only been to India twice in my life.....the last time I went was in '95.......I know it has changed significantly since. But, I just know from what my parents and grandparents tell me and from what I have seen as a child even in movies, its usually the guy that comes to see the girl.
 
@orange: Wow, that is amazing to see, becuz, in my family majority had an arrange marriages while some had love marriages.
 
Many of my relatives in spite of living in the U.S. have clinged to those old-fashioned beliefs instead of advancing with time. Many of my relatives haven't been to India for a long time but, they still think that India is the same as they left behind. This year, one of my cuzin went for her sister's wedding and came back surprised as she told me, "India has changed......it is extremely modernized now."
 
I know many of my aunts and uncles who have been living here for the past 20-30 years of their life but, still have never accepted the American culture. I mean if you see a guy and girl kissing in public, my aunts would be looking and gasping, "OMG, look what they are doing in public." Probably becuz, they don't go out much. Most of them are either working endless hours at work they don't have time for even their own family and there are some who are stay at home wives who just sit at home and watch saas-bahu serials...........so, with lifestyle like that you don't know what's going on there in the world.  But, for me I gone to school here so, I am used to it but, they are not.
 
Becuz, they don't want to change, they want to hold on to what they were taught as child forever. I know some families are more open-minded and some are not. I am just glad my family isn't one of those extremely, strict, old-fashioned types. 
 
@Yeah, Where art thou Abhay! LOL
 


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@ green, i loved that! good boys shine like diamond  in all that dirt!Smile

@maroon, i think arrange marriages are not like they were before say 40 years ago people are now aware that a couple needs to click and know each other a bit before tying the knot

but you are right  most people don't reveal their  true nature before marriage, people show their true colors after it! 

btw some men are like DR. Jekyll and Mr.Hyde! , i heard many stories regarding this, that there are actually  men who look so sweet and kind among others, but they are so abusive and monstrous with their wives! its like they have multiple personality disorder!

i feel a marriage will only work when people are true to themselves and try to work hard to make it work!..and of course love, respect, understanding and compromising  should be apart of it too

@lime green..hahahaha, i think it might! you dont belive it we have here some woman who put veil and still there are preverts who follow them because maybe they like thier eyesLOL

@ red i see!, but  in India its ok for a girls family to propose, isnt it? and i thought you were an American Indian Embarrassed ..correct me if i am wrongEmbarrassed
of couser the guys should make the first moveLOL, but nowadays there are many besharam girls who literally run after guys too!, i have seen many give their numbers to guys!..but i  was talking about marriage proposals ...

@black you are right as long as you are not doing anything wrong why do you care what others say!, and i am glad you have an understanding familyHug, mine are same, they dont force me to do anything, and they trust me although my mom is a little over protective , like if i am out she would call to check upon me especially at nights when i am out with friends cause i drive alone, 

about your cousins i hate relatives who poke their noses in other peoples business! imposing their own outdated ideas!..

they actually said that she wasn't a good girl just because she married out of loveConfused! WOW! you know i think its the same here but only in the suburbans and villages 

but not cities,all of my uncles have married love marriages, and the eldest married like 26 years ago! and many of my aunties married out of  love too, and their cousins too 

i never heard anyone saying anything bad about them, moreover my grandparents blessed their marriages..btw i have 2 great aunts and many of  my grand parents cousins who were married out of love like more then 40-50 years ago tooLOL but they faced some trouble!
 
@ brown, hehehe! Abhay is just perfectEmbarrassed hope we get guys like him, btw my Abhay is younger then shows Abhay! he is half the age of  the shows Abhay!LOL in the show he  is more then 300 years old!Sleepy

@ Turquoise, OMG!! you actually burst out at him ROFL you go girl!! you  rock, i can so imagine the perverts faceLOL
he so deserved it!Angry what a freak!, guys like him have no shame!! 

i usually try to ignore but i guess if it was me in your place especially if its a colleague then i might have done the same 
oh well these are the kind of boys that usually we come acrossOuch

oh Abhay where art thou Abhay! LOL



 
@Navy blue: Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.....I know! It's scary just thinking about it. I agree with you and I know some women are also, stupid enough to marry a Mr. Hyde thinking she will turn him into Dr. Jekyll but, in reality Mr. Hyde is the one that eventually conquers.
 
@bold: Yeah, I was born in India but, brought up in U.S. but, still my parents have tried to keep us in touch with our cultural values and roots. Maybe in India, it is common now but, I wouldn't know becuz, I have only been to India twice in my life.....the last time I went was in '95.......I know it has changed significantly since. But, I just know from what my parents and grandparents tell me and from what I have seen as a child even in movies, its usually the guy that comes to see the girl.
 
@orange: Wow, that is amazing to see, becuz, in my family majority had an arrange marriages while some had love marriages.
 
Many of my relatives in spite of living in the U.S. have clinged to those old-fashioned beliefs instead of advancing with time. Many of my relatives haven't been to India for a long time but, they still think that India is the same as they left behind. This year, one of my cuzin went for her sister's wedding and came back surprised as she told me, "India has changed......it is extremely modernized now."
 
I know many of my aunts and uncles who have been living here for the past 20-30 years of their life but, still have never accepted the American culture. I mean if you see a guy and girl kissing in public, my aunts would be looking and gasping, "OMG, look what they are doing in public." Probably becuz, they don't go out much. Most of them are either working endless hours at work they don't have time for even their own family and there are some who are stay at home wives who just sit at home and watch saas-bahu serials...........so, with lifestyle like that you don't know what's going on there in the world.  But, for me I gone to school here so, I am used to it but, they are not.
 
Becuz, they don't want to change, they want to hold on to what they were taught as child forever. I know some families are more open-minded and some are not. I am just glad my family isn't one of those extremely, strict, old-fashioned types. 
 
@Yeah, Where art thou Abhay! LOL
 

@ navy blue, true in some cases but there are men who actually change after marriage but thats a huge risk a girls take! its her and her luck!. 

@ bold i see, but yeah i know its the boys who goes and sees the girl  first!, what i meant that a girls family can propose too, like someone from the girls side start talking to the boys family about the rishta and then they can come  and see the girl! like Vivaah movie na!Wink

@ orange  we too have many arrange marriages, my parents was arrange marriage come intense love and how, Wink

you see my dad saw my mom like twice in a mall 20 years ago! and instantly it was love from his side, and then he didn't know who she was so he looked for her but at the time my mom was studying abroad but he kept on searching  till he found out and then he discovered they have some common family freind and voilla he proposed  to her,  my mom wasn't keen as she was still young and studying , but destiny has its own works,  somehow she agreed seeing him in the common friends house, after she met him and talked to him they clicked instantly  and got engaged and after two years they got married! and touchwood mashaAllah ,even after 20 years they are so much in love

  traditions are not that bad sometimes! as they keep your true essence and values! however when they are causing conflicts like in marriages then they should be changed,  i too blush when i see couple kissing each other even in movies i look down or away! and by kissing i mean that deep one and not the normal one as i can watch thatLOL( dont judge me by my bold writings regrading this)LOL


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@ green, i loved that! good boys shine like diamond  in all that dirt!Smile

@maroon, i think arrange marriages are not like they were before say 40 years ago people are now aware that a couple needs to click and know each other a bit before tying the knot

but you are right  most people don't reveal their  true nature before marriage, people show their true colors after it! 

btw some men are like DR. Jekyll and Mr.Hyde! , i heard many stories regarding this, that there are actually  men who look so sweet and kind among others, but they are so abusive and monstrous with their wives! its like they have multiple personality disorder!

i feel a marriage will only work when people are true to themselves and try to work hard to make it work!..and of course love, respect, understanding and compromising  should be apart of it too

@lime green..hahahaha, i think it might! you dont belive it we have here some woman who put veil and still there are preverts who follow them because maybe they like thier eyesLOL

@ red i see!, but  in India its ok for a girls family to propose, isnt it? and i thought you were an American Indian Embarrassed ..correct me if i am wrongEmbarrassed
of couser the guys should make the first moveLOL, but nowadays there are many besharam girls who literally run after guys too!, i have seen many give their numbers to guys!..but i  was talking about marriage proposals ...

@black you are right as long as you are not doing anything wrong why do you care what others say!, and i am glad you have an understanding familyHug, mine are same, they dont force me to do anything, and they trust me although my mom is a little over protective , like if i am out she would call to check upon me especially at nights when i am out with friends cause i drive alone, 

about your cousins i hate relatives who poke their noses in other peoples business! imposing their own outdated ideas!..

they actually said that she wasn't a good girl just because she married out of loveConfused! WOW! you know i think its the same here but only in the suburbans and villages 

but not cities,all of my uncles have married love marriages, and the eldest married like 26 years ago! and many of my aunties married out of  love too, and their cousins too 

i never heard anyone saying anything bad about them, moreover my grandparents blessed their marriages..btw i have 2 great aunts and many of  my grand parents cousins who were married out of love like more then 40-50 years ago tooLOL but they faced some trouble!
 
@ brown, hehehe! Abhay is just perfectEmbarrassed hope we get guys like him, btw my Abhay is younger then shows Abhay! he is half the age of  the shows Abhay!LOL in the show he  is more then 300 years old!Sleepy

@ Turquoise, OMG!! you actually burst out at him ROFL you go girl!! you  rock, i can so imagine the perverts faceLOL
he so deserved it!Angry what a freak!, guys like him have no shame!! 

i usually try to ignore but i guess if it was me in your place especially if its a colleague then i might have done the same 
oh well these are the kind of boys that usually we come acrossOuch

oh Abhay where art thou Abhay! LOL



 
@Navy blue: Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.....I know! It's scary just thinking about it. I agree with you and I know some women are also, stupid enough to marry a Mr. Hyde thinking she will turn him into Dr. Jekyll but, in reality Mr. Hyde is the one that eventually conquers.
 
@bold: Yeah, I was born in India but, brought up in U.S. but, still my parents have tried to keep us in touch with our cultural values and roots. Maybe in India, it is common now but, I wouldn't know becuz, I have only been to India twice in my life.....the last time I went was in '95.......I know it has changed significantly since. But, I just know from what my parents and grandparents tell me and from what I have seen as a child even in movies, its usually the guy that comes to see the girl.
 
@orange: Wow, that is amazing to see, becuz, in my family majority had an arrange marriages while some had love marriages.
 
Many of my relatives in spite of living in the U.S. have clinged to those old-fashioned beliefs instead of advancing with time. Many of my relatives haven't been to India for a long time but, they still think that India is the same as they left behind. This year, one of my cuzin went for her sister's wedding and came back surprised as she told me, "India has changed......it is extremely modernized now."
 
I know many of my aunts and uncles who have been living here for the past 20-30 years of their life but, still have never accepted the American culture. I mean if you see a guy and girl kissing in public, my aunts would be looking and gasping, "OMG, look what they are doing in public." Probably becuz, they don't go out much. Most of them are either working endless hours at work they don't have time for even their own family and there are some who are stay at home wives who just sit at home and watch saas-bahu serials...........so, with lifestyle like that you don't know what's going on there in the world.  But, for me I gone to school here so, I am used to it but, they are not.
 
Becuz, they don't want to change, they want to hold on to what they were taught as child forever. I know some families are more open-minded and some are not. I am just glad my family isn't one of those extremely, strict, old-fashioned types. 
 
@Yeah, Where art thou Abhay! LOL
 

@ navy blue, true in some cases but there are men who actually change after marriage but thats a huge risk a girls take! its her and her luck!. 

@ bold i see, but yeah i know its the boys who goes and sees the girl  first!, what i meant that a girls family can propose too, like someone from the girls side start talking to the boys family about the rishta and then they can come  and see the girl! like Vivaah movie na!Wink

@ orange  we too have many arrange marriages, my parents was arrange marriage come intense love and how, Wink

you see my dad saw my mom like twice in a mall 20 years ago! and instantly it was love from his side, and then he didn't know who she was so he looked for her but at the time my mom was studying abroad but he kept on searching  till he found out and then he discovered they have some common family freind and voilla he proposed  to her,  my mom wasn't keen as she was still young and studying , but destiny has its own works,  somehow she agreed seeing him in the common friends house, after she met him and talked to him they clicked instantly  and got engaged and after two years they got married! and touchwood mashaAllah ,even after 20 years they are so much in love

  traditions are not that bad sometimes! as they keep your true essence and values! however when they are causing conflicts like in marriages then they should be changed,  i too blush when i see couple kissing each other even in movies i look down or away! and by kissing i mean that deep one and not the normal one as i can watch thatLOL( dont judge me by my bold writings regrading this)LOL
Wow, your parents love story is touching........I am amazed by your dad that he was so determined to find her and he finally did Wink not like other guys who see a girl and just forget about her afterwards.........like how guys are nowadays. But, they were meant to meet and they did!
Btw, it seems like your parents story is more of a love story at least from your dad's side. Wink And *touchwood* they remain like this happy and in love always.
 
My parents marriage was strictly arranged......lol. They did not know each other before marriage but, did get a chance to see and talk to each other before marriage. My parents told me that they were attracted to each other in their initial meeting and they had only a brief conversation before they said yes. Their love story started after their marriage. My mom tells me that it was very exciting becuz, they took their time to get to know each other and even though they were married, it was like teenagers talking with each other and falling in love, going to movies without the fear of their parents becuz, they were married and could chat and be with each other all the time. And I remember they told me that there were times when they couldn't wait to be off from their work so, that they can get home and see each other at home.....plan what they were going to do that day.......lol.
 
Their marriage is not only a inspiration to me but, to all my relatives, cousins and friends. They have such a deep understanding and love that I can't even describe it. *touchwood* I always pray that if I have a relationship with my husband it should be exactly like my parents. What's even more stranger is that they didn't even know each other prior to their marriage but, they got exactly what they wanted in each other, my mom wanted someone who doesn't drink, smoke, and is very sincere, and honest........and my dad has all the qualities she wanted. My dad wanted someone beautiful, understanding, caring, and intelligent, and he got just that!
 
I think its all part of one's luck. Becuz, I know one of my uncle who had an arrange marriage done a year later after my parents.' And his wife uses very foul language and is very demanding.......he is like a henpecked husband so, scared of her........lol (I know its mean that I am laughing.......but, its true you should see the way he calls her every minute everywhere he goes) If you ask him anything, he goes, "let me ask her first!" LOLAnd if tell him, "uncle, look she's right behind you........he'll panick with his face all red.......OMG!"  LOL
 
Though my own parents had arrange marriage...........I always tell them that they are just too lucky and in today's era its hard to get that. Times have changed, and I realize that its more important to know someone prior to marriage becuz, I have seen far too many worse cases of arrange marriages these days through my cuzins and friends becuz, people are getting more westernized and losing faith in the institution of marriage and have more independence and freedom to do whatever they want. Like you I respect values, traditions and I would want someone who share the same values as me.
 
I know many Indian guys will talk to me with respect knowing that I am a girl too smart for them and they will be all sweet and everything......their parents will shower them with praises exclaiming, "my son is a gem, there's no one like him!" And behind their parents' backs these same boys are drinking, sleeping around with so many women, and even doing drugs.
 
And about kissing, its okay. I am the same as you. Though, I've gotten more used to the kissing in public by seeing it all the time in high school and college and even here in, UK but, still I don't stare like my aunts do......lol like you I just look away or down becuz, its just uncomfortable for me to see another person's private moment even if they are doing it in public cuz, its like why would I want to see another person make out? It's different when seeing it on tv or movies but, its hella awkward when seeing someone in person make out in front of you.........lol
 
But, I admit even I do blush when watching it on tv or movies..........I guess its cuz, we understand its value more than people who think its just not a big deal and just some random kiss. Wink
 


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Wow, your parents love story is touching........I am amazed by your dad that he was so determined to find her and he finally did Wink not like other guys who see a girl and just forget about her afterwards.........like how guys are nowadays. But, they were meant to meet and they did!
Btw, it seems like your parents story is more of a love story at least from your dad's side. Wink And *touchwood* they remain like this happy and in love always.
 
My parents marriage was strictly arranged......lol. They did not know each other before marriage but, did get a chance to see and talk to each other before marriage. My parents told me that they were attracted to each other in their initial meeting and they had only a brief conversation before they said yes. Their love story started after their marriage. My mom tells me that it was very exciting becuz, they took their time to get to know each other and even though they were married, it was like teenagers talking with each other and falling in love, going to movies without the fear of their parents becuz, they were married and could chat and be with each other all the time. And I remember they told me that there were times when they couldn't wait to be off from their work so, that they can get home and see each other at home.....plan what they were going to do that day.......lol.
 
Their marriage is not only a inspiration to me but, to all my relatives, cousins and friends. They have such a deep understanding and love that I can't even describe it. *touchwood* I always pray that if I have a relationship with my husband it should be exactly like my parents. What's even more stranger is that they didn't even know each other prior to their marriage but, they got exactly what they wanted in each other, my mom wanted someone who doesn't drink, smoke, and is very sincere, and honest........and my dad has all the qualities she wanted. My dad wanted someone beautiful, understanding, caring, and intelligent, and he got just that!
 
I think its all part of one's luck. Becuz, I know one of my uncle who had an arrange marriage done a year later after my parents.' And his wife uses very foul language and is very demanding.......he is like a henpecked husband so, scared of her........lol (I know its mean that I am laughing.......but, its true you should see the way he calls her every minute everywhere he goes) If you ask him anything, he goes, "let me ask her first!" LOLAnd if tell him, "uncle, look she's right behind you........he'll panick with his face all red.......OMG!"  LOL
 
Though my own parents had arrange marriage...........I always tell them that they are just too lucky and in today's era its hard to get that. Times have changed, and I realize that its more important to know someone prior to marriage becuz, I have seen far too many worse cases of arrange marriages these days through my cuzins and friends becuz, people are getting more westernized and losing faith in the institution of marriage and have more independence and freedom to do whatever they want. Like you I respect values, traditions and I would want someone who share the same values as me.
 
I know many Indian guys will talk to me with respect knowing that I am a girl too smart for them and they will be all sweet and everything......their parents will shower them with praises exclaiming, "my son is a gem, there's no one like him!" And behind their parents' backs these same boys are drinking, sleeping around with so many women, and even doing drugs.
 
And about kissing, its okay. I am the same as you. Though, I've gotten more used to the kissing in public by seeing it all the time in high school and college and even here in, UK but, still I don't stare like my aunts do......lol like you I just look away or down becuz, its just uncomfortable for me to see another person's private moment even if they are doing it in public cuz, its like why would I want to see another person make out? It's different when seeing it on tv or movies but, its hella awkward when seeing someone in person make out in front of you.........lol
 
But, I admit even I do blush when watching it on tv or movies..........I guess its cuz, we understand its value more than people who think its just not a big deal and just some random kiss. Wink
 

@ bold you can say that againLOL sometimes my mom tells us about the cute things my dad used to do for her and we burst laughing, i mean he was madly in love, she loved him too but he was like head over heel! love them both

@ brown wow they were super cute!Embarrassed your parent are so adorable, loved how they tried to know each other well

@purple well  they are an inspiration for sure, and as you said when people are meant to be they are just meant to meet and be! it doesn't matter if  its love marriage or arranged, people do fall in love even after marriage! 

and sadly some love marriage fail because it wasn't  love  what they shared or maybe they were just wrong for each other  

@ green its not only luck, i think  for a marriage to work  the couple has to work hard for it to understand each others need and respect each other, and be  be compassionate and passionate! so yeah what your parent share is that and mine too

unfortunately  your uncle doesn't have that, as seems his wife is very dominant and she just wants to have her ways! poor man! 

@light blue, yeah i know what you mean, but sometimes as you mentioned some boys put an act! so! i think one should be careful and ask about the boy , as you said they can be quite good actors!

@orangeLOL some people have no shame, i mean how can they make out in front of people, sometimes even in planes yuck!

@ light greenEmbarrassedLOL so true dont understand  how can anyone just kiss anyone!! this is something so special and should be saved for someone very special!Embarrassed

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Wow, your parents love story is touching........I am amazed by your dad that he was so determined to find her and he finally did Wink not like other guys who see a girl and just forget about her afterwards.........like how guys are nowadays. But, they were meant to meet and they did!
Btw, it seems like your parents story is more of a love story at least from your dad's side. Wink And *touchwood* they remain like this happy and in love always.
 
My parents marriage was strictly arranged......lol. They did not know each other before marriage but, did get a chance to see and talk to each other before marriage. My parents told me that they were attracted to each other in their initial meeting and they had only a brief conversation before they said yes. Their love story started after their marriage. My mom tells me that it was very exciting becuz, they took their time to get to know each other and even though they were married, it was like teenagers talking with each other and falling in love, going to movies without the fear of their parents becuz, they were married and could chat and be with each other all the time. And I remember they told me that there were times when they couldn't wait to be off from their work so, that they can get home and see each other at home.....plan what they were going to do that day.......lol.
 
Their marriage is not only a inspiration to me but, to all my relatives, cousins and friends. They have such a deep understanding and love that I can't even describe it. *touchwood* I always pray that if I have a relationship with my husband it should be exactly like my parents. What's even more stranger is that they didn't even know each other prior to their marriage but, they got exactly what they wanted in each other, my mom wanted someone who doesn't drink, smoke, and is very sincere, and honest........and my dad has all the qualities she wanted. My dad wanted someone beautiful, understanding, caring, and intelligent, and he got just that!
 
I think its all part of one's luck. Becuz, I know one of my uncle who had an arrange marriage done a year later after my parents.' And his wife uses very foul language and is very demanding.......he is like a henpecked husband so, scared of her........lol (I know its mean that I am laughing.......but, its true you should see the way he calls her every minute everywhere he goes) If you ask him anything, he goes, "let me ask her first!" LOLAnd if tell him, "uncle, look she's right behind you........he'll panick with his face all red.......OMG!"  LOL
 
Though my own parents had arrange marriage...........I always tell them that they are just too lucky and in today's era its hard to get that. Times have changed, and I realize that its more important to know someone prior to marriage becuz, I have seen far too many worse cases of arrange marriages these days through my cuzins and friends becuz, people are getting more westernized and losing faith in the institution of marriage and have more independence and freedom to do whatever they want. Like you I respect values, traditions and I would want someone who share the same values as me.
 
I know many Indian guys will talk to me with respect knowing that I am a girl too smart for them and they will be all sweet and everything......their parents will shower them with praises exclaiming, "my son is a gem, there's no one like him!" And behind their parents' backs these same boys are drinking, sleeping around with so many women, and even doing drugs.
 
And about kissing, its okay. I am the same as you. Though, I've gotten more used to the kissing in public by seeing it all the time in high school and college and even here in, UK but, still I don't stare like my aunts do......lol like you I just look away or down becuz, its just uncomfortable for me to see another person's private moment even if they are doing it in public cuz, its like why would I want to see another person make out? It's different when seeing it on tv or movies but, its hella awkward when seeing someone in person make out in front of you.........lol
 
But, I admit even I do blush when watching it on tv or movies..........I guess its cuz, we understand its value more than people who think its just not a big deal and just some random kiss. Wink
 

@ bold you can say that againLOL sometimes my mom tells us about the cute things my dad used to do for her and we burst laughing, i mean he was madly in love, she loved him too but he was like head over heel! love them both

@ brown wow they were super cute!Embarrassed your parent are so adorable, loved how they tried to know each other well

@purple well  they are an inspiration for sure, and as you said when people are meant to be they are just meant to meet and be! it doesn't matter if  its love marriage or arranged, people do fall in love even after marriage! 

and sadly some love marriage fail because it wasn't  love  what they shared or maybe they were just wrong for each other  

@ green its not only luck, i think  for a marriage to work  the couple has to work hard for it to understand each others need and respect each other, and be  be compassionate and passionate! so yeah what your parent share is that and mine too

unfortunately  your uncle doesn't have that, as seems his wife is very dominant and she just wants to have her ways! poor man! 

@light blue, yeah i know what you mean, but sometimes as you mentioned some boys put an act! so! i think one should be careful and ask about the boy , as you said they can be quite good actors!

@orangeLOL some people have no shame, i mean how can they make out in front of people, sometimes even in planes yuck!

@ light greenEmbarrassedLOL so true dont understand  how can anyone just kiss anyone!! this is something so special and should be saved for someone very special!Embarrassed
Yep, I agree with everything you said. We share the same thoughts on so many things. WinkSmile

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pls pls pls plssssssssssss update this one na...........i m dying to read nxt part...........CryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCry 

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pls pls pls plssssssssssss update this one na...........i m dying to read nxt part...........Cry 

hey heenaBig smile..i will try to update it by evening as i have started writing it a bitSmile

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