Arwen: Every community has their own customs and traditions and they vary from region to region in India. For example, in my community we infact have only 4 pheras and not 7. 7 promises are recited but you go around the fire only 4 times😆. You can blame Yash Chopra for commercialization of weddings. The actual wedding is solemnized before the pheras begin. Kanyadan marks the completion of those set of rituals. I am guessing Punjabi customs should be similar to this.
I was not aware of not taking pheras because you are pregnant ritual- but then I do not anyone know who was pregnant when they got married sooooo😆
Then you have arya samaj weddings where I haven't seen any pheras happening either- but then the wedding will not be grand at all.The essence is the simplicity of the wedding.
I think the only key requirement is that fire be witness to the wedding- pheras are more about the promises and the understanding of patni dharma and pati dharma. Actually they are quite interesting- The wife actually has all the upside and very little of the downside😆
Edited by -pixie- - 13 years ago
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