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This will be a long post, friends, so apologies in advance.
There are 2 things being discussed- the actual scene itself (whether there is anything wrong in showing a woman remove her husband's shoes), and second, what it means in the larger context, of portraying women in Indian television.
A lot of you seem to think that we should see this as just a way to show Khanak's love for Shaan, and there is nothing wrong in what she did or what she said before that (about wife's duty to provide comfort for a tired husband).
No one can possibly say a wife should not provide comfort for her husband when he comes home tired. Marriage is to provide support and comfort for one another. It is perfectly o.k for Khanak to worry about her husband and his mental state (because his father is not supporting him). We saw Shaan worry about Khanak when Hetal and Mangal were around. That scene where he comes back from office to stop her from telling Hetal everything, and where he says 'no one will blame me. everyone will blame you only' was one of the best scenes shown in RBO.
Why do you think Shaan said that? Why would the society blame only a woman and not a man, in the event of a marriage collapsing? Because that is the reality. Shaan understood that. The writers of RBO told us of that reality through Shaan.
So it is only fair for us to ask what the writers are now trying to show. What do they want us to know when they make Khanak say these lines ? That Khanak and Shaan share tremendous love for each other? Sure. That is totally fine.
But there is something called symbolism. It's because of that symbolism, that in spite of repeated requests from us all to make Khanak wear sari again, she does not wear a sari. Because we are told that the channel believes that a sari-clad woman depicts a particular image, which they do not want to show. I have not seen any official statement from the channel on this issue. I only know what people have said in this forum. If i have got my facts wrong, I apologise sincerely. But until the channel shows Khanak in a sari again, I am going to have to rely on this idea that Star One heroines will not come in a sari.
Do any of you think there is something wrong in a woman wearing a sari?
We have never been shown Khanak observe fasts like Karva Chauth. Am sure a lot of women feel there is nothing wrong in a woman fasting for her husband's long life (though a husband would never do the same, except if he is Raj from DDLJ, LOL)...We have not been shown Khanak celebrate Navratri, which for a Gujarati is a major major festival.
If the channel has been so careful to preserve its image as a progressive, youth-focused one and has avoided showing certain realities of Indian family life (wife wearing sari, observing rituals, festivals, people going for weddings etc), then why has this scene been shown?
If it is to show the comfort level of Shaan and Khanak with each other, her removing his shoes, him saying no, and then lying on her lap, telling her about his past with Rahul, then it is fine...but, but, if it is to indicate to us viewers, that this is the kind of Khanak we will see from now on, may be the CVs can be upfront and tell us about that.
The title of the post is about the change in Khanak's character. Ofcourse Khanak will change after marriage, and after strengthening of her relationship with Shaan. None of us remain the same persons we were before marriage. I do not expect Khanak to be forever the girl who ate sweets when she was supposed to fast. But what kind of change?
Khanak will bring Shaan and Rahul together. Sure. That's what all heroines do in TV serials- make their husbands' / in-laws' lives better. They never seem to have a life of their own.
What made RBO different? Because Khanak was different.
Pls forgive me for a very long post.
There are 2 things being discussed- the actual scene itself (whether there is anything wrong in showing a woman remove her husband's shoes), and second, what it means in the larger context, of portraying women in Indian television.
A lot of you seem to think that we should see this as just a way to show Khanak's love for Shaan, and there is nothing wrong in what she did or what she said before that (about wife's duty to provide comfort for a tired husband).
No one can possibly say a wife should not provide comfort for her husband when he comes home tired. Marriage is to provide support and comfort for one another. It is perfectly o.k for Khanak to worry about her husband and his mental state (because his father is not supporting him). We saw Shaan worry about Khanak when Hetal and Mangal were around. That scene where he comes back from office to stop her from telling Hetal everything, and where he says 'no one will blame me. everyone will blame you only' was one of the best scenes shown in RBO.
Why do you think Shaan said that? Why would the society blame only a woman and not a man, in the event of a marriage collapsing? Because that is the reality. Shaan understood that. The writers of RBO told us of that reality through Shaan.
So it is only fair for us to ask what the writers are now trying to show. What do they want us to know when they make Khanak say these lines ? That Khanak and Shaan share tremendous love for each other? Sure. That is totally fine.
But there is something called symbolism. It's because of that symbolism, that in spite of repeated requests from us all to make Khanak wear sari again, she does not wear a sari. Because we are told that the channel believes that a sari-clad woman depicts a particular image, which they do not want to show. I have not seen any official statement from the channel on this issue. I only know what people have said in this forum. If i have got my facts wrong, I apologise sincerely. But until the channel shows Khanak in a sari again, I am going to have to rely on this idea that Star One heroines will not come in a sari.
Do any of you think there is something wrong in a woman wearing a sari?
We have never been shown Khanak observe fasts like Karva Chauth. Am sure a lot of women feel there is nothing wrong in a woman fasting for her husband's long life (though a husband would never do the same, except if he is Raj from DDLJ, LOL)...We have not been shown Khanak celebrate Navratri, which for a Gujarati is a major major festival.
If the channel has been so careful to preserve its image as a progressive, youth-focused one and has avoided showing certain realities of Indian family life (wife wearing sari, observing rituals, festivals, people going for weddings etc), then why has this scene been shown?
If it is to show the comfort level of Shaan and Khanak with each other, her removing his shoes, him saying no, and then lying on her lap, telling her about his past with Rahul, then it is fine...but, but, if it is to indicate to us viewers, that this is the kind of Khanak we will see from now on, may be the CVs can be upfront and tell us about that.
The title of the post is about the change in Khanak's character. Ofcourse Khanak will change after marriage, and after strengthening of her relationship with Shaan. None of us remain the same persons we were before marriage. I do not expect Khanak to be forever the girl who ate sweets when she was supposed to fast. But what kind of change?
Khanak will bring Shaan and Rahul together. Sure. That's what all heroines do in TV serials- make their husbands' / in-laws' lives better. They never seem to have a life of their own.
What made RBO different? Because Khanak was different.
Pls forgive me for a very long post.
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