Posted: 15 December 2010 at 10:23am | IP Logged
, I loved that scene.
Parents I feel do so much for us that we should at least from our end try not to hurt them. And it seems that all Rudra does is disappoint them. I am not saying that it is his fault completely because parents' neglect has led him to this point where their input is not as valuable to him but I do not regard Rudra highly for always trying to throw a jibe here or there at his parents which I am sure goes like arrows into their hearts and breaks it a little more than it has already been broken by seeing how unmanageable and heartbroken their own son at a juncture of his life that should have seen him living a happily living a married life.
If I had a son like Rudra...I think I would be very disappointed not because he married Gauri though that would be part of it but more because he never tried to look beyond my flaws as a parent. On parenting there is no how-to manual that can lead to handling correctly the situations of a child always
and also naturally there are some parents who are better than others. And Rudra's parents fall into the category of not-so-good parents.
But when all is said and done, they are still Rudra's parents and in their own ways I have seen them trying
to be better and be concerned about their son's welfare and they do
do things for him to the best of their capacity. Even Rudra's father, though he is foremost concerned about business, has his eyes moistened with regret when his own father reminds him that he has not done a good parenting job with his son.
And also, do you remember that scene where Rudra's father is simply staring at his picture and the people of the mansion behind him are trying to persuade him to allow Gauri into the home for the sake of a favorable court judgment? To me, that was a very powerful scene and one of the highlights of the show. Because it again proved that though Rudra's father cares very much for his son, the disappointment in his son is so high that it keeps him from bending. Rightly or wrongly, I think Rudra's father has written off Rudra as the prodigal son. And I would love to see Rudra heal this friction eventually by proving that he can be a responsible and mature man.
Moreover, I honestly believe that if Rudra sat down to think about his own flaws, perhaps he would be more forgiving and accepting of his past and his parents' flawed parenting that shaped that past. And that forgiveness if born from his heart might well provide the impetus for better and healthier outlook on his parents which might in turn improve his relationship with them.