long distance mariages/relationships (Page 2)

in my  opinion marriage is understanding each other feelings and trusting each other, if it not wrk properly.....smtime the result will be negtive....

will shed a million tears,

for just a smile from u,

I will giv a million years,

For just a moment with u...

Edited by Believe - 13 December 2005 at 11:46pm

long distance relationship can only work out if there is a best level of understanding between the two....................
by that I mean that it isn't easy to carry a long term relationship based on such distances.......Now sometimes it could be possible due to the fact that the long term may be only for couple of years or so.....


but even though how ever the case will be the two has to reach to a mature understanding that now that they are in a relationship there should be loyalty towards eachother...... more than that comes trust thats like a conformed promise to your loved one that I will be faithful......Now curcumstances are the mother of all situations,eg loneliness can create a stir in a relationship where one feels it is not justified..... or maybe need company,the other is temptations........ Nowthis definatley don't see the difference between the married or the single, so that is one thing that can break apart what the two had build together for years. It is amazing how some can be happy even being lonely desperate just surving holding on to the precious memories.

So maybe what Iam trying to say is could it be possible if you were in that shoes,could you survive?

from a womans point of view its very tough to be married and away form the husband.... the way other men treat u is very different than if u are single. and to top it all if a girl finds that hubby dearest or boyfriend/fiance has been making merry in her absence would be heartbreaking. so is it worth investing in such a potetnially disasterous relationship?

winiie the pooh .........you are right , i have mostly seen long distance relationships fade !!!!

Im sorry huni, I've had several friends tide over such a situation, some were smooth and others were not, a couple similar to the one you described, but they all made it. So Im optimistic.

I wonder why it is so hard for us to give a spouse the same level of commitment as we do to our parents and children. Why can one break away from this relationship, you cant divorce your parents or kids? So does marraige qualify as a lesser relationship?

wow! rindam that is so true. u r right. we never give up on our kids so why do we give up on our spouse with comparitive ease. i guess the problem is when one of the partners is less commited to the relationship than the other.

hmmmmmm right winne

perfecty said rindam...i just sent ur verbage to my husband..poor thing he is going to get some heavy dosage in early morning!!

However, I think people do turn away from their childern and their parents all the time. Its not rare. Have you seen all the old age people nursing homes and Vrudhhashram, even in india? Even teenagers turn away from their parents. In india we have seen parents turn away from their kids if they get married to person of their disliking. Its always easy to turn away rather than stay together. Some commit to their parents most, some to their spouse most, some to their childern most, but majority of people commit to themselves most, kind of egocentric, and thats the issue. If one treat others like one's own self then there is no problem at all!

Edited by bgdesai - 15 December 2005 at 8:40am