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Posted: 13 December 2005 at 11:46pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by winnie_pooh

can long distance marriages/relationships really work? does absence make the heart grow fonder or is it a case of out of sight out of mind?

in my  opinion marriage is understanding each other feelings and trusting each other, if it not wrk properly.....smtime the result will be negtive....

will shed a million tears,

for just a smile from u,

I will giv a million years,

For just a moment with u...Embarrassed



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from a womans point of view its very tough to be married and away form the husband.... the way other men treat u is very different than if u are single. and to top it all if a girl finds that hubby dearest or boyfriend/fiance has been making merry in her absence would be heartbreaking. so is it worth investing in such a potetnially disasterous relationship?
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Posted: 14 December 2005 at 8:46am | IP Logged
winiie the pooh .........you are right , i have mostly seen long distance relationships fade !!!! Unhappy
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Posted: 14 December 2005 at 1:07pm | IP Logged

Originally posted by winnie_pooh

wow such lot of varied view points. rindam..very balanced view! indygirl am glad and happy to hear u made it despite the odds!
but not everyone can manage.... i was shocked to know recently that my friends husband who is in Dubai was living in with a nurse working there and they even had a child... all this while this gentleman still made his once in 2 yrs visits home too! on the other hand my cousin and her hubby have been maintaining a 13yr marriage of which the last 8 yrs they have been apart... and every time they see each other they are like newlyweds.

that was what prompted me to start this topic.

Im sorry huni, I've had several friends tide over such a situation, some were smooth and others were not, a couple similar to the one you described, but they all made it. So Im optimistic.

I wonder why it is so hard for us to give a spouse the same level of commitment as we do to our parents and children. Why can one break away from this relationship, you cant divorce your parents or kids? So does marraige qualify as a lesser relationship?

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Posted: 14 December 2005 at 9:01pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Rindam

Originally posted by winnie_pooh

wow such lot of varied view points. rindam..very balanced view! indygirl am glad and happy to hear u made it despite the odds!
but not everyone can manage.... i was shocked to know recently that my friends husband who is in Dubai was living in with a nurse working there and they even had a child... all this while this gentleman still made his once in 2 yrs visits home too! on the other hand my cousin and her hubby have been maintaining a 13yr marriage of which the last 8 yrs they have been apart... and every time they see each other they are like newlyweds.

that was what prompted me to start this topic.

Im sorry huni, I've had several friends tide over such a situation, some were smooth and others were not, a couple similar to the one you described, but they all made it. So Im optimistic.

I wonder why it is so hard for us to give a spouse the same level of commitment as we do to our parents and children. Why can one break away from this relationship, you cant divorce your parents or kids? So does marraige qualify as a lesser relationship?




wow! rindam that is so true. u r right. we never give up on our kids so why do we give up on our spouse with comparitive ease. i guess the problem is when one of the partners is less commited to the relationship than the other.
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Posted: 15 December 2005 at 7:31am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Rindam


I wonder why it is so hard for us to givea spousethe same level of commitment as we do to our parents and children. Why can one break away from this relationship, you cant divorce your parents or kids? Sodoes marraige qualify asa lesser relationship?




Clap perfecty said rindam...i just sent ur verbage to my husband..poor thing he is going to get some heavy dosage in early morning!! Wink

However, I think people do turn away from their childern and their parents all the time. Its not rare. Have you seen all the old age people nursing homes and Vrudhhashram, even in india? Even teenagers turn away from their parents. In india we have seen parents turn away from their kids if they get married to person of their disliking. Its always easy to turn away rather than stay together. Some commit to their parents most, some to their spouse most, some to their childern most, but majority of people commit to themselves most, kind of egocentric, and thats the issue. If one treat others like one's own self then there is no problem at all!

Edited by bgdesai - 15 December 2005 at 8:40am

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