Posted: 07 October 2010 at 2:41am | IP Logged
Originally posted by xaviara
Originally posted by ding_dong
You got me wrong
(I know that you haven't replied to my post but still...).I would love to make an explaination in the casee of Ragvir but since it's a CCBM forum, I'm not allowed to do so....One thing I would like to state is that Sid-Nivi affair was pure and that which emerged from the core of their heart.It was their first love for both the individuals respectively...That love was pure and it was not for the sake of money, not at all....It is just misunderstandings that seperated them at this particular juncture....I am cent percent sure that when Sid realizes that he was mistaken he would definetely come back to Nivi to apologize for what he's done....But whether that time Sid would be married or not, we will have to wait and see....
It's not wrong if people would want a jodi together in this show since they were first shown to be truly in love with each other.If at all if someone is to be criticized, it is the creatives for making the story move in this manner......The new jodi which is gonna be formed can never be compared to Ragvir at all....Infact they can be compared to Veer-Iccha in Uttaran who fell in love with each other but ended up marrying someone else.If at all Sid marries Divya it will be a forced one which he does for the sake of his grandpa.He might have misunderstood Nivi, that doesn't means he hates her...It's clear from his expressions that he still loves her but it's the circumstances that drifted them apart....Till now they were just in love with each other.After trials and tribulations, may be they would realize how deeper they were in love with each other abnd may/maynot get together in the show but that's upto the CT's....
In the case of Ranvir and Sonia or Ragini and the guy who she was first engaged to, both these people were after Ragvir for money and that wasn't love at all....Infact when Shishir was going to get engaged to Ragini the second time, people gladly preferred to have Ranvir back in her life....It's the same that is happening here too....They portrayed a sweet relationship of Sid-Nivi and all of a sudden if they break their jodi people get frustrated and that's normal....Just my POV.No offence to anyone
No person is perfect in this world.Everyone have their own weak points...No individual is able to look deep into another prson's life to know if that person would turn out to be right or wrong.A life together with another person can only move foward with adjustments and sacrifices to an extent.But then if that person is someone, you yourself love, then it would be quite easy to adjust with that one....Otherwise in the heart's centre, there would be some great sorrow that would always complain that the marriage was not needed....
Beautiful post and some really great points raised by you !! I'm glad you replied to my post !!
I agree with you completely, Sid is a really nice guy, he is very loving and extremely caring, there never have been doubt about that, and when the truth comes out, if he and Nivi are still single and not committed to anyone, he will realize his mistake and ask for forgiveness !! Bur the question is not about Sid here, it is about Nivi, I'm sure with time she will forgive him, but she would never be able to trust him again, even if she still loves him I know and understand that more then anyone here !! Had Sid wronged her, she would never have had any problems with him, but he stood by and watched while his family wronged her dad !! Nivi could forgive him for that too, because he just found out about his dad and was in shock, but even after his shock wore off, he didn't for a single minute stopped and thought with his own mind and asked himself, why did his mom despite knowing the truth all these years still love and respect Keshav's family so much !! When she tried talking to him, tell him about Keshav innocence he wouldn't listen !!
So it is not about being perfect, or being made for each other, it is about the fact that he was easily swayed by the wrong people, and didn't stand by her !! When you are engaged to be married to a girl, you have as much duty to her as you have to your family !! The best example of this is his own dad ! If you remember the Sid's scene with Vandana, where she tells him about how his dad would have left his family and even his dada Sahib, whom he loved so much, if Dada Sahib refused to accept Vandana as his daughter in law !! Because his dad was a man of substance, and always stood up for what is right, regardless of what and who he had to stand up to, be it his father or his own brother !!
Nivi deserves a guy like that, not some one who is so easily swayed by his family !! Sid is a very decent guy, very responsible, very loving, but he is emotionally weak and does not have the inner strength to support and protect Nivi in the future. If Nivi is destined to be the daughter in law of the Sood family, then I would rather she is Viren's wife, because she will face the same trials and tribulations if married to either of them, but at least Viren is the sort who will search for the truth, if not for Nivi, at least for his Dada sahib, and when the time comes, go against his family and his own parents to restore his Dada sahib's faith in Keshav and his family and to restore Keshav's and Nivi's innocence !! You have to understand this is the basic character sketch of Sid's character, and his character will grow with time, but it will not change !! Trust and understanding is the base of any relationship ! Saying I love you or romancing a girl, cutting your hand, threatening to jump off a cliff isn't enough for any relationship ! A true lover is tested when you are going through the worst phase of your life and stands by you !!!
Also, everyone falls in love, but it is for only God to decide who is our true soul mate, and its not always that the first person we love is the one who was made for us !! Some times to test a true believer, God puts that believer through some very harsh tests and that sometimes include bring us closer to someone who is not our soul mate or made for us !! So that we can really appreciate our soul mate when we do learn to trust and love him !! I know that better then most people here, because I have gone through it and speaking from personal experience,
It is not wrong to love a jodi, I have done that too, but always been more attached to the female characters of any show, and then a jodi, because being a girl, I can understand her more because I can put myself in her shoes and think from her POV and her feelings !!!
....I really appreciate the way you saw the circumstances deeply
It's true that he didn't stand by her and was easily swayed by wrong people.But des that mean that he doesn't love her??? No right
....Yeah....it's true that he couldn't stand with her when a trial came to his life but somewhere in his heart he still prefer to get Nivi back in his life....Nivedita too, might be loving to clear off the misunderstandings but she's right now emerging as a strong woman , good enough to stand up for her family....First love is always precious and one can't just forget it like that
....True , God test his beloved children with trials but it's not always that a person gets successful only in the second time....God indeed has plans for us and thse plans are indeed higher that what one person think of....
But how can we say that Viren is a perfect character who would stand with Nivi if he gets along with her in future....As of now, he's an attitude character.....What if in future he misunderstands Nivedita....How can we say that he would succed all the trials and be a good life partner to her???? It all depends on creatives....If they want a person to be good he'll be good however wrong he has committed....Similar is the case if the want smeone to be bad....Even if how well he/she is portrayed that person would ultimately turn wrong
About Sid, he's definetely under some dilemma after hearing the fact about his father's death....Sometimes, when we realize some harsh realities by a wrong person, we might not react in a proper manner as is needed to be....It's normal human behaviour and that's only what happened with Sid.When he saw Nivedita standing up for a wrong cause(which he thinks is wrong) though it is for her family, he could not have tolerated that....Afterall, in such situations we expect our dear ones to stand with us, atleast not go against us....Same things have happened here also....Nivedita was true but he was not in a condition to recognize that it was true.....When he realizes the truth, definetely, he would come back to her....
As I've told already, life is full of adjustments....There are weak points in everyone...The fact is how much we are able to adjust and lead a successfull life...Just my POV
...I'm a woman too, but the fact it I look at both the sides before coming to a descission....
Edited by ding_dong - 07 October 2010 at 2:53am