This is so true!
The whole mentality of marriage is changing. Before it people were committed to make a life long decision to make it work, not it's not thought of that way.
The mentality is "I'll give it a try, and if it doesn't work I'll find something else or someone else"
I think marriage is not so much about love, but about understand, patience, respect, communitcation, and tolerance.
In the beginning people love the whole romance in a marriage and figure that's all they need, until reality sets in.
It's funny because, may be i'm clueless and whatever I mentioned about was wrong, because I'm single. I've learned all this from my friends who have gotten married and are going through this. I have had friends who have know and loved each other for 10 year, but still can't be together.
Now, I'm dying to get married, I choose to be married through an arrange proposal since I have grown to believe that it's not the love that matters initially, but how mature and understanding the couple is. If two people what to make a relationship work, then nothing can prevent them from making a marriage successful.
Just my thoughts!
Discussion of the week
DIVORCES/SINGLE PARENTHOOD.......WHY THE SUDDEN INCREASE?
Recent surveys show that there has been a exponential increase in divorces, especially in family oriented societies like INDIA and MIDEAST. what do you think are the reasons of this increase, is it assertion of feminine power, changing lifestyle which is becoming more individualistic ,or simply more materialistic desires.what do you think will be the future impact of this on the society(surveys show that the offsprings of a broken marraige have higher incidence of having unsucessful relationships in thier own lives)
I believe following are some of the reasons for increase in divorcesโฆ.
The first and foremost is drastic fall in the tolerance levels, we are becoming more and more intolerant, and in couples also most of the small arguments ends up in fights, and this fights are breeding ground for separation.
Value System: in earlier times due to joint families, the value systems was not only intact but was practiced on daily basis as matter of routine, and their was emotional support system in place, today due to various factors people choose to stay alone and most of the times both the couples are working and hence the child is also left to care of baby sitter or nanny, hence the values are no more cherished or practiced.
Independence: In today world where both husband and wife are working, they are financially independent, this makes them feel that they can manage any situation and do not mind the drastic step of separation even when the things can be solved amicably.
Edited by Willows - 18 years agohard hitting statement ๐but true๐,i totally agree with you for some people breaking off is as easy and for some one even the thought is shivering, i also agree with the expiry date, today the relationship are not long lasting due to various factors as already discussed by all of above.
Edited by Willows - 18 years ago