Joined: 06 September 2004
Well Divorces are the last options in most of the cases..
One thing people should know is...who is most affected here...the kids...so they have to think and compromise or get a consultation. It is never so disrepectful or they will not fall down by that approach.
It is mainly because they do not have trust, faith or love or communication.
Communication is so important in any relationship. People should speak and both the person's should be willing to speak.
Many times grown ups act more kiddish than kids. Their stubborness is so tough that it is hard to convince them. Kids are eay to mould...elders are not...they think they know everything. That is where the problem lies..
Well if you are getting a divorce then I should say...you don't know few things and that is what caused the failure.
It is really sad that this happens. Couples are individuals and they should realize that they both have different personalities and not pose rules on each other...let things out and work out what are likes and dislikes.
Divorces in india and other countries are getting more common because now the women are getting to be more independent and also getting the support from their family to fight back insensitivity. Ofcourse it is the last solution again. Most of the parents will always say..we have to adjust and we have to bow and compromise...but to a limit..and then when it goes beyond that..the relation breaks.
Respect is very important in any relation. if u do not respect your spouse then the relation will not stand long if the other person is strong. If the other person is week then we can see social tortures...
Divorces are due to communication gap and not having faith, respect and love.
Joined: 20 May 2004
Joined: 06 September 2004
Yes that seems to be one good reason too. Sometimes husband is so protective about their family...they have so much of tough time in taking women as part of their family too....come on...women have left her parents for you...they should grow up.
I remember I had an alliance when I was in India. The guy was an NRI and a really ABCD...he was so like.."what ever my mom says"...just imagine...I am meeting this guy for the first time and he is just behind his mom all the time...god knows what will happen...after marriage...you got be kidding me...that was my thought...
I told this straight ahead to my parents and they laughed at me for this...they knew I was right and supported me.
Joined: 20 September 2004
smisha!! I know exactly what u mean.
You girls have put all the reasons.But I feel the biggest reason in the increase is that now the give and take factor have decreased to a great extent.'I'll have my way always' is the worst thing that can happen in a marriage.
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ur absolutely righte bluepink
i think divorces are the best solution, but one should keep it as a last resort..
its always better to try and sort out whatever the problems.
Children if any, will grow and wonder always whether everything possible was done to prevent this drastic step.
then again, if everything is done and still the couple can't stand each other, or can't compromise is it correct to stay together?..live a lie.?..maybe some can manage it..But i can't even imagine.
Joined: 19 November 2004
to me i agree with all of u. but what i like to say here is preety much what the luvya4ever says.............
well it depends...just not to be divorced u can't go on living in a relationship in which u r not comfortable...in some cases it is the only option left...u have to see the issues at hand in the couple...but divorce is a big thing for the kids...the worst part is the back n forth between the dad's house n mom's house...its like u have no home but its atleast better than seeing fights under the same roof every single night...but sometimes therapy is an option...u should atleast try to save the marriage...there has to be a compromise somewhere before u reach that stage but when parents divorce they should talk to the kids too or atleast think about them...in almost all divorce cases the kids suffer a lot...i am not saying that its bad or its good but they should think about everyone it will effect before making the decision........
cause i also agree on this. its affect on kids life for ever. which can be woest night mare in their lives .
just my 2 cents.
Increase in Divorces in Indian Culture
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