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Why I am on Ahem's side... (Page 3)

saomom IF-Rockerz

Joined: 17 July 2010
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Posted: 20 August 2010 at 1:46am | IP Logged
Sesky, I like your style! What a great discussion. Thanks for showing us your POV on Ahem. I personally think, like Shelley, that he's fighting his feelings for Gopi. I can only imagine what it would be like to have an arranged marriage, let alone a marriage to someone who cries all the time! He's not perfect and neither is she. Somehow, they need to mature enough to meet in the middle.

Favorite comments from your post:

1. I also agree that there are values other than education, clearly, that make a person. Infact, I would never suggest that educated people='good' peopLE. That's preposterous, I mean, just look at the worlds leaders....


2. When you're lumped with someone who's basically the antithesis of verything you'd have looked for ina life partner, and then on top of that the life partner doesn't exactly mke things easier by proving the contrary, that she does have something to offer, and instead is basically a monotone, cookibg, cleaning machine on autoplay, then I can understand.

This baffled me too. Yes, she's pretty and demure. That's two pluses. She cries non stop. That's 10 gajillion minuses. :)

3. I fully expect Ahem to 'magically' fall in love with Gopi, and for the show to vindicate that yes, Gopi, being the perfect bharatiya naari of self sacrifice was the victim all along, and big bad Ahem was the villain all along for not recognizing the 'gem' he had right infront of her.

Why is it that we all like to tie everything up into nice, neat little packages? Real life sometimes sucks! I guess that's why we watch the show. It's an escape mechanism from our real lives.

At any rate, I've enjoyed this discussion and would love to hear more members' points of view on this...

Edited by saomom - 20 August 2010 at 1:55am

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Kasturilover Senior Member

Joined: 17 March 2009
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Posted: 20 August 2010 at 3:19am | IP Logged
Thank you thank you,
This is one of the most relevant posts I have read here.
I do not support Ahem. Period.
But puleaze can a woman above 18 year not know that electronic equipments cannot be washed. And I don't accept the argument that she never saw a laptop. Does she wash television sets or mobile phones or even desk phone instruments in the house!!
I cannot fathom Gopi's characterisation. Simplicity and innocence can be shown even without turning someone into a caricature, which Gopi is.
And frankly Seeing Gopi, I doubt Koki's so called intelligence for wanting Gopi as a daughter in law.
And while we are at it....the actress playing Gopi is overwhelmingly inept at acting!!!. (No bashing please, this is just my view).
Ahem may be chauvinistic....but lets give him a break. Imagine one of us getting married to somone like Gopi.....oops!!

Edited by Kasturilover - 20 August 2010 at 3:20am

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taral83 IF-Dazzler

Joined: 20 August 2006
Posts: 3592

Posted: 20 August 2010 at 8:04am | IP Logged
bottom line is that from day one Ahem has shown cold vibes to Gopi, already creating a weak foundation. Ahem did have a choice on marrying, but he had to go against his mothers will. Understandable, if he had said fine mom I wont marry Anita, but don't force me to marry someone else. He didn't question on once on who and how the girl is, all he kept saying was "apki pasand mere pasand" me that is his mistake for not looking into it. If he is so against uneducated people, y didn't he make sure the girl was to his standards at least? That is where he is wrong. I personally don't know why he hates her besides the fact that she is uneducated. All the mistakes that were done prior to the laptop situation, Gopi did them because she wanted to leave the house so he can be happy and the Modi name won't be tarnished. I am not defending Gopi for stupid mistakes like the lap top and also the Cooker Kand. Those where her own fault. So they both are at fault but Ahem just a bit more because of his behavior. There is not excuse for it. He is a grown man with his own opinion that he has no guts on stating if it differs from his mothers wish.........whos problem is that???? His.

Edited by taral83 - 20 August 2010 at 9:14am

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sesky Groupbie

Joined: 21 February 2005
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Posted: 21 August 2010 at 3:07am | IP Logged
Sesky, I like your style! What a great discussion. Thanks for showing us your POV on Ahem.
Thankyou saomom. Smile And great to hear your feedback as well!
I wish I could say that I saw any inkling of affection or growing attraction from Ahem towards Gopi, but at this point in time, I just don't see any signs of it at all. For me, the pride&prejudice analogy doesn't work, because in their case, both Lizzy and Darcy, while outwardly bothered by the other, were at the same time very challenged by each other as well and the underlying attraction or atleast basis for it was certainly there. Especially for Darcy, in that he had never quite met a women like Lizzy who not only had grown on him look wise, but had challenged his mind and wit and kept him on his toes the way she had. For him, it was her apparently low financial/social station in life that botheredf hin, not Lizzy as a person.
But, like I said earlier, this is an indian soap with a certain formula to follow, lol. So I'm sure and soon, all our lovely Gopi/Ahem 'shippers here will get their wish. I agree with you that not everything always has to be neatly tied up, but there you have it, lol!
My only hope/wish would be that the eventual romance isn't done at the expense of either character, and that they both retain/gain self dignity - i.e. that Ahem isn't completely villified as the villain who eventually saw the error of his ways, and Gopi vindicated as the ultimate angel. In an ideal situation, both should be shown on a learning curve - Gopi most of all, in my opinion, asshe seriously needs to get her act together. And Ahem, eventually learning a little humbleness and accepting the new Gopi, if and when she should change herself.
But again, like I said, I have very little hopes of it actually turning out this way, lol.
Thank you thank you,
This is one of the most relevant posts I have read here.
Thanks kasturilover. Smile I don't think it's bashing to politely state your opinion regarding an actors performance - after all, we don't always agree on who is and isn't good at acting. For the record, I think most of the young actors on this show are currently quite weak, but they are also all new. So hopefully, they will learn and improve. The actors playing Ahem and Jigar already have, in my opinion.
Oh, also, I agree with you in doubting Koki's so called foresight in choosing a bahu. What was she thinking?
surfgal Senior Member

Joined: 26 September 2006
Posts: 709

Posted: 21 August 2010 at 8:42am | IP Logged
agree gopi's character is dusgusting ..crying and weeping and doing everyhting wrong ..if I was ahem I would be disgusted and leave the marraige too
cimba IF-Dazzler

Joined: 04 July 2005
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Posted: 22 August 2010 at 10:07pm | IP Logged
Aham  an educated and successful man is married to illiterate  dummy.... How sad for a man !!! This is his entire life  that he has to deal with Gopi. Cry Do you blame him that he did not want to introduce Gopi as his wife in front of some guests??? Gopi is the same girl who  washes laptop with soap and water. Come on...... don't forget she hung it on a cloth line to dry .......  I would be ashamed to be caught in public with her..  How can she possibly not understand Rash's plans. Gopi's character is an insult to our common sense. Can some one be this stupid and be married to a decent guy????

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