Originally posted by azfeeIt's true that love and infatuation is differentiated by a thin line.
You see, what is the difference in our activities when we are in love and when we are infatuated? Not much. We act same way when we are infatuated just as same as when we are in love.
According to my POV, infatuation is just an excuse. It's normal that we fall in love with someone in our school or college. We wallow up when they say no to us. Later after we grew up, we think of it and feel relieved that they haven't accepted our love. Why so? Just because it's safe for us that we weren't in love before.
What happens if he agrees? We go out in that small age itself, obviously get spoiled and will result in love failure.
So, when does a love changes to infatuation? only after he ignores us and only after we fell that it's better be not in love with him? That's just justifying our acts...
There are girls who love whoever guys they find on road. If they later say all their previous datings are just infatuation, do we agree? certainly, not.
Therefore, Infatuation is just an excuse to hide our love for them so that the upcoming love of our life don't feel guilty about our past.
I agree with you, and at the same time, I disagree with you. Especially the line in bold, I do not agree with. Yes, love and infatuation is practically the same, the barrier between the two is very thin. But, I don't agree that all infatuation is just an excuse, that it's ultimately love. Are bodies are made in a way where we feel physically and emotionally- I believe love is more emotional, a feeling that can never leave you, and infatuation is more physical attraction, a naive feeling that we are stubborn to fulfil.
I don't believe that you'd try to mask love from the person you love. Certainly love is more open and honest than that. And, I think a person is smart enough to know whether they feel love or infatuation.
If I was to get a partner in the future, I don't think I'd feel guilty that I had feelings for a boy in school, or try to hide it from him. I would definitely not lie to myself about my feelings. I'd prefer being open- because that it what love is about- it's about being free, sharing everything with the person you love. Like Anurag would share everything with Taani, would he really share that much with the Nupur girl? I don't think so.
I don't feel guilty about my infatuation, I feel like I was naive- I mean how old was I then- from 13/14 years? Is that really an age to fully understand or fully experience love, with all it's characteristics- I don't think so. Plus, if a person has been rejected by that person, has not even got to know them, just loves them by staring at them- how can that be love? When we know nothing about that person, their characteristics and facets, how can that be love rather than infatuation?
Isn't love more deeper, where you delve deep into another person's habits, and accept them, despite some of them being annoying?
And I also believe a girl cannot love every single guy she dates or fancies- so infatuation does come into the picture, it is existant and not always an excuse to mask love. I know all this may not really be related to the show, but I wanted to share that.
That's my take on things. I hope it's not confusing.
Love Zahra x
Edited by Pyari_Zahra - 18 August 2010 at 3:54pm