||~*~DOTW :Infatuation stronger than Love?~*~||

hey frends....

Sorry I kind of wrote an essay :

 

Interesting subject - When infatuated, a person gets completely carried away by a feeling a 'love'. They begin to feel almost addicted to this feeling, as it gives them satisfaction. In their immaturity regarding the notion of love, they are unable to see the difference between infatuation and love. Thus, they begin interpreting their feelings as love.

 

With Anurag, I guess he may feel the need to hold on to the feeling he gets when he is with Nupur- maybe he is lonely, and her presence seems to fill the gap in his life. Naturally it is easy for him to assume that it is love. The line between infatuation and love is so thin that it is easy to get carried away and believe one is the other.

 

When I was in school I was 'in love' with a boy  (He didn't 'love' me back, which now I am so glad for ). He was always in my dreams, I would always long to see him at school . I would gather pictures of him, would always try to take my friends to the places in school where he would be with his friends . Of course, people would say it was a crush, an obsession, an infatuation . I agree- but at the time I felt I was in love . I cried when I imagined not being with him- the feeling was so strong it overpowered me . Yet I now look back and realise it was just an infatuation. I was liberated from the feeling of what I saw as 'love' when school finished and we both went our separate ways. When I began to completely forget about him, the dreams started fading, I realised it was nothing more than an infatuation- I feel so stupid when I look back at it now .

 

See, this is one of the differences between love and infatuation. Infatuation is very short-lived, but when we experience it, it feels like the most amazing feeling in the world. Love happens when we fully understand it- when we develop the maturity to comprehend all aspects of it- the commitment, as well as passion, etc. So maybe, Anurag has not completely understood what love is all about, he hasn't the ability to completely recognize it, as he is being sort of thrust into a new environment, with new people, and is thus adapting to it and welcoming the support that he gets from the girl .

 

It's extremely difficult to distinguish between love and infatuation. Maybe this is why some marriages fail, because people marry in the state of infatuation and later realise they don't love each other? I guess when you're infatuated you think about the other person all the time, as your obsession and liking for that person overpowers every emotion. On the other hand, love is more free, and without any fears- you accept a person despite all their faults, share your own faults, and are more open and committed to each other, purely just to have that person by your side forever .

 

That's all I can say, really. I certainly do not think infatuation is stronger than love, because infatuation isn't a strong foundation to start a relationship on, it is weak and temporary. Love is what stands out in the end, and this is what Anurag will learn eventually. About long distant relationships, it depends, some relationships work despite the distance, and others don't. If you're really truly in love, then even a long-distance relationship cannot create a hindrance in your love. These kinds of little things should not really be of importance when you love that person .

 

Edited by Pyari_Zahra - 16 August 2010 at 11:40am

thanx a lot zahra for replying...

Edited by -vandy- - 18 August 2010 at 4:23am

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wow...a new dimension to infatuation altogether...

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Edited by Pyari_Zahra - 18 August 2010 at 3:54pm

We humans have a 'replacement complex' in our minds. Had a fight with best friend? Hang out with someone else. Wishing that your friend's mother was yours too just because she allows her daughter or son to do stuff that you are not allowed to? been there, done that.

In the same way, a lonely Anurag subconsciously searched for someone who would fill that gaping hole in his heart caused by separation from Taani. And he found this in Neha(or nupur, whoever basu's daughter is.) And let's face it, he's a guy. If he wouldn't get attracted to someone, well maybe something's tedha about him, if you get what i mean.

The main reason why long distance relationships don't work is because people form a prejudice for it in their minds even before it begins. Thinking about the miles between them makes them depressed. So they convince themselves that as long as the person they love is not there, they might as well as find someone else. So Anurag convinced himself that with the broken rishta, all the ties between him and Taani were broken, so he might as well as accept that they will never be together so though he consciously did not wish for it, in his heart he just wanted someone to love him the way Taani did.

But when it comes back to square one, he will be in a muddle-his past or his present? And that will be the true test of his love. When that point comes(or rather that episode airs ), we will all come to know whether his infatuation will triumph over his love.

Infatuation is merely attraction, not true love. If he truly loved that mystery girl in the car(who we will hopefully see and analyse today), what about all those sequences with Taani, where he goes to her to a dargah, a hilltop(i love hills...they are so romantic!), that boat sequence where he lies in her lap and tells her his dreams...does that happen in infatuation? And when he was getting engaged, why that morose look on his face? Cynical people may say that it was simply guilt, but to me it was regret. A regret that finally led him out to scream 'Taani!' and eventually drove him crazy.