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Posted: 05 August 2010 at 3:03pm | IP Logged
Okay, so my parents don't allow me to have a boyfriend ever  (arranged marriage) , but i dont want to be in an arranged marriage, and i want to date and go through the stuff all of my american friends go through.
so i have a boyfriend, but ive kept him a secret, but how do i tell my parents this?

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Posted: 05 August 2010 at 3:53pm | IP Logged

Oooh am nt sure abt his coz am rubbish at giving advice lol

If ur an asian, then u can try asking the guy to ask his parents to come and talk to somebody from ur family and just never let ur parents know that this guy is really ur bf.. I mean if his family comes and talks to ur parents and never mentions about love or anything then it would be just like arranged marriage.
 
Or you can just try to make ur parents understand that u really love him and hez a nice guy nd wil keep u happy and stuff.. But I dnt think telling your parents is gonna help, im nt trying to scare u or anything but it can make thingz worse sometimes.
 
 
 


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Posted: 05 August 2010 at 6:21pm | IP Logged
k so one thing is clear that ur parents dnt want u to have a boyfriend..but are they okay with u keeping contact with guy friends...ex: r u allowed to invite guys for parties inwhich u invite ur girl friends!
if so yeh, introduce him as ur friend 1st.....give a chance to ur family to know him...and slowly introduce his family to yourz....let em' become good friends...after awhile...slowly when u think its the right time...tell ur mom first...and see her reaction....
 
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Posted: 05 August 2010 at 7:13pm | IP Logged
Umm I had that same problem so i think I might help!

Okay so first you have know if the guy is worth putting your parents threw something like this and if he is then you talk to the parent your mostly close to, Like MOM talk to her&try to explain how you feel, so from there the story starts to take place.

Also a little crying action never hurts. :P

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Posted: 06 August 2010 at 2:02am | IP Logged
   honestly tell ur mom abt him... i m sure she'll understand ur situation .. don't hide anything from ur parents.. love is love but parents come first so... ...
   

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Posted: 06 August 2010 at 3:42am | IP Logged
I don't understand why people settle abroad if they have to behave so typically there too! NO OFFENSE

Girl, being your parents, they are just trying to protect you. (Which I don't know why!) But anyway, they are your parents and whatever they do, is for your own good. Smile

Need not tell them NOW, try and help them understand what you feel about the whole arranged marriage thing first. Once, you succeed in convincing them, you may as well make them meet your boyfriend.

Such things shouldn't be done in haste. Changing an INDIAN set of parent's mindset is mighty difficult. Good luck! Thumbs Up

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Posted: 09 August 2010 at 1:03pm | IP Logged
solving this situation only gets easier as you get older..if you are young then you have every right to experience such things because honestly parents are hypocrites..they were young once and they had friends of the opposite sex..maybe not boyfriends or girlfriends but they probably hung out or talked to guys/girls so isolating you from that isn't right
i wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend but i was with my bf for 6 years until we told my parents and we got engaged once our parents approved and now we're married so trust me it will work out for u

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