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) Why and how; neither I knew nor did I care! The following 2 member(s) liked the above post:
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Spare the rod and spoil the child and adolescent too, if the going on in DM at present is any indication.
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Not sure, I get your question completely.
Adolescents should be treated like adolescents. Teenagers are no longer children and cannot be coddled, protected, and watched over constantly like young children. They are old enough to be left alone and trusted to a certain extent. This is the time where they have to venture out, make their own mistakes and learn from them.
At the same time, they are not adults. They do not have the maturity, experience and frame of mind to act like responsible adults. There is a lot of peer pressure positive as well as negative. The mind also is more malleable and succumbs to influences, positive as well as negative, more easily. In that sense they constantly need to be reminded, advised, reprimanded and punished to lead them in the right direction.
Recollecting my teenage years, I never appreciated it when my parents or teachers even advised me against something or told me what to do. I found them intrusive and overbearing. However, now that I look back; I'm honestly glad for everything they did – for every time they let me be myself as well as for every time they held me back and made me upset. It was all worth it, and they did the right things.
Got to agree with Crazy Sunny here too, spare the rod and spoil the child. People are getting too soft on their children.
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epiphany.
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Not sure, I get your question completely.
I'm glad. 
Adolescents should be treated like adolescents. Teenagers
are no longer children and cannot be coddled, protected, and watched over
constantly like young children. They are old enough to be left alone and
trusted to a certain extent. This is the time where they have to venture out,
make their own mistakes and learn from them.
Aah, this is one more problem I kind of forgot mentioning! Trust is what a teenager needs but some parents don't trust their children and children who cross their limits are one of those! The ones who are kept an eye on 24x7 are the ones who are spoiled! 
At the same time, they are not adults. They do not have the
maturity, experience and frame of mind to act like responsible adults. There is
a lot of peer pressure positive as well as negative. The mind also is more
malleable and succumbs to influences, positive as well as negative, more
easily. In that sense they constantly need to be reminded, advised, reprimanded
and punished to lead them in the right direction.
Punishing becomes necessary in some situations, I admit and I do get punished. To be honest, I like it. My mother keeps shouting all day on baseless grounds, my dad doesn't have much time for me but they to me are the perfect parents! Everybody has his/her flaws. I respect them for what they do, whatsoever.
Recollecting my teenage years, I never appreciated it when
my parents or teachers even advised me against something or told me what to do.
I found them intrusive and overbearing. However, now that I look back; I'm
honestly glad for everything they did ' for every time they let me be myself as
well as for every time they held me back and made me upset. It was all worth
it, and they did the right things.
NOBODY likes being advised. But we all fail to understand the importance of being guided. After I and my mother are finished fighting for the day, I realize whatever she said may not make complete sense and the fact that she was literally squealing, still she was right and I was wrong! And then I go, apologize. Almost everyday!
Got to agree with Crazy Sunny here too, spare the rod and
spoil the child. People are getting too soft on their children.
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epiphany.
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