Originally posted by -Maahii-
Originally posted by koolsadhu1000Kool commenting in brief on Vaishu's wedding , after a long long time guys.
Manju was being bitchy .She is getting on my nerves .She has been tremendously arrogant since she set foot in post leap . Archna has NOT given her an effective blasting , todays was not enough . Archna STILL placates her , we saw the last two episodes . And Archna STILL looks after her kids like an ayah .I was maha irritated to see Archna happily with that Ruchi all the time .I understand its her brothers daughter but ...........why cudnt Archna dance on the stage ? She is a young gal .Its Punni all over again ........Archna looked after Punni like an ayah and that mentality has not gone yet . Serving Manju is her forte and its disgusting .She cud have lifted Ruchi , pampered her and given her to Manju and join dancing on stage . Why this placatory attitude to Manju ? Im FED UP . Initially Archu did it as she was in the house , not highly educated so she didnt have spirit of her sisters , coz she constant looked at her bro's face as they didnt want him to seperate .But Now all those reasons have GONE . Bro has seperated anyways so reason of tolerating Manju for bro has gone .........She has better job than Manju and is financially independent . so why tolerate Manju's bitchiness anymore ? She defended Manav today , I admit but it needs to be MORE SHARP . The way she lashed out at Rasika .I wanna see FEAR in Manjus eyes when she talks to Archu .........Manju is being bluntly bitchy .
Its the first time I've read your commentary & the following discussion and its a great insight!

Most of the points are extremely sensible.
I have an issue with a rather minor point you raised : abt Archana acting like an Ayah to Vinod's children and Manju taking unfair advantage of her.
What you say is correct, Manju is shunning her responsibiliy, Archana is being nice to Manju (by caring for her children) who behaves very badly with her and does not deserve such treatment from Archana.
However, I feel that Archana takes care of Punni & Ruchi simply because she feels pity abt the children with a 'bad' mother. Understood that Manju & Archana don't see eye to eye, but Archana still wants to be there fr her children because she cares about them (on humanitarian gronds and also becuz they're her nieces). And in this case, I feel that she is doing the correct thing, because neglect can be very difficult, painful and harmful for children. I feel that the welfare of the children is greater than the dislike harbored for / un-deservingness of Manju.
And this is actually what makes me admire Archana, for her ability to see that the childrens' welfare is of greater importance than sorting her personal equation with Manju. Even if she does act like an "ayah", what is wrong? [Especially if you meant ayah in a derogatory way] I am sure that the children will grow up appreciating her, and even otherwise, she is still accumulating merits in life in that sense.
Having said that, this issue is rather subjective, so your opinion is completely respected!

Thanks for replying , a very well thought out response .
Now for the ayah part . Loving children is fine , looking after a bros kid is fine too ..................but letting sumone take you for granted is NOT fine . Manju did NOt look after Punni .Archu did . But what is the real fact ?That Manju has more right over Punni anyday than Archu and when moment came she just walked off with her . Archu just stared .Archu had been royally used for her free babysitting services , preparing Manju's tiffin every morning , making Manjus bed and what not like a SERVANT , encouraged NOt to have a life of her own by her mom who seemed fINE pampering her daughter in law , not to have ANY identity of her own . Loving Ur brothers kids is fine but if ur bhabhi takes u for granted , one must draw the line and NOT offer free services .
As Far as Punni Ruchi being neglected goes , One cant do anything about it , they r after all their mothers daughters......btw I dont see Manju as a negliegient mom .She saves for Punnis future and seems to want the best for her all the time .She is selfish , but like Rasika , loves her own offsprings . May be not ASSSS perfect as Archu .
About accumalating merits ..........just for that , one cannot allow himself to be used all the time .
Granted it was just a marraige , and people lift babies etc ...............my point is , she is a young gal , instead of dancing with other youngsters why is she wearing elbow length blouses and STILL being a nanny to Manjus children ? Go up and dance , enjoy .Give the baby a kiss , hold him for two minutes and MOVE ON ........others will manage .