Originally posted by Mister.K.
if i am in marketing or sales, timid is a no-no.
otherwise, most times, you should let your work do the talking for you.
socially, you would find certain sections disliking the talkative while certain other sections digging it. it could go both ways. regardless, the ones who are around you are those who like you for what you are so it's best not to change your innate personality just to get accepted socially.
I'm an anomaly in that aspect. I'm one of the most quietest most introverted reserved people out there. I've always kept to myself, preferred to curl up with a book or nowadays a CPU than indulge in socialization. In fact most of the time I prefer to be alone.
However, I've always said introverted does not really mean shy or awkward. If need be I am very comfortable in socializing with people. Especially when it comes to work which involves customer service and interaction, I can open up and talk with ease. I've had outgoing social people in the workplace freeze up or get flustered with presentations etc, but I can stand on a stage and talk about a dot for an hour if need be.
I've always been mistaken to be shy or pretentious by most people since I never start conversations or reach out to people. I always wait till someone else approaches me. Although, those people who do approach me and end up knowing me often find me to be a very easy going, likeable, funny person. Definitely not the life of the party or something, but someone who is really sociable and likeable that its almost impossible for them to perceive me as being shy or introverted in any way.
My sister once summed it up best when she said "You know all my life I thought you were shy and introverted. But that is not the case. All my friends like you. In fact some like you more than me now. I think you are just an arse who does not like people" . It sounds bad, but I do have an aversion to people. Its not that I don't like people at all. I'm a very walled up person. And only those who care and find ways to break them down are worth my attention. The ones who break into the inner sanctum will receive my unconditional love and devotion.
So far its worked out well. I see no harm in being quiet or reserved. Most people are overrated anyways.